Narcissism

Well, friend, it's important to remember that love can be a complex and deep emotion. Even in challenging situations, our hearts can hold on tightly to the good memories and feelings we shared. It's okay to struggle with letting go, but remember to also prioritize your own well-being and happiness as you navigate this difficult time. You deserve love and respect in all aspects of your life.

It's important to recognize that behavior like this could be indicative of a broader issue such as emotional abuse or manipulation. The discrepancy in behavior could stem from a desire to maintain a positive image in public while feeling more comfortable expressing negative emotions in private. It's crucial to address this behavior with your husband and seek support from a therapist or counselor to navigate the complexities of this situation. Communication, boundaries, and seeking professional help are key steps in addressing and potentially resolving this behavior.

Children can cope with the emotional impact of divorce involving narcissistic fathers by seeking support from a therapist or counselor, setting boundaries with the father, focusing on self-care and building a strong support network of friends and family. It is important for children to prioritize their own well-being and seek help when needed.

Well, honey, when you tell a narcissist you don't want to be friends anymore, get ready for some drama. They might throw a tantrum, play the victim, or try to manipulate you into changing your mind. Just stand your ground and protect your peace, darling. Narcissists thrive on attention, so don't give them the satisfaction of your time and energy.

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a result of both genetic and environmental factors. This means that characteristics such as personality, intelligence, and behavior are influenced by a combination of genetics, upbringing, social interactions, and life experiences. It is important to recognize the complexity of human traits and understand that they are not solely determined by either genetics or environment.

The MMPI is used to screen for personality and psychosocial disorders in adults and adolescents. It is also frequently administered as part of a neuropsychological test battery to evaluate cognitive functioning.

Strictly speaking, no. Down's syndrome is a genetic abnormality, which has, as far as is currently known, no hereditary features. Down's Syndrome most often occurs in the babies of women giving birth over the age of 35, and it is thought that the genetic syndrome is due to the breakdown of the genetic material in the ova of women as they age.

Pathological narcissism (as distinguished from ordinary, or healthy narcissism) or Narcissistic Personality Disorder is not currently seen or proven to have any genetic component whatever. The current thinking is that pathological narcissism is a developmental disorder contributed to by neglectful or conversely, over-attentive parenting which lacks both genuine intimacy and realistic or accurate feedback for the child.

The only 'connection' that might be seen (and it's a stretch) --- is that if a pair of parents who both met sufficient criteria to be officially diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder were to bring up a Down's Syndrome child, they might perceive having such a child as extremely shameful, ignoring or neglecting, or even belittling to abusing the child. Conversely, depending on the peer group of the parents, they might perceive that having such a child could be a source of admiration from others -- they could see and present the child as being "Extra Special" and themselves as grandiosely noble for dedicating themselves to the upbringing of a Down's Syndrome Child. In either case, the child would likely suffer from such parenting in some way.

In this hypothetical situation, siblings would conceivably suffer as well: either from being 'tarred with the same brush" and ignored or belittled in the same way as the Downs Syndrome Child in the first instance; or being utterly ignored for being 'not special enough' in the second.

One human trait is empathy, which involves the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. This trait allows humans to connect with one another on an emotional level and build relationships based on understanding and compassion.

Yes, individuals with narcissistic traits or Narcissistic Personality Disorder can experience dissociation under certain circumstances. Dissociation may serve as a way to protect themselves from emotional distress or threats to their self-image. This can manifest as detachment from reality, feelings of depersonalization, or memory lapses.

means main characteristics, chief points, or personality qualities.

If you feel threatened by someone, a piece of paper (retraining order) is not guaranteed protection - HOWEVER, having that piece of paper will better enable law enforcement to arrest this individual should he pose such an immediate threat. I strongly suggest that you keep any and all voicemail messages, e mail or written letters to strengthen your case against him. If you go forward and request a restraining order, you will have to go before a judge and explain why you think you need one. It is not as difficult as it may seem if you are truly in fear of your life or well-being. Check your local police department how to proceed. I definitely would. It is always better to error on the cautious side when your well-being and life are at stake. I would also take other privacy precautions when it comes to your work/home addresses/phone numbers, email passwords (change them often), ensure friends and family do not tell him/her your whereabouts or circumstances, etc.. My ex-N tried to access my online cell phone account (was locked out), but still somehow found out who I was dating AND tried to break into two of 'his' accounts (I think just to get information - not to steal). He may have actually finally gained access to my account (I would have no way to know unless it was unsuccessful). We have no friends in common who would have told him about the man I was dating. All of this to say, there is a lot you can do that will give you peace of mind - both on and offline. While none of these things are guaranteed protection, they can help. But most definitely get a retraining order if you feel you need to. ~AlwaysLearning

You bet they do and it's called "pushing your buttons!" They torture their victims and believe they are far more intelligent than most. Big mistake! Don't play the game and ignore them. If you were to reverse the psychology of them they would burst at the seams and could possibly become abusive to get the truth out of you. Narcissists NEVER play second-fiddle to anyone!

