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You should wait a while longer to get married. You may think you are really in love, but that's what I thought when I met my daughters father when I was 16. Now I'm 20, and my daughter is 4 months old, and I don't want to be with him anymore. Time really does change things. I thought at that age, t…
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I'm not sure what you mean by "be with", do you mean sexually? If so, the answer is *hell, yeah!* In most states the age of sexual consent is 16, in some it's even higher. There is no state where it's as low as 12. If you break the law, you can be arrested, charged, and if convicted spend a little t…
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I would call because it's within the bounds they gave you - plus, it shows interest.   It is appropriate to call after one or two days. I agree with the above post that it shows that you are interested and that you are willing to put in extra effort to get the job.The last job I got, I waited…
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In the US, you are not obligated to reveal this information, as we've all committed various crimes at time, but never been prosecuted or convicted for it, such as jaywalking, running red lights, speeding, etc.. If you have been convicted of a crime and it is still on your criminal record, then you m…
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It could be. The wording of the title and state laws would decide if a forced sale could be implemented. More than likely the house is considered owned by Tenants In Common. The homestead exemption would also be a factor. The creditors could definitely place a lien against the girlfriend's share of …
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When boy goldfish want to mate, they get white spots on their tail. If your goldfish has a spotty tail, it's definitely a male. If it doesn't, it's a girl or a boy who's just not ready yet. If your goldfish is completely covered in white spots, it is not a show of boyishness but is actually ich, a d…
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Note when he gets angry does he bunch his fists up? Does he get angry quickly? And most important of all if he ever hits you, even if its just a slap or anything GET OUT. If he has been in a long relationship before and he mentions that his significant other just up and left one day without warning…
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Flat out leave the guy. Tell him no and that you know he won't change. If you stay strong, he will know you mean it. Keep in mind, even if he does know you mean it, just leave and don't stay. Controlling relationships can quickly become abusive, and then it might be too late. The sooner you leave, …
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Sounds like he could be bipolar (Manic/depresive). And this is a form of abuse to you. If he has this or something else, then he can't really help it, but it's still not healthy for you or him. You should both go to counseling, couples and on your own. Sounds like you're going out with my ex-fia…
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%DETAILS% No, that is self abuse and manipulation of your boyfriend. You may have some sort of chemical imbalance that makes you want to hit and hurt yourself when under stress. You should go see a doctor and talk to them about this. It can probably be helped with some daily medications. You will…
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I don't believe so and I really hope not. Men aren't the enemy.   No, when women, like me, come to these sites, they are already in an abusive relationship and need to have confirmation that they are still an intelligent, vibrant, human that can contribute, rather than buying into all of the …
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Relationships are full of give and take. It's not fair to you that you are always the one giving and never get anything in return. And worse than that, they're not taking your feelings in to consideration at all! If you've honestly sat them down and talked it over with them about how bad their actio…
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%DETAILS% Answer Absolutely not, especially if you're not even allowed to mention that it bothers you. It's inconsiderate, to say the least.
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It is never wrong to abandon an abuser - especially if you find that you can forgive him no longer. It is not wrong to leave an abuser, his statements that he will change, even if he feels he is sincere, most likely are not. chances are any changes he would make would be temporary and it will no…
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It is a warning sign of being possibly abusive.It's a form of control and that's where abuse usually starts.  Abusers seek to stifle the personal autonomy of their victims and to detach them from their support networks.  It is normal for a guy to say that, and it is because their jealous…
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%REPLIES% Answer Get out of this relationship now. This is how my abusive marriage started but, it ended up being true in the end. Please takes the above words seriously. Answer WhatI do is I ignore him,sometimes he gets mad just because he sees me hanging out with some other guys I mean th…
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You don't explain. Its' y our right to go out with friends and have fun.If he can't understand that or grip that reality, GET RID OF HIM!He is controlling and that tends to lead to worse forms of abuse (verbal,physical etc..).   Possessiveness is an emotion. It is not grounded in logic and ca…
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Not necessarily. But past violent behavior presages and reliably predict future violent conduct.
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Answer To be quite honest with you maybe you should speak to him quietly sometime and tell him you are uncomfortable with the way he speaks to you when you make love with him. Answer Sexual abuse is often combined with verbal abuse.
