If you are married and not happy but you have a two year old child should you leave or tough it out?

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i think u need to ask yourself this question first .1)Was i am when i got into this marriage ?2)What is making me unhappy ? If you can answer this questions then i think u will know what to do.Hope this helps.

AnswerWell you really have to think it over..do you love that child? How would he/she feel if you left it and stop caring for your child? It's you choice. I would keep caring for that child and you might learn to love it.

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AnswerToughing it out isn't healthy for anyone. Either get marriage counseling to see if you can fix what is wrong and if that isn't what your marriage needs, then you do what is best for you. Your child will only suffer if you and your ex allow it. Many times people think staying together for the children is the answer and its not. That only begets, resentment and strife. Look at it this way, the only thing that should change in the divorce is the living arrangements and finances, only somewhat. If you are asking for the divorce and are the man and she doesnt work, you will pay child support and she will need to get a job, too. If you are the women asking for the divorce you will get child support and need to get a job. You both still be the best people and parents to each other and your child and rise above the old sterotype that just because you are getting a divorce that it has to get ugly and your nasty to one another. I got a divorce and lived with my ex, for 6 years, living arrangements, we both went about our personal business, didnt fight about money, made sure the child was never put in the middle or compromised, made sure bills were split evenly and everything was paid and taken care of. We had family dinners and outings and worked out arrangements for when one of us wanted to go out. Come to find out that we both dated others and didnt actually want to be with anyone else and got remarried, now weve been married for 3 years and we are tooling right along. Our son is a well adjusted boy and an honor student in school. We have a great relationship with him and I think he is going to have a better relationship than ours because he saw that mom and dad, didnt fight or hate each other just because they were divorced, like many other kids, he knows, parents. We talk everything out and put the problems on the table as soon as they arise. I know your child is only two, so every discussion has to be age appropriate and one of the best things both of you can do, is to be sure never to bad mouth one another to the child, that will be and is damaging. I know easier said then done but you do have the right to be happy and if its not with this person then find someone else. We only have one life to live. Good luck.