Is it crazy 2 think you have found the 1 if your only 16 because i feel that we will have a future together and i have waited for 2 yrs to go out with her an always thought she may be the 1?

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no it is not irrational at all to think this. obviously, you have a lot of love and respect for this special person. Don't feel like you are over your own head in your thoughts, just be aware that you have to be careful when you approach her about this. I know you have waited a good two years to be with this girl, (very impressive!) and you want to be with her sooo very badly, which may end up happening, but you must look at the situation through her eyes. How would you feel if someone YOU dated, assuming there were others, suddenly announced that you were the one? I am sure it might come as quite a shock, especially if you did not have years to think about it! If she is not aware of how you feel about her, you need to be very patient. you have been wonderfully patient already, but it takes a relationship, trust and understanding to build between the two of you before she can really understand you emotions. Do not suddenly tell her because it will probably scare her off! There was a boy I knew i high school who had liked me for years, i had no idea, and then one day when we had switched seating arrangements her finally got the courage to ask me out. He really was not my type, and i politely told him "no", but he got so extremely sad because he had wanted me for SO long, and then i hurt him. the next day he gave me a ring with his name engraved on it, hoping it would keep it always and think of him. To me, he just seemed like a random guy and it made me very uncomfortable. In fact, I didn't even know he was in my class before he introduced himself! he actually dropped out of that class the next week because he could not handle facing me again. Anyway, to get to the point, we both had very different expectations. He expected me to leap for joy and say "yes! where have you been all my life!" and I, not even knowing him, expected him to give me my space and let me think about things for myself. keep this in mind when you are with your girl! If she doesn't see things your way, give it time. and certainly don't ask her to marry you until you are 18! I wish you both the best of luck!