Why do gentle women choose abusive men?

Answer 1

I think it has something to do with the fact that some women want a "manly man". One that is rough and rugged and can do things that "men are supposed to do". More often than not these 'manly men' are abusive as well. Best Answer usually the abusive men are the ladies man at first and all they really want to get in your pants so if you reject him or her then they will probly hit u once at first and he/she will say i will never do it again... so they say Do you REALLY think that a Women chooses an "abusive man". I don't believe that when a Women starts dating or gets Married to a man that he is abusive. (Correct me if I'm wrong Ladies) The relation turns abusive after the fact, be it mental of physical. My Sister dated a physically abusive man and my Brother was married to a mentally abusive women. So as you see it can go both way's. What the person being abused needs to realize is that they are Stronger then they think, and that there is something MUCH better out there for them then what they have. Hope This Helps.

Answer 3 In this situation, a particular woman doesn't chose an abusive man. She has this need to nurture a man to feel good about herself. She is attracted to an abusive man who exhibits a need to be nurtured. For example, the abuser could have a need to find a place to live due to financial problems etc, and is willing to speed the relationship up faster than a non abusive man. Or the man tells her he is trying to stop using alcohol or drugs and she feels the need to help him get better. The abuser will never appear to be weak because he is trying to cover-up his weaknesses. If a normal man doesn't give this woman a reason to nurture him, she will become bored with him and seek another man to fulfill the need to nurture. I'm an old man who has seen this behavior repeated over and over again by nurturing women and men. Truth is anyone who falls in love with someone because they are in need or mis-understood by society needs help them self.

Answer 2

* Abusive men (this can include women too) generally have become the way they are from the environment they have grown up in, but, they can also have had many disappointments in life and take it out on weaker persons (especially women) or, they can just be plain mean to the bone. Gentle, loving and kind women are the perfect targets for abusers because they are generally very trusting, giving and romantics at heart. Women of abuse can come from all races, cultural backgrounds; be middle class, rich or poor. An abusive man does not show his true colors immediately and can be the most giving, loving and charming man going and will often ply his victim with gifts and spout constant words of love. However, the abusive person cannot hide some traits such as: Telling the woman what clothes she should wear or ordering her meals in restaurants or wanting to know where she is every minute of her day. The woman is blinded by love and often simply doesn't see these red flags. The abusive man will work on getting her to trust him and eventually if they live together or get married his true colors will come out. Abusers are immature, ego maniacal, selfish and confused and if stress is too great for them they can go off the rails at any given time. Sometimes the abuse is verbal and often times physical. Well over 30 percent of women are beaten to death in an abusive relationship or stalked and murdered. There is help for abused women at Women's Abuse Centers, but often times the victim is so terrified she is afraid to reach out for help. She is also use to the brain-washing techniques her abuser has laid upon her for months to possibly years and begins to believe she is worthless and that no one would want her. The abuser wants her to be totally dependent on him. Women of abuse are not weak and those that manage to get away from their abusers are heroines in their own right. For those that stay, they simply do the best they can.

Answer 3

What makes a man abusive is that they hurt you on purpose. Most reasons they do this in the first place is because they are small tempered and if you anger them you won't be happy.As for the women seeking i don't think that has ever happened. In most cases you can't tell if a man is abusive by looking at him or even talking to him. Also no one in there right mind would want to ask for that kind of abuse so ya. I hope that helped! =)

Answer 4

Because they sense that the abused woman is submissive and they can abuse her easier than, say, a strong woman who stands up for herself.