What should you do if your husband told you that he is having an emotional affair with no physical contact but you are very hurt?

Answer 1

Well I am with someone who has had emotional affairs multiple times. He down plays it becasue they dont have sex. He has slept with and tried to sleep with women though. I have begged and cried for him to stop and every time he says he will. He wont. Everytime we get any problem there he is talking to other girls. Its more painful to me then him having a one night stand because its intimate. He has feelings for her and her him. Its so hurtful. You have every right to be as angry and hurt as if he was to have sex. If he will have an emotional affair he would be willing to have a sexual one. Him telling you is a good sign, I always had to find out myself and snoop around cause he would lie. I guess you can hope it doesnt happen again and give him another chance. Or walk away now before you end up like me. Thank you for your advise. Should I call the girl and tell her that the man she's been talking is my husband. And should I tell her that "It is alright to just have my husband as one of her friend only not a boyfriend?" They are both medical students. I think this is one of reason why my husband is attracted to her. The girl is currently located out of state, so the phonecalls exceeds more than 3-6 hours per day. I am getting hurt. My husband even bought me the new Toshiba Tablet PC -- I told him this is not a gift, its a bribe. He honestly told me that its 50% bribe and 50% gift. He constantly reminding me that he only loves me' that his heart only belongs to me. Everytime I want to move-out, he cries. Now, he just promised that everytime he will talk to the girl, he will let me hear it. I think doing this means that he is just playing with the other girl? Please advise. Thank you once again.

Answer 2

if your husband is connecting with another woman on an emotional or physical level, he is not getting from the relationship with you what he should be. Ditch him and find somebody who thinks you are enough for them and doesn't need to have long phone conversations with another woman. Even if the relationship is not physical now, it soon will be.

AnswerWhat if he promise me that he will talk to the girl over the phone in front of me. So, I can hear their conversations. Will you consider this type of situation a cheating still? Please advise. Thanks. AnswerLady, I'm not usually this blunt, but it's time you faced reality. If my husband talked on an emotional level with a girl on the phone in front of me that phone would be "up where the sun don't shine" and the ringing would be coming out of his nostrils! Get some dignity and sit this guy down and tell him to grow up, get counseling with you or get out!

Answer 3

Better that he told you about it. Ask him (without being emotional in your reaction, hard, I know) what is missing in y'all's relationship that he is looking for outside? Ask does he want a relationship with her? but first of all, go get checked for std's and hiv, because he may be only telling some of the truth. Tell him you want to meet his needs as his wife, and that you look to him to meet yours... but Your top need is for him to be loyal to you, then everything else can fall into place. if you both decide to work this out, tell him that you both have to be ultra-aware of becoming close at all to people out of your marriage, because this can happen all over again, and easily. there are lists online of what is appropriate behavior when married, and what is not... find one you agree with and go over it with him. he also needs to be very open with you about all of his relationships/interactions, passwords for sites, email, phone, etc, as well as understand that you are going to need to ask him things, needing his reassurance of his loyalty because of what he has done. if he is not willing to do it, I don't see too much hope long term. God bless you and your marriage.