Oh yes they can seem quite normal some of the time, to a fault. They present an all American image, courteous, attentive and conservative. They can even be generous and sympathetic. Its only after you spend a bit more time and get to know them on a day to day thing that their true colors come out. At first some thing feels "odd" and not quite right. Conversation topics allways revert back to him. He brags alot. Then his stories don't match up. He forgets from one lie to the next what he said. He twists things around that you said and did. Half truths and omissions of truth. Outright lies.

I believe it is a issue of the state of the soul. The refusal to be repentant to God and others they have harmed feeds the beast that grows in the N's mind and heart. They are empty and void of anything but love for self. Even the love they have for their children or mate is nothing more than a supply source. This is not a mental disorder, it is a soul disorder that can only be helped by the N repenting and allowing God to change them. Since the N must admit fault and set God above them , salvation is almost impossible unless God brings them to a place where he is all they have left. In order to help this person, you must set them free, pray for them and then move on with your life. Even if this person seems to have made a change, it may well be short lived because the temptation to exhault themself above you will be there every moment they live. It is a long , painful recovery and if you are reading this and have came to this site for help, you will not be the one that can help the person recover. It will open old wounds for both of you. Move on ..

Ultimately, everyone can blame their problems on something and someone else. One person can blame their behavior on the fact that their parents were too protective and loving, resulting in a feeling that he/she was "smothered". Another person will blame everything on the fact that his parents were cold and sent him/her away to boarding school. Still another will feel that he/she didn't get anough attention because he/she had too many siblings. Still another will feel that he/she would have been far more "normal" if he/she had grown up with siblings. The simple fact is, nobody's parents were perfect. The result is, none of US are perfect. We all have an excuse if we want to use it; "I'm messed up because I was bottle fed." Perhaps it's time to just "Get over it." If we all suffered some form of abuse, then abuse is the norm. But let's face it, much of what some people claim is abuse is nothing more than an imperfect parent trying to do what he/she considers to be best. After we're raised, we have a responsibility to act like grown-ups. A narcissist never learned to grow up, or more accurately, never WANTED to grow up. They never take responsibility for their actions and as such blame everything on everyone else. Wouldn't it be great if we could all do that? But we're adults, we have learned, regardless of our own "dysfunctional" parents, to be responsible. Don't let a narcisist continue to be irresonsible. Yes, it's his/her fault. He/she is the one with the inappropriate behavior. He/she is the one who uses others. Once he/she is grown up, who would you SUGGEST that he blame? = Is this really accurate? = I have read the above comment and although I agree with the poster on principle, it would seem to suggest that narcissists may at some point have had a choice to change their behavior. This is of great interest to me since I have chosen to accept the "inevitability" that the narcissist in my life was simply incapable of being any different. (This is how I am able to cope with it!) A narcissistic personality is a learned behavior so you can bet one or both of his/her parents were narcissistic and they grew up in that environment. I agree with the first poster and it's true, we could all blame something in our past for our behavior or failures, but the truth of the matter is we can change things if we want to bad enough. My father was an alcoholic and although my brother and I loved him a great deal he made our family life miserable. Not once did my brother and I blame our mistakes on our parents and, in fact, we learned from it and neither of us drink to excess. All behavior is learned behavior to some extent. Even instinctive behavior is shaped by the observation of others so the particular form of expression it takes is learned. Narcissism is no different than any other personality trait that is externally expressed. Keep in mind that not everything that is labelled narcissism is really narcissism.

Don't worry a narcissist always lands on his/her feet like a cat! They are sly, selfish, can usually charm the gold out of a person's teeth and never miss a beat for any opportunity. According to the narcissistic mind they have all the power and never run out of ideas and certainly don't feel they have burned all their bridges. Psychologists do believe that there is a love/hate relationship between a male narcissist and his mother (who was probably narcissistic or cruel as well.) Whether the narcissist hates his/her mother they will always run back and hate themselves for doing so. If dear old mother isn't there then they continue to harass an ex-girlfriend or ex-wife.

Your husband isn't narcissistic, but just a plain old jerk! You didn't explain if this was his daughter or yours from a former relationship or marriage and you didn't explain what type of sexual comments he is making, so please explain further if you should choose to answer my post. I'll be watching for it on my "watchlist." A little more info is needed here. Hope you repost. If you witnessed the inappropriate comments, then you definitely know what you have to do--leave! Anything else, you need to talk to your child--or take them to a third party--to see what happened. Your responsibility is to the care and the safety of your child, so however it is with the husband, you will have to leave if it is true. This really is not something you can warn the person about and hope they don't do it again--or that the sexual comments escalate into physical contact.

