How do people decide if they want to get married?

Answer 1

Here is what I would suggest, having been through a failed marriage myself. First off, don't rush it. Date for at least three years - if you don't want to wait that long, you might be getting married for the wrong reason - i.e. your getting married to be able to say "i'm married" instead of because you want to be with the other person FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.

You should get married if you could put up with a terrible wedding. (registry office for the big wedding dreamers and visa versa). Marriage is just that - an ongoing activity, not a one day event!

There's no way to know until you've already done it.

So, maybe the way to know is if you can feel good about signing up with your partner for a hopefully long and unpredictable life.

Marriage is not simple you have to make sure that you love the person that you want to become a wife or a husband. Its not just a hot rice that you can easily spit it out when its too hot. Its a life time.

Answer 2

To me, this ranks up there with "How will I know if I'm ready to have kids?". My stock answer is that if you wait till you're ready to get married (have kids, etc.) then you'll never get married! That being said, if you have a stable roof over your head, a reliable income, and the willingness to work with someone else on a VERY long-term basis, then you have the basics for marriage. It's mostly about attitude and values.

Answer 3

If you can live without that person, you aren't truly in love, but if you truly need them there with you all the time every day, or at least with a phone call's distance, you are close to bending the knee or having a knee bent for you. Btw, eloping is a stupid, albeit slightly romantic, idea as marriage is a holy ceremony, and should be treated as such, and not by some reject Elvis with a beer keg for a belly. Despite the popular opinion, a traditional marriage is still the best way to go about getting married as it is still hard to beat, and this is coming from a guy who was his brother's best man at his wedding this past december. Before the bended knee, however, you need a place to stay, as well as a decent income coming from at least one of you, if not both, and have plans for the honeymoon and maybe even for a baby as some couples have kids sooner than others, assuming that you don't yet have a child. And no, if you are wondering, I don't think that that last sentence was a run-on, or at least I hope that it wasn't!

Answer 4

Generally, you know because you want to get married or you really love someone. There are some who know from an early age that they don't want to get married. In other parts of the world, you might know because your parents tell you that you are marrying and even tell you who you are marrying.

Answer 5

When the regular hang out, partying, clubbing and all seems boring and he prefers to stay home most home. Basically when starts being a party pooper, has reduced interest in sports, knows in and out about women wear, reads more of the financial section than page 3 or sports section, talks real deep and rather more philosophical. Basically when a party star turns out to be boring slowly it means he is ready to marry.

Answer 6

yes! when you are ready to get married you know that you are with someone who really loves you for who you are and that you love him/her the same way. you really have a strong feeling of commmitment!

but other times marriage just happens! whether you are ready for it or not, you do have feelings stirring when the person you think you love pops the question!

Answer 7

Here are some signs that you might NOT be ready for marriage

1. You fight about the wedding.
   • Disagreeing on details for your big day is commonplace and really not a big deal, but if you're constantly fighting over your wedding, it's bad news.
2. You can't decide whose place you'll move to.
   • If you both want to stick with your own apartment, you're not ready for the compromise that marriage will require.
3. You think about cheating on the other person.
   • Having a crush on someone other than your partner is actually pretty natural, but if you start to seriously consider acting on it, your marriage won't last long.
4. You're dreading the wedding day.
   • Some people get more excited about the big day than others, but if you are dreading your wedding, the marriage is in trouble.
5. You aren't ready to get married but agreed to it out of guilt.
   • You're not doing anyone a favor by agreeing to marry them. Make sure you're ready, so that the marriage has a chance to make it.
6. You want to change things about your future spouse.
   • People can grow and change, but you don't want to love someone for who you hope they'll become.
7. You've been together less than a year.
   • There's no magic amount of time that people need to be together to know that they're compatible, but the less time you've spent together, the less you know about potential conflicts that will arise.
8. One of you wants an open marriage but you haven't talked about it yet.
   • There are certain things that have to be discussed before marriage, not after it. Some of these are your ideas of fidelity and loyalty.
9. You have secrets that you're uncomfortable sharing with your partner.
   • Things that are long in the past don't necessarily need to be shared, but if you're hiding something you do on a daily basis, it could come back to haunt you.
10. You think that if things don't work out, you can just get a divorce.
    • Divorce is technically an option, but if you're already thinking about it before you're married, you may want to reconsider the wedding.

Answer 8

they have a chat and when they are fully commited they get married and have and do what they want with no regrets

Answer 9

When the two of you love each other enough, and can financially care for each other and a possible child, then you are ready to be engaged.