They clearly stop talking to the mistress because they feel the need to get closer to their wives & make up for it. Even though they shouldn't have been cheating in the first place, it's best if they don't talk to the mistress. That would be awful if the wife were to find out that they still talked.
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The big answer is right in front of you, " got caught" Did you think that the two of you can stay friends after the affair the two of you did. But let say that this married man didn't stop talking to you while he is making amends to his wife, you will become his " Friend with benefit" And if every time the two of you meet, he might think what the two of you had together. What you need to do is leave him alone, let him correct all the bad things he did to his wife. Maybe you can ask your self this, what did this woman did to me that I help his husband ruin her life?
From there on you can see the pain that you gave to his wife. You can't even say it wasn't you that started it.
They don't, they are lying, they are just keeping their heads down for as long as the storm lasts. they would not have jumped into bed wit h another woman in the first place if they felt that way.
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Let me just say this- from my past experience when my husband stop talking to his mistress it didn't made us closer but he found out what really the problem of our marriage. But maybe there are some couple that have that emotion but I doubt it.
Perhaps he is trying to break it fully off with you gently. Or perhaps he wants you on a string so he can have some more fun with you later. As he was caught, and did not take that opportunity to leave his wife and be with the mistress, that should tell the mistress that he'll never leave his wife.
Nothing prevents a man from feeling lust toward people with whom he does not speak.
When he looks, the man's primal urges are stirring. He is still physically attracted to his ex mistress. It is all very Freudian. His Id is in overdrive. However, he has a rational side of his personality that knows that his behavior is wrong and self destructive. He will destroy his marriage if he actions his primal urge. It is the classic image of the little devil on one shoulder and the little angel on the other. He has to deny and/or suppress these urges. At the very least he has to keep them within the boundaries of look but don't touch or look but do not engage. It is frustrating and confusing for all involved but it is what it is.
It seems he is trying hard to save his marriage.
And it is a better way if two have been intimate before.
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It's a lot different what they had before. You used to be friends, good friends who can talk about anything to everything. Exchange comment about anything that can come up with the conversation. The two of you become comfortable to each others and for some odd reason every time the two of you is not talking, you both missed each others company. The two of you cross the line and become more than friends. You let this married man become dependant on you and you didn't care if his married and a wife who didn't have no idea of what's going on behind her back.
Unfortunately the affair was discovered, and now this man needs to fix all the mistakes of what he did to his wife. So why are you wondering why he stop talking to you. You help him ruined the bond of friendship, by becoming his friend with benefit. I think this is enough to make someone stop contacting you. Why don't you leave him alone so he can rebuild what he needs to rebuild if his wife still want to stay married to him.
mos def
depends how hot she isANSWER;I think so especially if this married man fell in love with his mistress before he got caught cheating. Lots will be going on in his head, mostly the fun he had with her..
As a man, I know exactly why. He has been ordered from his wife to never have contact with you again, in any way, shape , or form.....or else!
When a married man gets caught cheating by his wife and then moves in with his mistress nine chances out of ten he is immature; selfish and if he loved the mistress he would have had the fortitude to leave his wife before he got caught. A man who lives with his mistress after being caught cheating by his wife is afraid to be alone and it doesn't necessarily mean that he loves his mistress.ANSWER:It means that he loves his mistress, and probably he don't want to loose what they have together. But I think its good that he left you and live with her, you will have more freedom, you wouldn't have to remember the pain he gave you. And you wouldn't have to face him to remind you of what he did..
It means things at home will never go well. He loves the woman you're calling the mistress.
No, keep cheating and dont get caught.
Because he wants to see if her reaction shows that any more love for him is still there.
Honestly, all it probably means is that he still is physically attracted to his mistress(which doesn't last, if it isn't more). Maybe things aren't going well at home (go figure... he got caught cheating!) But, it definitely isn't true love. Everyone deserves true love! If it were true love, he (a)would have left his wife when he realized that SHE was not his true love, and/or (b)wouldn't be LOOKING at his mistress, but TALKING to her!
The heat is off , and his eye is roving again. This guy cheated on his wife, chances are he will cheat on his mistress eventually if she gets in that situation again. Stay away from married men and find yourself a good honest man.
Married men who cheat on their wives and have a mistress generally use the mistress for a sexual relationship; feeling the freedom he is not married to her and can either go back to his wife when he is bored with the mistress or, if he is caught cheating by his wife or he decides to divorce his wife then he would want him freedom and the statistics of a married man divorcing and marrying his mistress is very low; generally he just wants to do as he pleases and doesn't care if he hurts women along the way.
Speaking from personal experience, he would probably stop talking to that mistress and lose passionate feelings for her in a short time-span. But, he would most likely find another(maybe even the same) mistress in a while, due to his lack of feelings for his wife.
Because he's stuped. And because he wants to be with the ex-mistress.