Why do you fall out of love with your husband?
It could just be that you just drew apart and aren't as close as you once were. There are many reasons but you should talk to him and find out where thigs went wrong. Good Luck!
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Most abusers firmly believe that their abusive conduct is proof and indication of deep love. In their thwarted minds, abuse, intimacy, and love are inextricable. The saddest part is that many (but not all) abusers really ARE in love (whatever that means, it's such a subjective term) with their part…ners, and deep inside are quite horrified by the abuse they inflict. (MORE)
How should you sort out your feelings and actions once you acknowledge that you're falling in love again with your ex-husband?
Answer . \nYou will have to ask yourself some serious questions here and be honest with yourself or you could be in for a lot more hurt. Sometimes when we get married we are young or immature and the relationship doesn't work out. If you split-up and a few years go by it's quite common for the …same two people to rediscover themselves because one of them or both have matured.\n. \nWas he a good man when you were with him? (Not abusive mentally or physically.) If he was DON'T GO BACK!\n. \nWrite down the good points of what changes both of you have made in your lives and are they for the good.\n. \nIf he cheated on you before, don't expect any miracles now! These types of people seldom change.\n. \nDo you honestly think he's ready for another go at your relationship?\n. \nAre you lonely and settling for less in your life?\n. \nIf you feel he's changed a great deal and he is interested in you (you just aren't interested in him) and you've answered the above questions honestly then any relationship is worth rekindling again. Be sure he feels the same way.\n. \nGood luck\nMarcy (MORE)
How do you get your husband to fall back in love with you after he cheated and has feelings for the other woman?
Answer . Why would you want to get him back in love with you by coersion. He should want to love you back all on his own. It sounds like the relationship has past this stage anyway. If he cheated and now has feelings for another woman, is he even worth it. How would you be able to trust him in t…he future. For what ever reason he cheated in the first place, which he should have been a man and come to you before hand and let you know that his feelings for you werent the same and he was interested in someone else. Rarely, do people meet on the whim and suddenly have sex the first time they see each other, so in other words, they had to have been working up to the cheating over time. Anyway, I would say that unless he says he wants to work on the marriage, by either counseling together or seperately, that you face the truth and move on with your life. Get a divorce and find a man that will be honest with you no matter what and give you the love and respect that you deserve. I know all is easier said then done but your not the first you wont be the last and you have more strength then you realize. GOOD LUCK. (MORE)
What should you do if you are falling madly in love with someone other than your husband who is a good man but you have problems and you are afraid to leave him and start by yourself?
Tough one, that. You see, I have no problem with anyone falling madly in love with someone else, but I do wonder how real it is when it might well be fueled by the fact that you are dying to get away from your current husband. I'm not saying that it isn't the right thing to do to move out and find s…omewhere else, and I understand that is a pretty scary proposition. I bet you'd really like this other guy to say, No problem, just come move in with me, and the fact that he hasn't leads me to wonder if your "mad love" isn't just a bit too much for the guy. Some guys don't really want a girl "madly" in love with them; it can be pretty annoying once you've run through the Karma Sutra a couple of times. So, if you no longer want to be with your husband, so be it. Move out, get your own place. But treat the guy to some space to come into if he wants to. He might be "madly in love" with you because he thinks he can't have you, and if you turned up on his doorstep with a suitcase, you'd probably see him turn every shade of white in quick succession. Get your priorities right first; get your personal life back on track, fix up an apartment of buy a house, and then see what happens with the men. Because if I were in Vegas I would put a fair chunk of change that if you left your husband "for this other guy" he would be gone before Christmas. Phil (MORE)
You just simply do, cant make yourself, you cant force yourself to love someone. It will just come naturally. And when it does, that's when you know you're in love. Its an amazing feeling. Thank you for looking and you will be in love srry if your not but u will ;)
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Me and my wife were on the verge of divorce when i left for Iraq i get back and things have turned around i couldn't love her more. Remind him why he fell for you in the first place.
Falling in love means you are comfortable with this person, and love everything about this person.. Love IS possible, no matter what ANYONE says.
when your in love you feel like nothing else in the world matters like Ur focused on your love and him only (no flirting) i can't explain it all because it uses words that u wouldn't even think of.
hmm tough question when i dont love my current husband and feel lesbian i offer him a threesome and do other erotic sexual activities that pleasure me and my hubby. Maybe he should go down on you more... these r thoughts yours truly sex addict 69
Love your husband but are not in love with him anymore and don't want to hurt him. Two kids involved who adores us both How do you fall back in love with him for the sake of the kids and security?
