What type of friends or people do narcissists tend to hang out with?

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When I was with my narcissist he had very shallow, untrustworthy friends. He led his life as if he was this almighty powerful person, but when it came right down to it the only people in his life he could trust were the ones who had no idea how he really was, and no one else. His friends were very untrustworthy, yet he trusted them and it seemed as if he was friends with people that added flash or "look" to his life but little else. Yhis friends is good to party with and take him here, this friend is tough and makes him look cool etc. The only friends he had that truly cared for him, had NO IDEA how he really was. They would say how sweet and good he was, and what a wonderful person he is, and they had no idea how awful he really was. Yet he considered them his closest friends. I think they mostly hang out with people who have no idea who they are, or people that are only there for the look. It's what I've noticed anyway.

AnswerMy N had a whole bunch of fantastic friends who were all incredibly happy when I came along because I appeared to sort him out a bit, then he ended up back with his insane ex who f***ed with his head even more and made him go completely off the rails falling out with his friends and family. Since then, his friends and family have all discovered he has NPD and most are willing to stick by him and help as long as he carries on going to see a Psychiatrist. AnswerI am going through a painful separation and divorce from my husband who I feel is a narcissist. From what I can tell he hangs out with people who he can impress with his BS, and people he feels aren't as smart as he is, and who he can fool. He likes to know who his "enemys" are, so he doesn't get the snot kicked out of him. Smart people see through him pretty fast. He does has a small (very small) few old friends that after new friends find out what he's really like, he will come back into their lives. He usually does something to them, lets them down in some way them he will find someone new and wait until he wrecks that friendship then he works his way back to the old friends. The old friends are true blue decent people, sucsessful, happy families etc. everything HE wants to be but isn't, but at the same time He thinks He could be ALL of those things but MORE if only something wasn't holding him back, Like in our case, me. It's a big circle. AnswerMy N. always became attached at the hip to one male friend at a time. He'd stick with them for several years or so, as long as they continued to pump his ego. A few of them were normal, good people so they eventually moved on with their lives and left him in the dust. The other half of his "best friends" are exactly like him; they may even be narcissists themselves. They have no self esteem, use women as sex objects, are totally selfish and self-absorbed. I also found that my N. has younger friends because they tended to look up to him and think he was "so cool" which was exactly what he always looked for.

The narcissists I know is a mucisian with a large fan base (pretty famous actually) and he befriends other narcissists. But mostly he doesn't have any friends who are really close to him. He likes to keep 'adoring' fans who he thinks are important to him. The only compliments he gets are from fans who have no idea what he's like...they treat him like a God who is so wonderful and perfect and he probably believes them. Look to see if the people who got to REALLY know him well and were once 'close' to him, still want anything to do with him. That's a sign of a narcissist. They can't maintain long-term friendships.