Why do a lot of answers to abuse questions contain an explanation of stalkers and borderline personality disorder rather than an actual answer to the question?

Answer 1

Because it is hard to separate possibly dangerous behaviors from the abusive personality. I think there are several theories as to why abusers act as they do and there are many labels out there for the cause. As in any discipline, there are theories and real life answers and so you see both in the answers. Many abusers can stalk their victim if she has decided to leave the relationship and it happens more often than one can imagine. Abusers are about psychological mess-ups. They are controllers, and either mental or physical abusers. If you would like to learn more about it please go onto: www.Google.com and type in: What is the cycle of abuse? Hope it helps. Marcy Ask your question and I'll be glad to answer it. Hope to hear from you. Marcy