What should you do if you told your best friend you love her and she doesn't talk to you anymore?

Answer 1

I think it matters. Since you didn't identify your sex, it's hard to answer the question. If you are a girl, you may have just blown your girlfriend's mind. Perhaps she has negative feelings or attitudes toward gays and lesbians, and those attitudes make her angry and prevent her from enjoying a friendship with you. That would be a shame, but it would reflect poorly on her, not you. Or perhaps she, too, is gay but is in denial or is terribly conflicted. Perhaps facing you would require her to face her own feelings toward you, feelings that make her uncomfortable -- or worse. If you're a guy, well it's a little different. You still may have blown her mind, perhaps because she didn't see it coming, but that hardly explains why she is no longer speaking to you. She has less reason to be angry, although I suppose that's still possible. If she always assumed that your relationship was strictly platonic, perhaps she feels betrayed. Or perhaps she thinks that you have been secretly thinking of her in sexual ways and feels violated. Whatever the case may be, all you can do is call, text, IM, or email her and inquire why she's shunning you. Perhaps you could write an old-fashioned letter, which is much more personal and intimate. It may be more likely that she will read a snail-mail than any electronic form of correspondence.