Should you stay in a seven year marriage with two young kids if you desire to be with other men all the time?

Answer 1

I don't know your situation, but if you have a really nice husband, I suggest you try harder in your marriage. No one said marriage was easy. I have been married 32 years and yes, there were times I wanted to have a fling, but only in my dreams! LOL I knew I had a good man, and I always know the grass on the other side of the fence is never greener. One of the problems with marriage and having children is the fact it can be a drudge at times. The magic of the courtship is basically over, but the good news is, if you try you can get it back. Try a weekend away every so often with your husband and have the in-laws or friends look after the children. Many women feel like you and I do believe it feels like we are losing our identity at times. You could be working, but if you aren't try to work part-time. Often women are stuck at home looking after their children and don't feel they are really accomplishing much or part of society. Raising children is the hardest job out there as you know. If going out to work is out of the question for you, then perhaps you would be good at writing Children's Books or fiction. Take some classes in something you like and get out with other people (not affairs.) Tap into yourself and find what you are good at (we always surprise ourselves.) By doing so you will feel more independent and feel free. Usually when a partner seeks out an affair there is a reason and it never has anything to do with sex. Women often feel taken for granted, sort of like the shadow that hangs around the house. Women often feel unappreciated and there is a burning desire to want to be free again and do what the individual wants to do. Before you make any hasty decisions you should sit down and discuss your feelings with your husband. You might be surprised that he is willing to help you out or at least support you in your desires. Seeking out other men is never the answer and you'll only be cheating yourself. Be sure you are well aware of what you could lose .. perhaps a good husband and possibly the right to have your children live with you. You may feel like you want to be free now, but that feeling will rub off soon enough and you could well be sitting all alone and chasing your own tail. This is so common there is phrase for it--it's called the "seven-year itch" You can work through it. I should know since I also experienced it (divorce was even mentioned a few times), but hubby and I both worked very hard to get through it. Our marriage today is happy, healthy, and strong. Next week we celebrate our 15th anniversary.