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Instinct is usually effective at warning us that all is not well, but without following up on that instinct by observing and quietly CHECKING on your suspicions, you won't KNOW unless you are told.

Asking directly or addressing suspcions directly is, in my experience, ineffective. Betrayers will DENY wrongdoing (and in some cases continue to deny even in the face of irrefutable evidence!).

What you need to do is to ask yourself WHY you feel this way and WHETHER you even want to KNOW.

If you do want to know, ask yourself WHAT you wish to do about the knowledge should your suspicions prove correct.

The signs are many:

  • Change of routine.
  • Absences.
  • Late nights.
  • Disinterest in sex.
  • An increase in sexual activity OR a different technique.
  • An interest in appearance.
  • A female "friend".
  • A switched off mobile.
  • A devotion to "work".
  • Emotional distance.
  • Fighting.

The possibilities are varied, but they are merely indicators that something MAY be amiss rather than pointers that somethng IS amiss.

Much depends on the quality of the relationship that you have and the "quality" of the person that you're involved with when it comes to deciding whether to brush away doubts or to substantiate suspicions.

If there is no history of infidelity on your partner's part in your relationship or in his previous relationship/s and if he is a reliable and honest person with whom you have a HEALTHY and satisfactory relationship, bear in mind that you may jeopardise your relationship by snooping about behind your partner's back (rather than dealing with this directly with your partner) because your holding back and attempting to otherwise substantiate your suspicions may undermine your partner's trust in you, should your suspicions prove incorrect.

It is up to you to weigh up the situation with your partner, your relationship and the consequences for you in mind before determining HOW to deal with suspicion of infidelity.

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