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Answer its not very easy for ppl to let go of abusive relationships whether they r young or old..it needs equal strength n patience to survive an abusive relationsip..however if ur young n not let go of the abuse it is likely to impact on ur confidence n self esteem.... do not try to hold on to t…
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An abuser may be afraid of intimacy and the commitment it requires. This is a rather curious question. Let me tell you why. It's common for people to drop partners in physical relationships when they express feelings, that's a "fear of commitment" thing. It isn't common at all for an abuser …
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%REPLIES% Answer Of course it is, to the extent that I would suggest it might be a little abnormal NOT to get mad and yell. Answer uh...yes? Betrayal! Lying! Playing behind your back! And the list goes on and on..... Getting mad is your right! Violence, hitting etc is a big no-no! …
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Answer When abusers temporarily run out of victims, they tend to "recycle" old victims. Answer Either this new relationship is in turmoil and beginning to end and they are possibly losing control; or they are in need of seeing if they can still control you and where you stand now in life. I …
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Abusers and criminals invariably deny that they had acted abusively or criminally.   I would say to see if they can still control you. The reason they deny an criminal activity or abusive activity it is because they believe they did nothing wrong. God Bless   one scenario suggests that…
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The first - crucial - steps are to acknowledge that he is abuser and seek help. Abusers are usually in denial:If the abuser is also a narcissist (suffers from the Narcissistic Personality Disorder - NPD), this may be of some assistance:
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Realization and acceptance that the relationship is abusive is a first and important step. But sometimes, especially if the victim is codependent, only professional help can bring about full recovery.   Being lost without the abuser is so common. We become like heroin addicts, we know it kill…
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The answer to this question depends on many factors: the intensity, type and duration of the abuse; the age and education of both members of the couple; the motivation of both parties; the cultural and social background and a lot more.Some relationships can be salvaged - but only with big doses of p…
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For starters, there is no ego involved, despite what you may have heard. The best way I can describe it is dealing with a addiction, like crack: you can get enough to satisfy yourself, but to meet the satisfaction the next time usually requires more. Going without is like going through withdrawal. T…
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If a tree falls in the forest and there is no one there, does it still make a sound? Just because your dating, does than mean you have to have sex? For more details see CA Penal Codes 261 - 269 http://www.leginfo.ca.gov/cgi-bin/displaycode?section=pen&group=00001-01000&file=261-269   …
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I wouldn't even mess with that. What if he and your brother are really good friends and then you go out with that friend and the friend treats you bad, or you guys break up then that would mess up the relationship your brother had and they would fight. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Go out an…
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It's amazing to me how all the "nice guys" seem to get the short end of the stick while the jerks walk away with their girls! You definitely seem like a nice guy. I am a 27 year old single woman, and I've been through lots of relationship stuff. Here is my advice to you: Take care of yourself. Alway…
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How to Know If You're Loved by the One You Love Well, does that person look at you in a special way? Do they seem interested in your conversations (no matter of stupid they are?) Does the person always want to spend time with you and never tries to let you down? Does s/he express her feelings in cer…
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Saying You Love Her: Here is advice from Wiki s Contributors: Straightforward is the best approach. And don't forget that actions really do speak louder than words. So many people carelessly toss those three words around. Tell her, but then back up those words by showing her. Nothing major or elabor…
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Yes it is quite possible for a guy to be attracted to you if he doesn't seem nervous around you because some guys are experienced and they don't show their emotions all the time because they aren't sure if the girl's attracted to them. They don't want to embarrass themselves and they don't want the …
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After i and my lover spent about 6 years together, my boyfriend told me that we can not be together. and already We were making ready ourselves to get married this year and I was very happy and absolutely ready to marry him. this breakup started when he went a little far from the city where I live, …
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If he shows that he really does love you that is when you gets on his knee and asks to marry you think about all of the things you did in the past and decide yes our noANSWER:No one is ready for marriage because they never been married before. Its a learning experianceI don't think so if a guy is re…
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He doesn't necessarily not want you anymore, but it could be a sign. He might not want to be holding hands all the time, and maybe he just wants you to back off a bit. I suggest, talk to him, and ask him if he still likes you, and why he doesn't want you to hold hands etc any more... Try and not mak…
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If he loves you he wouldn't talk like that. Think about it this way. If he really loves you he wouldn't want to hurt you, but when he says that is. Sometimes, no matter how much couples love each other, a problem or an issue can seem so bad and get the better of us that we think it's absolutely im…
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%REPLIES% Answer There are two reasons that I think of. One is that he realized that he made a mistake not being with you and wants to come back. The other is that he is just confused and trying to figure out what he wants and basically messing with all involved. It is your decision to t…
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You'll just have to talk to them and tell them that they have nothing to worry about. If they still get mad, then you'll have to deal with them getting mad and they'll have to deal with you being gone a lot. You may try some counseling for the both of you. But it sounds to me like a trust issue and …
