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No, because, serial abusers will never change. I am currently in the same situation. I am married and not even domestic violent classes help my soon to be ex-husband. I think age has alot to do with it too because, he is 49 years old.
Depending on the personal data and the psychodynamic profile of the abuser, his cultural and social background, age, profession, level of education, and extent of motivation to preserve the relationship. Some busers can definitely be helped and success stories abound.
During my experience of 12 years of mental and physical abuse, regardless of the "so-called" remorse displayed, the abuser must have a sincere believe that what he is doing is wrong. The abuser must make a conscious decision to change his way of thinking and implement that into his way of daily living. Unfortunately, abusers have often avoided owning up to their responsibility of change because tey generally shift the attention to the victim.
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∙ 12y agoThe problem is, you can seldom get them to counseling. They are in denial and feel the way they think and feel is the right way and everyone else is wrong. They are such controllers of the environment around them they can't stand the thought of someone taking that control away from them because in their minds, that their "safe place." To me a physical abuser is like a loaded gun ... you can clean it and it works fine for a few uses, but one day, you can try it out and it'll blow your hand off in seconds. Abusers are always time bombs and few ever seek out counseling and if they manage to go, few ever change.
AnswerUsually not. They will actually probably try and you the counselling as another way to control you while looking like the good guy. He may speak the language of improving himself. He may talk about feelings. In reality hes found another outlet to manipulate and con you. Dont buy into the counselling ploy. Kick his sorry but out on the street and if he comes back in a year you will know he really loved you and you will be able to tell if hes really changed. But don't count on it. Abusers get too much satisfaction to change.Wiki User
∙ 16y agoThat really depends. A sociopath is generally regarded as unchangeable due to a lack of a conscience and normal emotions. Every one of their acts is designed for gaining further control. They have only victims and accomplices, rather than friends and enemies.
Some abusers can change with counseling, and learning to understand why they act the way they do. Unfortunately most don't want to change, and there is little incentive for them to do so.
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∙ 13y agono they will stay the same because they know they can get AWAY with it i have been in the same place as u so i know
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What do you do when a verbal abuser distorts your reality such as you are sexuality?
Get rid of them and get counseling.
Is there hope that an abuser can change and you can still have a good marriage?
You two should seek counseling. Good luck and God Bless:)
Your abuser ex husband can be change actitud when he remarried and be a good man?
yES; There is nothing you cannot cure yourself of when you ADMIT YOU HAVE A PROBLEM. A man or woman CAN CHANGE with counseling, a lot of self discipline, and CONSTANT WORK. Yes, men AND women, with help and counseling, CAN remarry and correct themselves.
What can you do to get over an ex abuser that you work with when you see him everyday?
Get counseling. And think about a new job.
Can a mental abuser really see the error of his ways and put things right?
Answer Sometimes they can and sometimes they can't. Unless they is some mental illness going on, people can change if they want to. Certainly a mental abuser who is not mentally ill will figure it out when he or she gets enough negative feedback/responses from others. Usually when someone is a mental abuser they need professional counseling to correct the problem. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. If the person thinks what he or she is doing is okay or they get some kind of sick enjoyment, power trip from it they may not WANT to change.
Who is the abuser in your marriage if you have been married for 19 years and you once slapped your husband in the face when he called you a slut?
Both of you are abusive to each other. You need counseling. Family counseling and anger management counseling.
What can an abuser do to change her ways if she doesn't have enough money for various counseling programs?
There are free services offered at many churchs and I have heard being on whats called a sliding scale. In other words, on ones ability to pay. The main concern is the abuser get help and get it fast. Like NOW!!
How can an abuser change?
go to counciling
What are the most feasible means in dealing with a drug abuser?
Often the best thing to do with a drug abuser is an intervention where those that love him or her tell them how the addiction is affecting them. Counseling or halfway houses are an option as well.
Can dealing with childhood abandonment issues through therapy help narcissists improve?
Absolutely. Of course, not all abusers will or can change. Be careful not to revel in what may be a false hope. Dealing with issues in childhood which may have made the abuser abusive will be very helpful, but could also be traumatic for the abuser. The abuser often has trouble dealing with emotions, and so could become aggressive and violent throughout this part of counseling.
How can a potential abuser how can you get help?
Get into batterer counseling (even if its verbal/ emotional abuse) ASAP (NO Anger Management - that does NOTHING for abusers)
Can you say to an abuser that you love him?
No, you should never tell an abuser you love them and if you think you love them then you need psychological counseling because abusing a person is not about love. You don't hurt the ones you love! Get out of this relationship while you still can!