Answer . I realize you would love to stay with but it isn't fair to stay somewhere you really don't want to be. However, it does sound like you want to give it a try which is good - so maybe all you need is to literally put the love back into - spice it up! Send the kids to a willing family membe…r and go on a date, spend the evening getting to know one another again - in every way!!! Remember everything you loved about him in the first place. Do this more often - have time for just you two at least once a week - its amazing what it can do for a relationship! Just sit and talk things out. You need to read the word of God. That is the BIGGEST help in love ever! Pray and ask for God's help and He will help you even if its not at first. Be pacient, it will help both you and your kids. (MORE)
How should you deal with falling in love with your husbands best friend when the feeling is not mutual and the friend lives with you both?
Answer . well you should talk to your husband and ask him to ask his friend to move out cuz you dont feel comfortable having sex with him when he is in the house works every time. Answer . think of all the good time you have had with your husband and why you married him and not the friend.and… grow up ,do not hurt your family and friend over a crash.thick about it hard (MORE)
Should a wife stay married to her husband if she has allowed herself to fall in love with another man who is twenty years older than her?
Answer . Yes! The age of the other person has nothing to do with it, but commitment to the person you are already married to has EVERYTHING to do with it. The grass often seems greener on the other side of the fence, a saying that has arisen for good reason. Although it would appear to you that t…his guy is far better and lacks the failings of the husband, he almost certainly will seem just as boring with as many bad habits when the present feelings fade a little - as they will! Unless there is serious reason to leave the marriage such as infidelity on the husband's part or abuse - real abuse and not just normal differences of opinion - you'll just be making a whole lot of people unhappy, either now or down the track a little. (MORE)
Answer . When your husband falls out of love, he'll be more distant and he'll give bad or NO sex.
Dedicate yourself to making your husband happy. Unless he is a loser, he will respond by dedicating himself to making you happy, and that's about the best a marriage can be!
Try talking with him and let him know how you feel and what you would like to see happen between you two. Take it slowly and remind one another what it was like in the beginning and what attracted you two in the first place. Don't try to go back into the same groove you were in try to take a new roa…d of communication and being open minded with one another. Be willing to try new things and make things more exciting with one another. (MORE)
That's a tough question. Presumably, yes, or he wouldn't havemarried you. And, contrary to some popular opinion, love doesn'tjust disappear one day. It can change over time, and it requireswork to maintain relationships though. Even if he does love you, itdoesn't necessarily mean that he is treating… you well, or thatthere aren't things in the relationship that need to be worked out. The best way to know is to ask... and if you don't know, maybe youguys need to sit down and talk anyway. (MORE)
Your husband will not talk to you much. He will also not want tokiss you or spend time alone with you.
There's a lot of ways why our husband loves us. From my past experience I could tell you why my husband loves me before, but since 2006 I can't. His heart was given to the other woman he met. He told me that his ex mistress now never received condition no condition from him, so there it is I guess a…ll I did since we got married was give him condition to everything I have done for him.............but it's okay though. (MORE)
try to get close to him be like his best friend and just be your self and no one else cuz if u try to be some one your not theres gonna be some consequences so yea just be your self and then try to figure out who he likes... but if he likes you then he will ask you out and if he doesnt then he will …not ask u out but do never tell him that u like himm cuzz then he will not talk to u again... well that depends on what kind of boy he is... so yea just follow my advice.. . (MORE)
if you fall in love for the first time, take things really slow. its easy to rush into things without a second thought. if you are a hopeless romantic who falls in love very easily, think more than twice about the person you're interested and be sure you get in touch with your feelings and get to kn…ow who he/she really is before falling too fast again. (MORE)
you go different ways...or maby you stay together and on the same time time makes out with another one:P I would choose the first on :) you got to tell hin girl :O :P
if he feels unhappy talk to him that doesn't mean you shouldn't love him. if hes been through alot and hes not doing well give him some space.
