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Mine dumped meThen the following day he called me to say that he wanted to work through MY issues together. We spent a week talking about MY issues and him refusing to discuss any of his issues, except for the fact that he blatently checks out woman and flirts with woman right in front of me RED FLAG. This was the only thing he would own up to as being inconsiderate but defended himself b/c "all guys do that". Everything was constantly turned around to be my fault or my issue. Then after a week of talking he once again said it wasn't going to work out. That was yesterday and I don't know if he'll come back again but I will try my hardest to be strong and tell him no way. I really thought he was a good guy (he conned me into believing this) but after being here I realize that he's just a flat our narcissist. Don't just sit around and wait for him to end the relationship though. You know deep down in your heart and gut that he's a narcissist so be strong and end it. I wish I had done that months ago when I started seeing all these red flags and looking at this web site. It would have saved me and my children a lot of unnecessary pain. that's a definite!You bet he will! Mine just did 5 months ago. He kept saying he wanted to be alone,but I think the truth is I started confronting him about his selfishness and not giving anything to me emotionally. I was doing all the giving and he was only taking . I felt empty inside. But he didn't want to face his phoniness( he told me he didn't like phony people) because that's exactly what he was! Then when I did not serve his ego worshipping anymore, I was of no use and replacable. Of course he said something only a narcissist would say , "YOU'VE CHANGED'. It would not have anything to do with him! By the way, when I told our friends we were splitting up after 6 years, the first question they all said was "Is there another woman?" The second question was "Did you have a good sex life?" He promised me there was no one else and we had a very good sex life . So I was really baffled when he did not want to get help for us and save our relationship. But he already had made up his mind and ABSOLUTELY WOULD NOT TRY .In fact after an hour of rationally trying to make him listen to the facts, he said "Everything you've just said all makes sense, but we are still breaking up". I said "In a mature relationship, people try to work things out first" He said " I'm a immature guy!" This is the kind of IDIOT I was dealing with .Then when I wanted to talk further, he started to RAGE and would not let me talk anymore. I mean it was scary seeing this EVIL person come out of him and I told him so, but they DON"T CARE! I think that's the hardest part about these people is understanding that they don't have feelings like normal people.You just can't comprehend it. OH, and by the way, he stared dating the same month we split up and is on 2nd girl already. Not that I believe he had not see any while we were together.He used to flirt with woman right in front of me.RED FLAG !I could not at first believe that the son of a Baptist minister could lie and be so emotionally cruel, but I guess they can be messed up like anyone else. I truly loved this man , but now I realize that he is not fixable.I thought I could help this poor little messed-up boy inside him, that I would be the one to finally cure him FORGET IT! AnswerYes, there are those who will, and also others who get very dependent and won't, but either way, they are horrible to deal with, as you see from the poster above.

It is truly bizarre how a narcissist cannot cite any actual, real problems in a relationship and will still insist on leaving. I think that is about control, or intimacy issues. They get scared by the threat of intimacy and leave.

I too have seen the evil person. It was like watching Anakin Skywalker turn into Darth Vader. He used to describe his emotions to me in great detail and his favorite metaphor was that he was like a virus or an insect. Sounds really loving and warm, doesn't it?

My narcissist was also raised in a highly religious environment. I have known a couple of them that thrived in churches, so watch out! There are a lot of empathetic people in churches, and so the narcissists tend to prey there. It's like when you see a herd of wildebeasts, you expect to see a few lions too, right? That's how it is with narcissists. They prey on the empathetic. In my experience, they also prey on students, artists, and hippies. They look for people who will accept them and feel sorry for them, and won't hold them to high standards, but will accept their lies and give to them and try to help them. Not to disrespect groups who do this, but some groups are more forgiving than others. Narcissists are found around these groups, just as child molesters are found around groups of children.

Even if your narcissist seems like the type that won't leave, I'd advise if you have a true narcissist on your hands, then you should be the one to leave.

NEW Answer-Mine dumped me 2 days after i arrived from Europe to spend some months with him in the USA after2 years in a long distance relationship(Skype Google talk,movies and poetry sites) I didn't meet hin in a dating site...He was Avery intelligent man,we were friends and ater turned into something bigger ,full of red flags but i waived them away because he was in Avery unhappy situation,depressed but he was getting ready to leave this so called shay relationship....we were friends,confident and had a lot in common...i am a non judgemental person empathic and i think he smelled that...2 days after my arrival,he just simply told me he wasn't going to be with me anymore,but asked me to stay,as friends after already starting withdrawing affection,said if i wanted to go somewhere he would be glad to take me but would not go anywhere with me,then 2 hours later would say come on lets go to the park....and so it went,for 2 months ,push and pull games,he took a vacation for a week the only thing he did was gaming on the internet,and sleep.....came home from work with lipstick on his sleeve...i said laughing,busy at work,hey....he said i knew you would say is lipstick,no is candy.....he totally ignored me for hours then would come up to me and Hugh me kiss my forehead.....then tell me it was better if i left,and if i wanted to do so he said stay please....finally i left exausted,broken low self estemmm because he was always talking about some women he saw with a nice a**.....And i know i am good looking intelligent and empathic but then i felt like garbage.....took me a year and some to realize it wasn't me itwas him....i am in therapy still having flash backs,and missing him....is just sickening.....now he is No Contact on me saying i did wrong by him....

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Once a narcissist realizes they cannot control a new conquest they lose interest. It is inaccurate to say they "grow tired". It is rather that they are not interested in someone they cannot control.



Once a narcissist realizes they cannot control a new conquest they lose interest. It is inaccurate to say they "grow tired". It is rather that they are not interested in someone they cannot control.

Once a narcissist realizes they cannot control a new conquest they lose interest. It is inaccurate to say they "grow tired". It is rather that they are not interested in someone they cannot control.

Once a narcissist realizes they cannot control a new conquest they lose interest. It is inaccurate to say they "grow tired". It is rather that they are not interested in someone they cannot control.
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Once a narcissist realizes they cannot control a new conquest they lose interest. It is inaccurate to say they "grow tired". It is rather that they are not interested in someone they cannot control.

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In a nutshell: Yes. Nobody really needs to hear life stories when you want a simple answer.

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and if they SAY they do? they just get better at sneaking and covering up.

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To someone who is strong and willing

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No - absolutely not....

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