Will a man lose attraction for his wife if she puts on 15-20 pounds and she was only average to begin with?

Answer 1

It's certainly possible, but if that happens, in general, the love and/or attraction may have been suspect in the first place. In my opinion, since everyone is physically, emotionally and intellectually unique, no one is average. If the man in the question considered his wife 'average' he either was attracted to her averageness OR there were other things about her he admired enough to love and marry her. In that case, the 15-20 lbs we are talking about might not compute into what made her attractive to him. Bottom line is this: If you marry a face or a body or parts of a body, time will pass and you will eventually find yourself bitter or disappointed. You should find those things in another person that you can admire, love and be attracted to forever. If the question asker is the wife in the question, I would ask her to look at the big picture. If you feel your husband is losing attraction for you, it's not necessarily because of your weight or appearance. So much more goes into a relationship and there has to be good communication and both sides have needs that need to be met - and often, neither individual is really aware of what their needs specifically are. One good book that really looks at relationships from the aspect of basic human needs is Gary Chapman's "Five Love Languages". I have recommended this book a lot because it is simple and intuitive.