It is truly bizarre how a narcissist cannot cite any actual, real problems in a relationship and will still insist on leaving. I think that is about control, or intimacy issues. They get scared by the threat of intimacy and leave.
I too have seen the evil person. It was like watching Anakin Skywalker turn into Darth Vader. He used to describe his emotions to me in great detail and his favorite metaphor was that he was like a virus or an insect. Sounds really loving and warm, doesn't it?
My narcissist was also raised in a highly religious environment. I have known a couple of them that thrived in churches, so watch out! There are a lot of empathetic people in churches, and so the narcissists tend to prey there. It's like when you see a herd of wildebeasts, you expect to see a few lions too, right? That's how it is with narcissists. They prey on the empathetic. In my experience, they also prey on students, artists, and hippies. They look for people who will accept them and feel sorry for them, and won't hold them to high standards, but will accept their lies and give to them and try to help them. Not to disrespect groups who do this, but some groups are more forgiving than others. Narcissists are found around these groups, just as child molesters are found around groups of children.
Even if your narcissist seems like the type that won't leave, I'd advise if you have a true narcissist on your hands, then you should be the one to leave.
NEW Answer-Mine dumped me 2 days after i arrived from Europe to spend some months with him in the USA after2 years in a long distance relationship(Skype Google talk,movies and poetry sites) I didn't meet hin in a dating site...He was Avery intelligent man,we were friends and ater turned into something bigger ,full of red flags but i waived them away because he was in Avery unhappy situation,depressed but he was getting ready to leave this so called shay relationship....we were friends,confident and had a lot in common...i am a non judgemental person empathic and i think he smelled that...2 days after my arrival,he just simply told me he wasn't going to be with me anymore,but asked me to stay,as friends after already starting withdrawing affection,said if i wanted to go somewhere he would be glad to take me but would not go anywhere with me,then 2 hours later would say come on lets go to the park....and so it went,for 2 months ,push and pull games,he took a vacation for a week the only thing he did was gaming on the internet,and sleep.....came home from work with lipstick on his sleeve...i said laughing,busy at work,hey....he said i knew you would say is lipstick,no is candy.....he totally ignored me for hours then would come up to me and Hugh me kiss my forehead.....then tell me it was better if i left,and if i wanted to do so he said stay please....finally i left exausted,broken low self estemmm because he was always talking about some women he saw with a nice a**.....And i know i am good looking intelligent and empathic but then i felt like garbage.....took me a year and some to realize it wasn't me itwas him....i am in therapy still having flash backs,and missing him....is just sickening.....now he is No Contact on me saying i did wrong by him....
Once a narcissist realizes they cannot control a new conquest they lose interest. It is inaccurate to say they "grow tired". It is rather that they are not interested in someone they cannot control.
Once a narcissist realizes they cannot control a new conquest they lose interest. It is inaccurate to say they "grow tired". It is rather that they are not interested in someone they cannot control.
In a nutshell: Yes. Nobody really needs to hear life stories when you want a simple answer.
No.
and if they SAY they do? they just get better at sneaking and covering up.
run!
To someone who is strong and willing
No - absolutely not....
Possibly, however men can be jerks and who knows, if you don't want to be with him, leave him and just try to forget he ever existed.
Definitely not worth it.
. You couldn't (improve on last answer, or have a relationship with a Narcissist without feeling abused).You cannot have a relationship with an abuser without feeling abused.
Please let me apologize in advance for my sarcasm, but I wish this were always the case! If all the narcissists paired up, then they would leave all us normal folks alone... Seriously, I did read somewhere (in Sam Vaknin's site?) that there are two particular "types" of narcissists may do well for a time...Was it an inverted narcissist he was refering to? I don't quite remember.(Google: "inverted narcissist maybe?) I also read that there are folks out there that actually like being in a relationship with a narcissist!
It can be challenging to have a successful relationship with a narcissist because they often lack empathy and prioritize their own needs. Communication, setting boundaries, and seeking support from a therapist or counselor can be helpful in navigating the relationship. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and consider if the relationship is truly healthy for you.
Unfortunately, narcissism is a life long disease. If your partner is clinically narcissistic, there is very little hope of him or her ever changing.
No- a narcissist is a narsiccist- no matter who they choose to victimize. Don't worry, it just takes them alittle while to turn up that heat in the kitchen, but it will get hot!!
If he was a narcissist, then nothing you did could ever be a good as he knew he "deserved." So he looked elsewhere, which he'll probably keep doing for the rest of his life, no matter how well the woman he's with treats him.He wanted something other than what he got from you. I think it's the same answer regardless of his psychiatric diagnosis, if any. It would be harder to please a narcissist than the average person. The person trying to please a narcissist wouldn't get empathy back, among other things, so it might be for the best to have a narcissist leave you. But I don't think the trigger for that happening is much different than any other relationship.
Leave, then empty the bank.
Welll that depends how long this person lives. AS they are always in a relationship with themself
They leave without feeling anything. most likely they already have an auxiliary supply ready to tap in to (the next sucker). People are objects to a narcissist, so to them it is like buying a new cell phone and throwing the old one in a junk drawer and forgetting about it.
someone also obsessed with that person.