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Some men don't, some men do. It's often a matter of taste. However, it's worth pointing out that people can change over time. Someone who initially liked only fat girls may end up liking thin ones, and someone who initially liked only thin girls might later have heavier tastes. In addition, a girl …
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Here a variety of opinions from Wiki contributors:I believe that my boyfriend and I are true soul mates. We share many likes, dislikes and even friends say we have the same speech pattern. This has been from the very start. It's like I'm the female version of him and he's the male version of me. Sim…
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Meeting Women Here are suggestions from Wiki s Contributors: There are a number of professional services that match people based on some kind of "index" or "profile" of compatibility. Their cost and effectiveness varies.Become more social. Join more social groups and activities and spend more of you…
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Bad Boy Here is advice: It's called love. You can't do anything about it. It comes and goes as it wishes. Even if you love your ex at the moment your feelings could change completely in a month or two. Give it a while. I'm sure that it'll pass. I have found that some people you don't stop…
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Male Responses: What I find interesting about a majority of these answers, is the general belief that men are the ones most commonly at fault for being "too nice." I for one, consider myself to be a very nice guy, who also is hardly a pushover. I think a big misconception of the "nice guy" argume…
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It is very possible that he is still upset about a divorce and he isn't ready to get serious. Try talking to him about it. it's not about how long you wait...it's about when you are ready and how certain you are. Don't tell them that you love him/her if you are not certain. Be sure that it is love,…
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Tell her that what you said, was your mind crazy talking (if you were). If she still doesn't forgive you, then just too bad. Remember for all the guys out there, don't break a girls heart, or else your gonna get it.
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IF you do not like the way your husband is speaking to you then you have the right to say so. A marriage is not a marriage if you don't voice problems or other things that are bothering you. One thing you have to look at though, is if you are being reasonable. If there is a problem or a reason …
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Picture the girl or guy of your dreams. They possess everything you desire in a mate. If you want someone with a good job who makes money and is independent, likes the outdoors, is fun to be with, attractive and likeable, or whatever attributes you care for, that is this person. Now picture marryin…
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no, not really. if she wants to go, the best thing to do is let her go. all you need to do is move on and find somebody else, and don't chase after her. find somebody, there is a whole world of girls out there looking for someone to love. Not really. You just have to let her do what is going to …
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%DETAILS% I can't tell you exactly what it means in your exact situation, but I would say if that is what you are hearing to leave the guy. He is using you in someway or another. You need to ask yourself...does he really love me for everything that I am or just for one or two little things. If is…
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Ask him to marry you and if he says yes he wil marry you and if he says no becaus he is not ready then wait until he is.  To provide another point of view, I started talking to my boyfriend of about 5 years about marriage and he got more distant and then broke up with me saying he wasn't ready…
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Well, he initiated the first contact, which was nice. He really can't be held to more than that after you have gotten to know each other. When it is the right person and the right time, commitment will be on both of your minds, believe me. I think they call it the biological imperative. If you are g…
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If he lied to you "a couple of times" and they were lies that he knew would bother you, then chances are very low that he'll change, even if he means it. Change your relationship so it doesn't need trust in the things he lied about, if you're fine with such a relationship. Or you can leave HIM to cl…
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If you've been with him a week and he already has a girlfriend, you are involved with a guy who is cheating. Is that really the kind of guy you want? Consider this, if he continues seeing you and dumps his current girlfriend, do you think you'll ever be able to truly trust him? Or do you think you'…
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Answer Personally, I wouldn't give a furry rat's ***! what anyone thought. If I really like and care for someone, it is no one business by ours. You should probably have an honest talk with her and find out what she thinks of her friends(?) attitude. I used the question mark, because I believe …
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It sounds to me like his excuse for cheating on you (he feels like he's not being loved enough) is something he said to justify his actions. Clearly, according to you, he IS being loved enough. Sometimes people just cheat. He may not want to admit to himself that it's that simple, which is why he ga…
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IF HE LIKES YOU HE WILL: (I'm using a guy in my examples.) look at you and when you catch him, he tends to look away.Text/call you on his own if you did it first.Make up excuses to talk to you.Find ways to be around you.Pretend to like someone else.Become your friend.Be playful with you.Try to make …
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I am sort of in the same boat with u I don't kno if the situation is the same but I have a ex whom I was seeing for 4 years and everything fell apart. I don't even know how or why but obviously those are questions maybe you can help me with some day :) I still to this day love him I still to this da…
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You should ask her, she may feel the same way and if she doesn't you can both still be friends. Shes not going to like you any less if you ask her out and says she doesn't like you in that way. What's the worst that could happen? - (a girls view) Before you ask her, though, you need to get over how…
