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How do you get your children away from an abusive husband legally and survive?
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∙ 18y ago
Your best bet is to go to your local Abused Women's Center. If you can't find one then go to your local Mental Health. If you are having problems finding one please leave a reply to my post and I will help you find one, but you will have to tell me what country, town you live in. If you live in a small town then tell me the closest city to you. Realize that once you walk into an Abused Women's Center for help you are not suppose to go back to your abuser. Take a few clothes when you can and get to that Center. They will listen to your story and set you up in a "safe house" or "Transition House" where NO ONE will know where you are unless you tell them. Don't! They often provide legal counseling and will escort you into court. Often there is a battle over the custody of children and these counselors are use to it. More and more the women abuse laws are changing and the police in many cities are beginning to work with the Abused Women's Centers. I live in British Columbia, Canada and the R.C.M.P., will give self defence programs to ALL women and especially abused women. At the "safe house" you will have a counselor and you will be expected to take their programs so you can better understand the "cycle of abuse." The stats are high as to women going back to their abusers or choosing another abusive partner. Abusive men make sure their victims are stripped of their dignity, self-worth, individualism and shroud them in fear. Even if a woman has some fighting spirit in her she'll never come out the winner and all she is doing is walking around on thin ice waiting for the next outbreak of rage from her abuser. You are worth more than that and you deserve better and so do your children. Stay strong God Bless Marcy
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How do you go on with your life feeling like your nothing after being abused for so many years by your husband is there any way to feel good about yourself again?
The fact you have asked the question about getting on with your life in the future if you leave your abusive husband is one big step forward. Many women stay for years in an verbal or physically abusive relationship because the abuser has made sure to make their victim believe they are useless and will never survive in the outside world. If anyone was told that enough times they would start to believe it and thus, that is why women in abusive relationships are afraid to venture away from their abusive spouse. It will take every ounce of energy you have at this point to go through with a plan to get away from your abusive husband. If you can get out of the house then use a pay phone and to hurry things up you can call Mental Health and they will lead you in the direction of an Abused Women's Center where you will find protection. The counselor assigned to you will ask you some questions and they have heard it all so if you break-down crying do not feel embarrassed. In fact, many who help abused women have been abused themselves. Once they have your information then you are sent to a 'transition house' where no one will know where you are. At the transition house you will be given a room; fed; asked to do chores there; take the programs they give you that will get you back on your feet again and give you the confidence to know when you meet any other abusive man in your future and that you also should be able to count on yourself to survive and do not need a man in your life to do so; will get the legal process going and go to court with you to keep your abusive husband away from you. When they feel you are ready they will help you either further your education or help you get a place to live and a job. You will get great encouragement at the transition house because there are so many women in your position. If children are involved the children can go with the mother to the transition house, but the mother will have to bring the children with her when she is ready to talk to a counselor and go to that transition house (the children will stay with the mother.) Before seeking help try to pack a bag with just the essentials for you or any children you may have and hide it because once you leave your home you shouldn't go back for any reason. Tell no one where you are going, but after you have been settled into another place with a job then you can contact family. Yes, there is hope for abused women if they reach out to the Women's Abuse Centers in their area. Even famous women go through abusive relationships and being abused does not mean you are not intelligent. Right now you feel you may not have the strength to move on or you most certainly may feel fearful, but try to remember that it is your husband that has put these thoughts in your head. Try to remember what you were like before you met him. Women are extremely strong when they want to be. You should get to a point where you are angry at your husband who has abused you and that you are your own person and you can control your own life if you want to bad enough. There are a lot of professional people out there eager to help abused women attain a normal and safe lifestyle.
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