Why does love hurt so bad?

Answer 1

It hurts when you love someone because when you truly and deeply care about someone with all your heart, you can't help but be worried about them all the time, and it hurts because you never want to lose them and you're afraid that you will, even if they assure you that you won't.

Answer 2

Actually, in some cases feeling this way is a stroke of luck. If we could always be together with the one we love it's human nature that we sometimes take them for granted. In your case it sounds like you'll never be together. Leaving someone you love or can't have is actually a grieving process, just as if someone dear to you died. In ways, something has died ... you know you won't be with this person. Time is the only healer, and you will get over the hurt eventually. I remember having a great love before I met my husband and things didn't work out. I felt as if someone had reached in and tore my heart out of my body. I began to think that I would never heal and that no one could ever replace this great love that once was. Not true! I was lucky, realized that I had to accept it, be glad for some of the memories and move on. By doing so (going out with friends, dating other guys) I actually had fun and felt free and more importantly got to know who I was and what I wanted out of life. Sort of like graduating from High School, I was pleasantly surprised to be introduced to my future husband by a good male friend of mine. I now think that if I hadn't had that one great love lost I wouldn't have met and married the wonderful man I am married to now. The love relationship I have now is the one and only great love in my life. Oh yes, I have thought back with fond memories on that other great love, but smile, and when I remember I remember the memories and not the hurt. Take it slow, don't sit around moping too long, dust yourself off and get out there with friends. If you don't mix out there you won't find that special someone and they are out there! Good luck Marcy I know love hurts because it has hurt me. I love this guy but he won't date me and it hurts like hell!

Answer 3

Love wow what a big word.

I myself am in love with a girl I have been talking to for 2 yrs. and out of the blue she tells me she just wants to be friends. What do you do there.

She has no clue that my feelings for this girl are so deep and at the dance she just ignored me. She was so mean towards me it hurt so bad to watch her dance with all these guys, and then my friend tells me he likes her and wants to talk to her. He knows how much I like this girl but, I don't know, I don't want to lose the girl, I want to be with her but it seems like she doesn't want to be. I don't want to be out of her life, I want to be there. I want her to go to prom with, I want her to be with me but it is so hard for her to see herself with me. Her friends hate me and, I don't know, what to do. I bought the girl flowers for v day and I was to big of a weakling to give them to her because she was mad at me and I just want her to feel the same way toward me but I have a feeling she might like someone else and it hurts. I want this so bad, I want this girl and it hurts me so bad that she doesn't want to do anything with me; she doesn't want to talk to me, I hate my life, I don't want to be here, I don't want to live if I cant know that I still have that chance with this girl. I love her so much.

Are you still with us Teddy? You didn't jump off the bridge yet did you? I hope not. I just spent the last few minutes correcting the grammar and spelling of your answer to get it off the flagged list and by doing so I discovered the solution to your dilemma is right in your own answer. Look at the paragraph above mine. Do you see how many times I had to capitalize the "i"s in there. That's the clue, you are obsessed with your own self and your own need. To get past this situation, you must look outside yourself. Look around you to others needs, your family, your school, your church, your community. Someone in one or more of these groups should have some need that you can help with. Get out into some new settings and see what you can do.

Answer 4

Difficult Relationships

When you love someone, it means you care for them and want to protect them. If you break up, you still have that need to protect and care for them, and this can leave a "hole" in your feelings. If you're in a relationship and it's not going well, and it hurts you, then it may not be love that you are feeling.

Breaking UpAfter the breakup of close relationships, one or both of those involved can experience strong feelings of loneliness and/or loss. This is fortunately a temporary state in most circumstances, and will improve over time.

Answer

It is because we love that person that they are able to hurt us so easily. If we didn't love or care about that person we wouldn't care about the things that they do. It wouldn't bother us because we wouldn't have the emotions involved as we do when we love someone. Love is such a powerful emotion. It can bring tremendous joy and tremendous sadness. In order to love you must take the risk of being hurt. When you meet the right person, the benefit of loving and being loved is worth the risk. Being hurt by someone you love is devastating but hearing the words "I Love You" from that person is music to your ears.

Answer 5

it dependz on who ur with. If u like the gur/girl and he/she likes u back u should totally go out, and it only hurtz when he/she hurtz u .....this is a complete lie you love this person to much, when your not with them the pain from not being with them is to great to handle. u love this person so much u cant stand not being with them.

because if it didn't hurt then you never really loved them. You cannot except great happiness without the opposite in return. if a person truly makes you happy and you love that person, then the end of that love means the end to that happiness. I am currently going through this myself and notice that the pain is universal, so we can do one of two things; hold on hoping for their return to our live or wish them the best and continue with our. I choose to wish them the best in their live and to continue with mine, because in the end this sadness does pass and we must move on to fine our own happiness.

Answer 6

Obviously you are asking this because there has been many troubles in your recent love life. Get a grip. You're not the only one with problems in their love life, okay? People in Africa are starving and dying of hunger and disease, so most of the time they can't even afford to love. You selfish jerk. Get off the internet.

Answer 7

You have to be honest with yourself and it sounds like you are feeling insecure and perhaps you have been given reasons to feel this way. Either that or you are seeing a married man (not accusing you of this.) You should be happy to see this man every chance you get, but you should also have lots of interests in your life and enjoy going out with girlfriends, going to the odd bar, movies, dinners. Honesty, loyalty are two of the things that are important in a relationship. You have too much time on your hands and if you trust this man, then you shouldn't be feeling the way you do.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

it hurts because its like he or she has beeen with you all the time-trust me it has happened to me. soo sad!