You bring the main people that are involved in the wedding that's it ...
Any additional guests are NOT your responsibility . Other people have no business inviting extra people. If they insist, then they can pay for the dinners of the extra guests, or if it is at your home, just say no. Your plans are alredy made with no provision for extra guests.
The mother of the bride goes to the church rehearsal where the wedding party practices what they should do and say and then there is generally a Wedding Rehearsal Dinner after which all members of the wedding party (including the parents of the bride and groom.) There is no dress rehearsal for most brides or wedding party, but the bride and her brides maids would have to go into the wedding shop where the wedding dress and brides maids dresses were purchased to be sure no extra alterations have to be made on any of the dress and the mother may attend this if she asks the bride (which is generally not a problem.)
If the brides parents have a good excuse for not being able to attend the rehearsal dinner it isn't the end of the world and you can still have the rehearsal dinner. If there was a disagreement and the bride's parents refuse to come it is up to the bride to be to let her parents know that it is going to be one of the happiest days of her life and they are ruining the fun by not attending the rehearsal dinner. If they still decline then have fun with the ones that will be attending the rehearsal dinner.
Remember this wedding is not about the parents, it is about their child and they are there to bear witness, show support, and ensure neither the groom nor the bride decide they have cold feet and vanish.
I'm looking for a guide that explains clearly what the responsibilties are for the grooms parents and for the brides parents. I want 1 thru 20 clearly so that there will not be any questions who does what!!!!
Historically the brides family is responsible for the reception and the brides dress. If the bride called off the wedding most courts would not be willing to entertain a lawsuit for expenses that the brides family incurred as part of planning for a wedding.
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Customarily, the brides parents pay for the wedding.
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Yes. Etiquette has nothing whatever to do with who is paying.
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Parents of the GroomTraditionally, contribute financially to the following:-Purchasing engagement ring/bride's wedding ring-Rehearsal Dinner the night before the wedding-HoneymoonIt would be very offensive to the bride's family for the groom or his family to offer to pay for anything else, unless it is under very special circumstances.The groom's family is NOT obligated under any circumstance to pay for alcohol, except the alcohol at the rehearsal dinner! If it is agreed that alcohol be served at the reception, it goes on the bride's parents' tab!Parents of the BrideThe bride's parents may be responsible for hosting the wedding, if they will be completely financially responsible for the event. In some cases, the father of the bride escorts his daughter down the aisle alone, but in other instances or in religious ceremonies, both parents may accompany the bride. In all cases, it's her preference. The mother of the bride may help fund or contribute to the planning of the bridal shower if the Maid of Honor needs assistance. These parents may also foot the cost of an engagement party or dinner to meet the groom's family.The old tradition is that the Groom's parents should pay for the alcohol. Since there are always those few that make pigs of themselves when the alcohol is free it's acceptable to give tickets to the bar for two free drinks (legal for driving after a meal of course.) Some father's pay the whole bar bill, but it can be expensive. Since there are so many divorced parents now and one may be a single parents the above suggestions are right on.The rehearsal dinnerIt is perfectly acceptable and tradition for the the parents of the groom, (or groom), to also be financially responsible for the-marriage license-Brides bouquet-Transportation of Bride and Groom after reception (get-away car; limo)-Transportation of Groomsmen to ceremony-Grooms/Groomsmen formal wear-Boutonnieres for groom/groomsmen-Corsages for bride and brides family-The bar tab at the reception.Additionally, it's perfectly acceptable for the grooms parents and/or the brides parents not to pay any of the associated costs of the wedding if the couple to be are being disrespectful little pigs.Traditionally, the bride's parents paid for the ceremony and reception, the bride's attire, and her dowry. The groom's parents paid for the rehearsal dinner and the officiant, and sometimes the alcohol. The groom paid for the honeymoon and the rings.For the most part, these traditions went out the window when women stopped being property of her father and then husband, and when the couple stopped getting married right out of their parents' homes. Today, anything goes. Typically, the couple pays for a large portion, and sometimes the parents gift whatever they can afford to help out, sometimes in exchange for control over some portion of the planning. No one has any duties or responsibilities other than the couple.