Been married 15 yrs husband came home from Iraq and said he didn't love me anymore but he doesn't want a divorce because he doesn't want to lose kids it has been 3 yrs what should I do?

Answer 1

You have to do what is best for you and your children. Growing up and developing in a loveless marriage will most likely damage your children's perceptions of relationships in the future. It is your responsibility to show them how to effectively manage and express their emotions, so remaining in a relationship where there is no love only shows them that perseverance leads to misery and they may have many failed relationships as a result. And then there's you. Just because your husband wants to be with his children, it does not mean that your own emotional wellbeing should suffer in the name of your children. In choosing to have children we choose to shoulder a number of burdens both pleasurable and painful. Making yourself actively miserable for there sake can be one of them. However, ask yourself this: is your unhappiness affecting the children? If so, then you need to get out of the marriage. If not, then you should STILL consider a divorce from this man. He obviously wants the convenience of a wife and the proximity to his children, but without any of the burdn, and that's not how it should be.