The correct way to address a gift is "Mr. & Mrs. James Smith". The couple is already married so it is proper to address it this way.
You can have it a pre-wedding gift or an advance wedding gift.
Either of the couples names would be appropriate.
No, address the gift to both of course.
If you have not been invited to the wedding then you should not send a gift.
You generally send a wedding gift to the bride's home and the address where gifts are to be sent is the return address on the envelope re the wedding invitation.
Bring a card or small token gift.
It is only proper to write a check that is a wedding gift to both the bride and the groom. Since the wedding is all about them becoming a couple, you wouldn't want to leave one of them out for this occasion.
It is considered polite to address a wedding card to both people who were married.
AnswerIf was not done by a formal invitation, in print and sent through the mail, you are not obligated to send anything at all. Usually, the return address will be on the reply envelop so you could send something if you choose to. When a oral invitation to a wedding is given its usually an after thought and I find it highly insulting, sometimes people do that to fish for a gift. IF you do choose to send a gift, the proper thing would be is to find out from the parents where the daughter will be residing after getting married and send the gift there because you dont send a gift before a wedding, its after you know that the wedding actually occurred and curiously, have you been invited to the bridal shower as well? That too should tell you of their considerations for you.
It is quite common and acceptable to attend a wedding without bringing a gift with you. Many people give the wedding gift before the wedding, and some give it after the wedding. So if you've already given the gift, or plan to give it later, it is perfectly find to attend the wedding without bringing a gift with you. And if you simply can't afford a wedding gift, then don't worry about it. A wedding is about the bride and groom wanting their family and friends to share in their happiness and the celebration of their marriage, and shouldn't be all about inviting guests just so they will get more gifts. If I ever felt someone invited me to a wedding simply to get a gift, I would not go to the wedding, nor would I get them a wedding gift.
Etiquette states that you have up to a year after the wedding to get someone a wedding gift.
* The best thing to do when someone does not buy a wedding gift for your son or daughter's wedding is to ignore it. Some of these guests may well give a wedding gift later and those that don't then they have no etiquette and just remember that when it's their turn if one of their children gets married. It's not worth the energy to bring it up and is not proper etiquette to do so.
No, dates do not have to give a gift to the wedding couple. Your date does.