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Just be a supportive friend to that person bt try to not fal again to him/her
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if u want 2 see her go ahead if u really love her u wuld but first make sure u want 2 im from Texas n i went out with a guy from Florida nd we saw each other n rite now we together still n he lives here now. If you have known her for atleast 5 months and have talked on a daily basis then I would sa…
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%DETAILS% I have been in this situation and I called that person on the phone asked if we could get together and talk as friends which he agreed to and after explaining the situation and why I did what I did he forgave me. That was 9 years ago and we've been together ever since. I guess it just d…
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There is no age limit on whether or not love is real. If you enjoy being with each other, he is on your mind all the time, you're able to settle arguments without fighting,you can't wait until the next time you're together then it's love. Just wait on the sex thing though, at least until you feel yo…
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It might be that she lost the interest a bit, or that the routine is getting her. Try to give her some space- a separate vacation may do that. You don't have to do a vacation each - you may go with male buddies or something - see if she misses you when you come back. First, if it is an act, sh…
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You know that you are in love when you are truly in love when you can't stand being away from that person for to long, when you are willing to do anything for that person like me, I found out the first time because I couldn't stop looking in her eyes I love being around her and every day we grow clo…
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Answer If you truly love her tell her. The easiest way is to just tell her straight forward. She may need some time to think at first, or maybe she likes you back too, but in the same way you were wondering whether to tell her, she may have been wondering whether to tell you, too. So go on and te…
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(All advice is generic and incomplete of necessity. Apply as fits, and use your own brains.) Bachelor parties are common and acceptable by most in today's society. If you are upset, explore strengthening trust in the relationship. Bachelor parties are a harmless way to celebrate a man's last day a…
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%DETAILS% Sometimes it is due to a sincere love and long, committed relationship, but not always:---societal portrayal of love/marriage as these big rush of emotions "love conquers all".--marriage as a glue to cememt a relationship.--marriage due to a pregnancy, to make things seem "respectable"-…
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          Tell them you love them. It's as easy as that. If you're their bets friend, they'll understand.
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As long as there is communication everyday and you won't forget your obligation as a partner I think the relationship still works despite the distance that you had. Communication is essential to every relationship how much more if you are far from each other. Just keep in touch, trust each other and…
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One way of telling if you are truly in love is to look at the person you are with and picture having children with them and growing old with them. If these thoughts don't make you want to run the other direction then your off to a good start.   Believe me, at 15 years old, they're TOO YOUNG. …
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Well, in the first place, if he admits you are so perfect, he probably does like you... To make a guy fall in love with you if he admits you are so perfect, just: Try to prove to him that you're his true loveMake love momentsMake hands touch by "accident"Trip or fall in his armsReach up to grab some…
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Asterix123's advice: If you think she's worth the wait, wait! If she just wants to be friends, it's better than her telling you she didn't like you at all, isn't it? If you really love that girl, have you told here how you felt? Hinted at it, perhaps? Tried to please her? If you think she's worth th…
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Yes, but the opposite isn't true. If someone is nervous around you it doesn't mean he's in love with you. Especially if you've ASKED him (what do you mean by "do not want to admit it?") he may be nervous for very different reasons. Yes, absolutely true. A guy even shivers around the girl they have …
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Some possible reasons are: He might either: Feel bad, Still like you, but not as much, (Just like he likes other people that are simply only his friend), Or really like being your friend, but nothing more. If it's the last option, evaluate how you feel. Are you satisfied with only being his fri…
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First of all you shouldn't change for someone, they should like you for who you are. Corny jokes get really annoying. I have a boyfriend, he's really sweet and compliments me, it makes me feel good. But here's the point, treat her with care and passion and be yourself. Don't think burping and fartin…
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Absolutely. If the man is interested in an emotional relationship rather than a purely physical one, then being funny is a definite plus. If however by being comical you just mean that YOU find things funny, you may make the impression of a stupid giggle-girl instead (Though some men do find this …
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Most deff!!! When the boydfriend is too clingy and lovey it can be overwhelming and anoying. Love is great but when you get too much of something you don't want it anymore. As in my case, he suddenly became this way nad now he feels as if it always has to be just the two of us, if she is letting the…
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If you love herI think that if you tell the girl you love her so early you might freak her out. Wait at least another 3 weeks. The best choice would be to wait a while. My boyfriend said it too me after a week, but I wanted him to say it. Just wait till you really feel the time is right, and you're…
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the most faithful men and women are found in the state of kerala in south india.more than 90% of people there are virgins before marriage.its a god fearing community
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%REPLIES% If a man does not want to be your boyfriend he is just not into you.   The botton line answer for this is probably if he is able to make efforts towards resolving your conflicts. If he is able to pay attention to you enough that you know you are somebody in his eyes.
