Can you find yourself again while coping with your husband's infidelity?

Answer 1

• Yes, most women are the strongest species between male and female. True they are more romantics than men and far more emotional, but they have a built-in mechanism to survive many traumas in their lives. All women go through one or two (or more) events in their lives where they may lose themselves for a little while because most women tend to put others before themselves and thus, they are hurt when the person they love hurts them. If your husband is still cheating on you then read him the riot act and tell him 'no more' and he either wises up and seeks marriage counseling or another type of counseling or the marriage is over. If you allow him to continue to cheat then you enable his behavior. It is more common than you think where boyfriends or husbands cheat on their partner at least once and women of all ages are almost neck in neck with the men for cheating (not accusing you.) Part of it is immaturity; some men have grown up with a parent or parents that have cheated or, they may have been cheated on once or more by former girlfriends and this leaves this type of man vulnerable where he is afraid of being hurt. No matter what the excuse it is not an excuse to cheat! Communication skills are a must in a marriage where the couple can discuss anything without arguing and coming to an amicable agreement on whatever problem they are dealing with. Your husband has broken the bond of trust in your marriage and it is going to take some time for him to earn your trust and respect again. The good news is, this is a wake up call for women who's husband's cheat but are still in the marriage. Women start to learn they are intelligent and can either further their education; go to work (if they are not working) volunteer; treat themselves to a few new clothes; a new look as far as hairstyle and getting out more with girlfriends (at least once a week) and be more independent rather than sitting at home and denying herself the right to express an interest she may want to pursue in her life. Women may cry over a man that cheats, but, once the crying is over there is nothing worse than the wrath of a woman scorned! Don't get even and drop to his level, but start doing some things you want to do and work on good communication skills with your husband. Although it may feel your marriage will not work many do if you both try hard enough and you start to put yourself first for a change.