What do you do if you have been married for 9 years and have 3 children and your husband is not happy and doesn't know why but he says he wants to make it work but you can tell he is still unhappy?

Answer 1

Sometimes a marriage can get bogged down in the daily routine. It might be a good idea to go to a marriage counselor to see if you can find out what's going wrong. You should be able to find something you can do to put a spark back into your marriage. If you still care about each other, it might just be as simple as finding out a little about the needs of each other. answer You need Jesus Christ at the center of your marriage. It's not a fast and easy cure, but a solid proven one. Answer There is a ring of truth from the above posters. What many people don't understand (just been figured out by medical science not that long ago) is that men go through "Andropause." It's similar to women's perimenopause. Men were literally left out of the circle. Both female/males have hormone changes all through their lives and the human body goes through an almost total chemical change every 7 years. For some these changes can be gradual and for others they may experience depression, moodiness, withdrawn from family and friends and even lack energy in the workplace. They feel there is something missing in their lives, but don't know what it is and they often wonder why they are here in the first place, in other words, "Is this it?" It's no reflection on those loved ones around them. Some men/women will become more depressed, put up with what is going on or some may cheat thinking an extramarital affair will fix it all (not true of course.) This is a time when people can make some pretty serious mistakes without meaning too. I suggest you get your husband into the doctor for a testosterone test and if his testosterone level is low then he can be given shots, a patch or "Androgel" a gel that is rubbed onto the shoulder or stomach area and is obviously absorbed by the skin. Many men don't know that this can be one of the things wrong with them ... low testosterone. If the hormone levels aren't low then a thyroid test (T3/T4) should be done and also a test on the adrenal system as well as a EKG on the heart. Low testosterone can happen in young people right up to old age so there is no age limit. Don't give up, and get your husband in for a good physical and those tests. Good luck

Answer2: Many marriages get like that when things are allowed to become mundane and routine. When was the last time you got a babysitter and went on a date night, to dinner just the two of you a movie or vacation? When was the last time you just sat and talked openly and honestly? Maybe you could do something special like a favorite meal, or help the children do something special for him, breakfast in bed one weekend morning. Get your husband to have a complete physical exam if he has not done so, he could be suffering from depression or something else is making him feel out of sorts. Never take each other for granted. No matter how bad things may seem, you can have a successful marriage and happy family life. (See many articles and suggestions on marriage and happy family life on Jehovah's Witnesses official website)