I fell in love with several of his qualities: he was energetic, ready for fun, unafraid to try new things, and always ready to play.
He told me I was the one he'd been looking for all of his life. He made me feel beautiful, fun, adventurous. He's very good looking and charismatic, like a movie star. In the beginning, it took my breath away that he wanted to be with me so much.
When his strange behavior became more and more perplexing, I started reading about psychopaths. He sure fit the model!
I still was in love with him but for my own sake, I had to break off our relationship. He wouldn't listen to my needs, my wishes, my feelings. He was incapable of true empathy.
Part of me is still in love with him because I felt thrilled to be with him at times and because I think his illness is just that - an illness he can't help anymore than someone can help having Diabetes.
The "mothering" in me kicks in, too, and makes me want to take care of him. I've tried that for years and it's never enough or good enough for him. One way or another, he'll find a way to blame me.
So I have to let go of the dream of how it could have been if only he were well. At least I know now the magnetism and manipulation of a sociopath and will never get involved with another one. I have matured enough to want an equal partner, one with empathy and consideration.
Reading the above, one may wonder, "Am I dating/married to/friends with a sociopath?"
Ask yourself. Is he scatterbrained and flighty? Does he have trouble in concentrating on more than one thing at a time, to the point that he can endanger his safety or that of others? Does he fly into a rage at the slightest thing? Is he controlling and manipulative? Does he "have to" get rough to have sex? Does he lie a lot, or, if not, at least does he twist and slant the truth and leave out crucial details?
Even if it's "yes" to most of these things, it could be something else.
But it is best to find out.
Numerous websites on the Internet will tell you that research using brain scanning technology has recently revealed that the brain of a psychopath functions and processes information differently.
Are you involved with a psychopath (extreme sociopath)? You may not know because they can be very charming and friendly and can appear to be altruistic, until you get close and inevitably they do something threatening or immoral and then you must set limits that disappoint them.
The near-constant state of frustration and dissatisfaction felt by a true psychopath is the source of not only their rages but those eerie, on-and-off-like-a-faucet tears. (Yes, tears are seen even in some men, though of course still more common in children and women.)
But, don't assume anyone is a psychopath based only on the person's apparent attitude and behavior. It is far more complex than that, including factors in the pattern of the person's life and many other characteristics.
Please don't go around assuming or calling someone a psychopath just because he/she may have some of the warning signs.
Get a professional opinion from a qualified mental health professional if you think you are involved with a psychopath. And then ask what to do, not only for the psychopath but for yourself, because being involved with a psychopath is risky.
And what then? Only time will tell.
And some people have said that the only way to persuade a sociopath or psychopath to seek help is by threatening him/her with DEATH!!
One way -- or another...
And the main reason sociopaths don't usually seek helpfrom their fellow human beings is that they can't trust, rather than that they like being as they are. Plus, they can often sense exactly what sort of a response any call for help on their part is most likely to elicit from professionals and lay folk alike.
Sociopaths are not breezing along in paradise. It isn't all a game. It's a truly miserable existence. And it can be made better. It may not be "curable" yet, but it most certainly isn't as hopeless as so many people say. There is therefore nothing to be gained and much to be lost when therapists and lay folk try to ostracize sociopaths from the human race entirely! Sensationalism and superstition will only prevent progress.
This was written on another question on the same essential topic as this one, by a self-confessed sociopath who was officially diagnosed (other than me!) --
The essay that follows was written in another answer by another self-admitted sociopath, who actually might not be a sociopath. Still another person added the brief comment to that effect after her tragic essay.
Comment: The above testimony is clearly not indicative of a sociopath because she seems to make efforts to keep from harming others, even if it doesn't benefit herself.
In response to the comment above - not wanting to harm others does not exclude someone from being a sociopath. The definition of a sociopath does not entail somebody being hell-bent on destroying others for their own amusement, or completely happy to utilise their manipulative abilities to use every person they meet for their own gains. This is an unfair misconception, that only serves to malign and ostracise a subsection of humanity - yes, sociopaths are humans too. And trust me, they are capable of intense tides of emotion and some of them suffer a great deal with what they are, their condition.
The sociopath is someone lacking in empathy, and who doesn't feel remorse of guilt in the typical sense. Often, this will lead to criminal or otherwise malignant activity, as the sociopath is not hindered by empathy for the victim. However, people are all different, and sociopaths are people. They don't necessarily want to harm others. They just do, because they aren't equipped with the same facilities that we empaths have to prevent us from hurting people (and our equipment is faulty at best).
