What can you do when you love someone and they don't know it and you're afraid of rejection?

Answer 1

Believe it or not well over 90% of people are shy (many just fake the fact they aren't) and there is just a small percent that actually feel very confident. Most of us get butterflies in our stomachs when we think of someone special and you ache to tell them how you feel, but most of us when younger do fear rejection. If you break down the word "rejection" it first sounds like a very stinging word, but in reality we get rejected every single day of our lives. It could be something as simple of trying to be nice to a student in school or a clerk in a store and they just stare at you like you have a growth between your eyes. We can look for a job and be rejected from many before we finally find one. You could talk to a close friend for advice and they look at you in a stupor. So "rejection" isn't all that bad. What I did with the word, was I ignored it. I realized not everyone was going to feel the same about me as I might feel for them, or they may not like me for who I am, but I'll never cheat myself by being something I'm not and try my best by learning from past mistakes. I refuse to go through life not trying and end up getting old with a lot of "what if I'd done this differently" or, "what if I'd just asked that guy out things could be different. Each person on this earth is unique and special in their own way. Some for the good, some for the bad. Never cheat yourself and second-guess who you are. Be the best YOU can be and that should satisfy yourself. Now, once you have done this you are more confident to go right up to that young man and invite him out to a party, movies, etc. If you are super nervous then try double-dating with a friend so not all attention is on you. Take it slow and easy and smile, then perhaps talk to him if you get a chance. You can ask what classes he is taking, what his favorite band is or what type of movies he likes. Keep the conversations short at first until you get use to being around him and seeing what his reaction is. When you feel a little more confident then ask him out. If he says no, try and not take it too personally. He may have a girlfriend or like another girl he hasn't asked out yet. When I was younger it seemed I liked all the guys that didn't like me in a romantic way, and the guys I didn't care for were asking me out on dates. Well, it all balances out in the end. Good luck Roseline! Marcy