Anything is possible, but acting on it would not be acceptable. In my opinion, if a person can no longer honor their marriage vows, they ought to file for divorce prior to straying. The only exception to this would be the rare 'open' marriage in which both spouses have agreed upon their own par…ticular rules of fidelity. And I wouldn't take a cheating spouse's word for it that theirs was an open marriage. (MORE)
LOve can't be forced. sorry to break it to you but you can't make yourself fall in love with someone.
Yeah, it happens all the time. It doesn't make it right though to not let your husband know. If at all possible see a counselor and divert your thoughts, especially if you have children. It will make things worse if you cheat on him rather than to be upfront with him before things happen.
I had miscarriage 3weeks ago and i haven see my period yet but i already making love with my husband can i fall pregnant before my period?
Yes you can fall pregnant as you will ovulate before you have a period. If you feel you are not quite ready yet to try for another baby please use contraception
If he will agree to work with you on the relationship and take sometime, you are golden. It takes two and we are not always fully inlove. It ebbs and flows. If either or both of you have been actingbadly, straighten up and be kind to one another.
What movie is about a woman who is divorcing her husband then goes to a small seaside town and she meets a doctor and they fall in love?
Nights in Rodanthe. Sleeping With the Enemy but he isn't a doctor, he is a college professor.
The following answer presupposes that your partner has not abused you, or been unfaithful, in any way.. This is an issue that comes down, in part, to one's own attitude. It all depends on whether you have changed in yourself, your attitude and expectations, or whether you still maintain the same at…titude you have always had in your marriage. If you think that, because you have never loved your husband, it cannot happen, then it will not happen. If you start thinking more about your partner instead of yourself, it can happen.. It has been shown that, by consciously adopting a positive mindset that you will choose to show affection in physical ways, e.g. by doing little things for your spouse and making only positive comments, a person really can change his or her feelings about his/her spouse. A loveless marriage can be revived.. Counselling is highly recommended, as it can focus you to think on the positive. However, you would need to find someone who helps repair marriages, and does not turn you to focus on the "me" in marriage. Avoid thinking "he doesn't do anything for me", and start thinking "what can I do for him?" It can make a positive difference.. You need to be prepared to be honest with yourself, and truly evaluate how you can change, not what you would like your partner to do, to change.. The articles at the links below may help. (MORE)
its easy you just dump him. Try to ignore that he wants a redo, trust me my parents have gone through that plenty times. He said give me another Chance and my mom went back a total of 14 times. now shes through with him
This is a very difficult question, as I think you may be saying that he loves you as a person, may love being married with you and sharing your life together, but isn't in love with you as a woman, which of course, is a big part of being married with someone. I hope that you value yourself as a w…oman, whether or not your husband is in love with you. It is not easy when you come to this realization and it must hurt. You can't make someone else care for you if there truly aren't any feelings that way. One of the things that can happen over a long time in a relationship is that one (or both) persons can begin to take each other for granted and the romance seems to disappear. This isn't something that can be talked out, but needs to be acted on. A suggestion is to see how you can bring some romance back into your marriage, since you know that he loves you. When a man sees that his wife values herself as a woman, he will value her more also. This works both ways. So do things to pamper yourself as a woman-there's no one right way, this is what it means to you. Add a little mystery. Don't ask him to respond, just begin enjoying and discovering what it means to you to be a woman. Sometimes, a spouse needs to feel less pressured about a situation and they will respond better when they feel their spouse reduces some emotional demands on them. There isn't a "quick fix" always to this and there aren't guaranteed results. I wish you the best, as you do know that he loves you! (MORE)
Why did you break up in the first place, would those reasons still be there?
If your husband is verbally abusive and controlling you fall out of love to the point that you are now in love with another man should you stay married for the sake of the kids?
