After nine months of being with a girl is it normal to not feel as strong as you did the first few months but still love her?

Answer 1

oh, i know this. I've just been dumped by someone i'd been with for 9 months. i tried very hard to reconcile, yet he showed no interest. this is what i wanted to tell him, so I'll tell you.i think in every relationship the "falling in love" stage is always wonderful. the beginning of the relationship, in every relationship you get into will be great. researches reckon it can last for upto twp years, some more, some less. (i haven't done any research into it by the way), yet, the thing is, there comes a point when the "falling in love" stage fades, and the relationship becomes one where the two people start to "love" each other, and concrete the relationship. this is where you accept each other more and committ. this is where you start to take on more responsibility of each other, and with lifes' outside committments, this can become very difficult to maintain the "falling in love" stage still in the relationship. this is where you have to both be responsible to put in the effort to make it work. ALL RELATIONSHIPS, NO MATTER WHO YOUR WITH, TAKE EFFORT AND HARD WORK. do you LOVE them? if you do, then give them YOUR ALL. work out together what you both value and believe, don't stop doing dates together to keep the relationship spicy, just like the beginning when you met. be creative with each other still. you'll see, when you keep the SURPRISE in the relationship, you'll keep "falling in love" with them. you'll also find that you'll really experience, LOVE, with them just like in the beginning of the relationship. if you want to keep the relationship going, and exciting, you've got to keep this going. this is what i wanted to tell my partner, i know it would have worked, but it takes two people to do it in a relationship. talk to your partner about this. give it a chance. every one deserves second chances. once you both talk openly about your feelings, keep the communication going, ALWAYS. that keeps the relationship from DYING. you've got to communicate to oneanother about everything. don't keep things unsaid. resolve all conflict when it comes, and don't sleep on your anger about anything. my partner kept alot of stuff bottled up inside and found it hard to express his feelings, and ask for what he wanted. then this caused resent inside him. we never got to resolve issues in this way. it's a shame, because i think we'd still be together. don't stop the communication if you want to keep each other HAPPY, you've got to communicate it. make a plan for yourselves for time together, and outings together. another good thing, is to also spend "time apart" too. this bring mystery into the relationship, and you'll miss eacother more, and when you go to see eachtoher, you'll be all over one another, just like in the beginning. it's so easy to get caught up in a rut, or routine together. we expect alot from our mates. IT TAKES WORK...OK?GO FOR IT, GIVE YOUR 100% TO EACHOTHER, AND ENJOY IT.