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Opinions by WikiAnswers contributors: I think yes. Girls LOVE to be told how amazing they are, and having guys like you is one of the best things ever for girls. She might act weird out, but most girls love be adored. I think that you should be friends with her, like go shopping and compliments are …
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Answer She may feel that the guy was not experienced enough for her, relationship wise or sexually. It really doesn't matter, because if she really wanted to be with this man, his lack of "experience" would not bother her. It sounds, if anything, more of a response to why she wanted to break up w…
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It may be both Love doesn't exclude lust, just the opposite: if you don't lust for her, chances are you don't love her. And lust may lead to love. If you still feel attracted when your lust is satisfied, then it's love. Most people confuse lust with love; the difference is that while lust is self-s…
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This is my advice, as Asterix123, first, talk to him. Tell him how he hurt you and how you know he lied to you and ask if he is really sorry. If he isn't sorry, a good idea to let him go free now... If he is sorry, tell him you will give him Another chance. If he hurts you again after that, tell him…
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I would have to say you still love him... Probab;y thru relationships you learned to let go when you dont see them for a long time, so maybe, you just have your heart programmed that way. Don't worry everyone goes thru that.. You still love him   But what if it's the other way around??  …
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A judge probably won't go where you want to get married, but you can get a justice of the piece of minsiter. You can always ask the judge, they may be willing to go.
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It is a problem if his buddy time cuts into plans you had with him, or if he never wants to cancel out on his friends on occasion to do something with you.Don't nag about it--instead, make plans with him to go to movies/restaurants by yourselves, and make it clear that you enjoy being alone with him…
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Sry but there's no list you can follow to say if someone loves you or not since we are all different. You need to start with trying to form a friendship with her since you can not possibly be in love with someone you don't know. You are attracted but that's another thing. And you can always ask her …
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Generally speaking, if someone spends time talking to you, they like you. People who don't like you will avoid you. Of course, some people will talk to you purely out of politeness or because their job or social conventions require it, but such conversations tend to be brief. Someone who: Seeks y…
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%REPLIES% (All advice is generic and incomplete of necessity. Apply as fits, and use your own brains.) Answer This guy 1. doesn't love or worry about your happiness. He REALLY likes to publicly be rude to you and demean you. 2. enjoys hurting/humiliating your 3. will continu…
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Answer yes i believe there is such a thing as love at first sight.. love at first sight is when you look at someone in a way you've never looked at anyone else and he/she catches your attention instantly.. i know you have to get to know the person well enough to know that their the one but that c…
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You can't really be sure. Think about the situation from all angles. Inside and out. Think until you can't think any more because that's the only thing you can do. The answers are there, just keep your feelings a separate entity from the situation entirely. If they love you then they would do anyth…
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Honestly, you should only move in with your boyfriend when he becomes your husband, and not before that. Well, I'm going to tell you what my mother told me. When you move out of your parents' house (if you haven't already done so) and then live on your own for a little while. Just so you can prove …
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You hold your head up high, take a deep breath, and you take a chance to find out. Don't be afraid that you may make a fool out of yourself. Be afraid that you can't take a chance and feel alive from time to time. Many have taken a chance and sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't, but you do…
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Earn it. Show them you really do care
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My question is ... "Should she consider marrying you?" You say you love this woman who is pregnant with (I assume your child) but you find her sexually unattractive. This says a lot about who you are and what your true feelings are. Being pregnant is a beautiful thing and if you truly loved her you …
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You break up with him. If that makes him realize that he does in fact love you but has had a hard time accepting it or whatever, great. But you can't go on being with someone who loves another. It is bad for the psyche.   I totally agree with the last answer. 4 years?! come on, you gave it a …
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