I think its important to try and stay with some one for the sake of your children, but it sounds like your marrige is so bad, that all you are likely to be doing is upsetting the children with your arguments, and him being abusive to you. I think long term, the children will be happier if you split …up, and they could see both their parents truly happy. (MORE)
Your husband is cheating on you! It's obvious! Another thought: Your husband may or may not be cheating on you, but the line "I love you, but I'm not 'in love' with you," usually means he has one foot out the door. He's not committed to you as a husband and partner. Ask him what his intent…ions are. You deserve to know. You also deserve to be with a man who is 'in love' with you. Tell him you can do better, because you can. Then kick him to the curb. (MORE)
Most of the time when a woman falls in love with another womans husband, he too was attracted to her. It always takes two to tango! Most likely he wasnt happy in his marriage and she just happend to be the one there for him at that time. woman always want to be loved and feel loved at any cost. Its …not intentional all the time. But there are some woaman who only want married men. but woman do not intentionally fall in love with somebody elses husband, they just fall in love. (MORE)
There will be a chance for your husband getting mad at you and dumping or divorcing you and there's also a chance that the one who you love will fight your husband to win you over
If i were in this position, i would pull him aside and say "i think we need to talk" or something like that. Then if you say i think your falling in love with someone right to his face then you might get the real truth or maybe not. If he says says he isn't and you still think he is lying put your f…oot down, and really try to get the truth out of him :) (MORE)
What should a woman do if she is having an affair while her husband is deployed and she falls in love with the man?
Ooh, that's tough. I've been cheated on and finding out is not the greatest feeling in the world. However there are many different things to take into account. You might not be able to handle the lifestyle of waiting around for any news from your husband. So you might be giving up on the idea of bei…ng a war wife subconsciously. This doesn't mean that this is the definite answer. From the question you stated him as your "husband" so you must have loved him quite a bit to enter into such a commitment. So maybe you just miss him so much that you look for happiness, warmth and love from someone else. Thanks to this man being accessible then it could be your mind telling you that you love him but are really just missing your husband too much. So my suggestion is that you wait until your husband returns and then make your decision after spending time with your husband and realizing the love (or not) that you feel for him.Whatever your choice, your in a bit of a sticky pickle. Much luck with whatever you choose. I hope you make the right choice. (MORE)
You are lumping two separate issues into one question. Frankly, I'mpretty sure that you're confused about what 'love' is, but that's adifferent issue again. If you find yourself 'out of love' with your husband, what have youdone to make your marriage better? One of the most important partsof being …married is to be able to communicate with each other whenyou aren't happy. If you were once attracted to him and now you'renot; that wasn't love and you married him under false pretenses(not necessarily on purpose, perhaps in ignorance). When you weremarried, you made commitments to another person. That is an issuebetween you and your husband and must be worked out between you andyour husband. If you use your attraction to the new man as an excuse, it is onlyan attraction which will also fade in time and it is only an excuseto avoid dealing with your real problem. Bottom line, you can't fixone mess by starting a new one. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- You should ignore the someone else until you are no longercommitted to your husband. Truly, it is easier to work with thehusband you have than to start over again with someone else you areinfatuated with. Love comes with a strong relationship over time. (MORE)
um... what kinda a question's that? OF COURSE. if i didn't i wouldn't have of married him.
Sincerely, you know we cannot give you an answer, because we need more information to help you understand where the problem is.
It all depends on the person. Some women are sensitive and weak and fall in love easily, however there's also sensitive and weak men.
it is very nice and wonderful to fall in love. you feel like your in a dream
a day when you meet he will ask you out on a walk by flowers and put one in your hair and youll fall maddly in love and marry and have kids
Sometimes people are just drawn to a certain person, maybe it's the way they look, color of her hair, personality, maybe she makes you laugh and be a happier person.
Yes, Some1 made me realise how stupid i was to lov im & so i stopped lovin im. That's the same thing as fall out of lov right?
You can't "make" anyone fall in love with you, with or without sex. But perhaps you should be a little more realistic: if your husband has truly done something so heinous as to justify your withholding sex, you're probably better off without him, and he's probably better off without you.
I have heard many people use this expression. They believe that the way a new relationship feels (the excitement, lust, etc.) is what being "in love" is supposed to feel like. I have been married for 22 years and it is a good marriage, but we certainly haven't been grinning and lustful all the time!… A relationship is like everything else in life, it changes. What he is really saying is that your marriage has moved into a new stage. This new stage may not be as fun as the first, but if you both can hang on there are lots of stages ahead. Marriage is like wine, it gets better with time! (MORE)
Why would a wife that in an open relationship not tell their husband about affair then allow herself to fall in love?
She doesn't want to be with her husband. If you're the husband,communicate with her about the problem and address the issues.Otherwise it will be too late.
If your husband says he doesn't love you anymore get divorced ,youneed to move on from a loveless marriage before that do go in forcouple counselling