This may seem like an overly sympathetic portrait of the struggling sociopath, and in many ways it is, but it does bother me how everyone seems to think that being unable empathise with or understand another's pain necessarily entails a desire to cause it.
In answer to the original question -
People fall in love with sociopaths for many reasons, as people tend to fall in love with people in general for many reasons, but a big part of it is because of their gifts at making people feel adored. They know what you need, and how to make you want to be with them. The love of a sociopath can be intense and all-consuming, even if that love is, by definition, selfish. I happen to be in love with an undiagnosed sociopath who has never been anything but adoring and good to me, and as far as I can tell, honest about everything but details. It's difficult and infuriating to watch sometimes how he is incapable of seeing that some of the things he does are hurtful, or morally dubious, and it is unsettling how at times he does downright awful things without feeling the slightest bit of remorse. He literally just can't see from another perspective, mine included. But I didn't fall in love with him for his incredible emotional insights or the terrible pain he feels for the poor kittens in Africa. He isn't just a sociopath, isn't just a label, he's a man too, an intelligent and entertaining one at that. I am vigilant, and I understand that this will most likely end up damaging me in the long run, but so will a lot of things, and that doesn't mean I am going to turn my back on someone I love for who and what he is.
Well, if you stay in love your a homo and if you fall in love your a lover
they fall in love to stay alive :)
Yes but it is not usually possible to stay together. Love is simply a chemical reaction in the brain. Some people find a person that they want to be with but that chemical that is released fades then they find there are things they can not stand about another person. Some people are able to work through differences and stay together.
Yes, it could be possible to people in that condition. Emotions take over and they are unable to stay in love.
until the tornado ends and then the people fall and die or get injured
Sutton is going to fall in love with thayer, and Emma is going to stay with Ethan..
Pluto fell in love with Proserpine because cupid's mother told him to shoot an arrow and make Pluto fall in love with Proserpine because she wanted to stay unmarried and the mother wanted more power
Till they get married and sometimes stay together till they die.
Many couples stay married who are not in love. If the benefits exceed the difficulties, even in an age of easy divorce, people will do that.
Yes, but both would not like it, and it would probably not last. Living with a sociopath is awful for anybody, and the main reason that people stay is because they don't want to hurt the sociopath. As a sociopath is egocentric, the sociopaths would not care about each other's feelings, and would leave each other.
You can't make someone love you, they either do or they dont. You can use manipulation to make someone be and stay with you - but that is for big time losers. Don't be a loser.
Love isn't something you can control. Once you fall in love with someone, they become a part of your heart and soul, and while you may still fall out of love with someone I believe they will always still be a part of you, no matter what has happened in your past. We don't control who we fall in love with, but when you do fall in love you'll know, and that's what happened to Edward and Bella. They fell in love out of their control, and when they realized they both loved each other and realized they were always going to be a part of each others hearts and had to stay together (after Edward leaves in new moon they realize this) they accepted and then pursued their love.
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If you never fall in love then it doesn't matter. It is better to stay without a love than marry someone you don't love. Some people don't find their true love, and that doesn't make you sad. It's nothing terrible to not find someone you like. But if you really want someone to love, you could always try speed dating and other dating websites etc. It may sound sad but sometimes they help you find the person who is right for you!
I Stay in Love was created in 2007.
Well people do fall out of love. After taking several serious hits in a relationship, the love that you felt will be replaced with hate, anger and pitty. Just don't let it stay in your heart for too long. Sometimes you just wake up you're not in love any more. Maybe you're not really that serious in that relationship.
Some people love to stay at home for luxury.
Its called stupidity! are you sure this love, or is it fear? i think its impossible to love somebody who could be abusive towards you and your employer aswell? i think u need to stay away from this one love.
Do what you feel is best you can tell her and see what she says or does. Or you could let her be happy and stay with that other guy
I guess, though it's not recommended. Would you like a (probably miserable) stay in Bowser's castle?
your love being inlove so much so that its hard for you to stay single unfortunately its difficult for you to stay in love over time.too many people intrigue! you only your true love will be able to keep you interested over time
stay in touch, stay in love...
Stay in Love was created in 1976-10.
you are the one to decide so do not test how people feel about love affairs. if you do not love him so what happen? a baby is not a factor for you to stay with him ma friend ok?