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Yes Yes indeed, that's how they get you. You get reeled into how exciting their lives are and want to become part of it, when you lose your partner for the first time it makes you feel like your N is off out having a fantastic time whilst you're at home feeling horrible and alone.

I am living with a narcissistic husband. I am finally ready to file for divorce. We have a wonderful 12 year old son and my life with my husband has been living hell for at least the last two years. we have been together for 13 years. I thought it was always my fault. I thought I needed to love him more. It always felt so empty. His verbal abuse has gotten worse in the last year and his ability to give me the silent treatment has gone on for almost 6 months. His favorite word to me is shut up. I finally went to therapy and it was with his help I have been able to see what was happening to my life. It has been horrible and I wanted to marriage to work. Not any more Please help if anyone has any advise You need to become financially independant. He's abusive to you because he knows he has you. It's all about control. He sees that you need him, so he's even meaner to you. Add consequences to his silent treatment. (as long as there is no physical abuse, and I hope there is not) For example, as long as he is silent, he has no say over what's for dinner. Just start making dinner and he has to eat what you make. If he says anything, just say "Well you aren't talking to me so...." Try to play the game back a little. You have to have a thick skin with a narcissist. Mine used to play games like that. The best thing you can do, is ignore them and do what YOU want. When they see that they aren't getting any rise out of you, they stop. It's hard to do sometimes, but it works.

Narcissists can be male or female or attractive or unattractive. They act as if they are the best thing ever and the center of the universe whether they are attractive or not. A person could be physically attractive and realize it but not be a narcissist. After all, models know they are attractive. Let's assume they're not all narcissists. ~ T

Narcissists act as if they want people to envy them, but in reality they envy others which makes them crazy, and they "act out." They easily get into conflicts with coworkers, friends and family just to make a point of being right about a certain subject. It is extremely important to them that others think they are in a "genius" league. Narcissists will choose people of high intelligence (but rarely can keep up) and pick on what they consider the more unintelligent to control and manipulate. They often will hang around "the average person" because they feel these people are controllable and think that he/she is a genius in nature and it strokes their egos. The idea of "it's OK to agree to disagree" is not in their vocabulary. Narcissistic people are actually quite weak and they have had some reason in their up-bringing to be this way. They have either been goaded into the fact they must be a winner at all things, or they have had one or both parents tell them they are stupid and not worth the air space they take up. These type of people have a goal of proving everyone wrong and they are right. They could be under the heading of "perfectionists" yet they aren't and can be quite sloppy about their work habits and every other aspect of their lives. Their vision is distorted as far as what normal society sees out there. Liars they are, but in ways they dramatize on what could be true to impress whomever they are talking to at the time. Marcy ANSWER - I think my N discovered something too...that I was onto him and fed up with him. I received one email from him asking us to be friends, and I have ignored that too and so far..no other response. Still..in my stupidly romantic way I am still longing for him to "get it" and come back to me on bended knee. Right. He knows he pushed me to the edge, and he knows what I see now. The devil has been fully revealed and I am not associating with him anymore. I believe he hasn't the soul to realize his errors. I am not worth the effort anymore because he knows I am onto him and I cannot be duped anymore, I have God on my side and I know he is a liar...ruthless, heartless and faithless. He's probably gloating over the fact that he did have me for so long, filling me with his lies and using me up with what I thought was love but was actually a vampiric sort of using me up. He didn't get me, did he. I saved myself. I just dread seeing him again, because just like Satan, he's all wrapped up in light, but inside he is so, so dark. I will have to pray, maybe show a crucifix, to keep myself from being led astray again. Love to all...mbme If they see you getting more attention than them, they will watch you. My daughter even noticed this loser i was involved with would watch me as I talked to other people. He would be engaged apparantly in a conversation yet keep looking to see who and how i was talking with. But then I would get the silent treatment. These types are envious if you are better looking, get a raise, take care of your kids, have friends, and basically a life.

A person who has been sexually abused as a child doesn't even realize the damage has already occured mentally. Either the child will keep this abuse a secret or if the family should find out it is kept secret. Either way the child usually never wins and is never sent for psychological treatment in their younger years. Sexually abused people live as if there is a hollow in the pit of their very soul and sometimes it takes years to surface. They never really get over it, but with psychological counselling they can certainly live normal lives. Sexually abused people are also very guarded (to protect themselves) and thus, they may come off as being narcissistic, but they really aren't. They seldom mean to hurt others, but because of their sexual abuse they usually can't find a happy medium with a sexual partner. Trust is a big issue here. Marcy When you know better, you do better. If he's dealing with his past, there is no reason to continue the bad behavior in the present or the future. Tell him to keep it in his pants or dump him. It's just an excuse, not a reason if he keeps on cheating on you.