How do you tactfully tell someone you can no longer have them as a bridesmaid after you've already asked them to be one?

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There is no way to remove a bridesmaid without ruining the friendship. If she's done something so bad that you are willing to end the friendship, man up and "break up" with her. Her involvement in your wedding will end as a result of the end of the friendship. If you still want to be friends, suck it up and leave her there.It depends on the reason for you not wanting them to be a bridesmaid, if its because (as mentioned below) your groom doesn't have enough friends, that's an extremely ridiculous reason, there is nothing wrong with having an uneven number. Many wedding traditionalists get stuck on minor details like that and it will stress you out. You may have to get creative and create honors to bestow upon your friends, like maid of honor, matron of honor--which is the married MOH, bridesmaids and honorary bridesmaid. If she has purchased the dress, let her wear it and make her an honorary bridesmaid, she can serve as a hostess at the wedding, pass out programs, seat guests, and be in all the pictures, she just won't walk down the aisle if you don't have a groomsmen to match her up with, it is possible to fit her in. If you have fallen out with her or she is being uncooperative and that's the reason you don't want to have her, you have to tell her honestly and let her know that though I value your friendship, this is a very special and stressful time for me and I need all the help and support I can get and right now I don't feel like I'm getting that from you. I need to be surrounded by positive energy and I think it may be best if you attend the wedding as a guest, I'm sorry for the expense you may have incurred and I will be happy to reimburse you the cost of the dress. But be ready to change the nature of the friendship, because she will be upset no matter how you tell her.ANSWERI had this happen to me as well. One of my friends for like 9 years (used to babysit me when i was little) was supposed to be a bridesmaid. Well, my ex-husband decided he didnt want me having that many bridesmaids (most likely because he didnt have enough friends to cover them as groomsmen) and I had to chop my friend off the list. I felt so bad and explained to her the situation but told her i still wanted her to be part of the experience. unfortunatly the only spot open for help was cake server. She took it gracefully but has told me she felt really insulted about the demotion. There really is no tactful way to cut someone out of your day, but they will usually take the news gracefully . just offer them anything you can so they can still particiapte. ANSWERIF A FRIEND,IS YOUR FRIEND WILL SUPPORT YOU.BE HONEST!AFTER ALL IT'S YOUR DAY YOUR BEAUTIFUL DAY,AND IT'S FOR YOU TO LOVE,FOR THE REST IT'S JUST A PARTY,YOU HAVE TO KNOW WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY YOU ARE # ONE AnswerIf nothing has already been purchased, simply explain the situation (whatever it may be) and be 100% honest. If this person has been asked to be your bridesmaid, apparently they're a good friend, anyway, so they will be able to understand whatever has occured. If a dress HAS been purchased by the girl, simply offer to pay her for the dress, get the receipt from her and return the dress yourself. Answerif you are paying for the dresses or helping out with some cost, say you have changed plans due to financial reasons. or you and your to -be- husband have some unresolved issues about the ceremony. if she bought the dress, pray that she will be able to take it back for the money refund. AnswerThis could be a problem. I am also having this problem. When I got engaged I asked my best friend at the time to be my maid of honor. Now, it has been about a year and we hardly ever talk. we are'NT close anymore. Now that I've set a date, I was having a hard time deciding what to do. But she has been talking to me on the internet and she said she missed us talking, so I decided to go woth the original plan of having her as maid of honor to keep from hurting people's feelings. But if you feel that you absolutely cannot, just politely explain why. AnswerBe honest!!!! If you want someone else

there is no easy way of doing it, make a good list of reasons or excuses why that person can not be the brides maid