How can you set up an appointment with an abuse expert with a family member without them thinking that you just want to make the abuser out to be a monster?

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I wouldn't call an abuser a monster, but they are a few bricks short of a load. Normal people don't beat their wives, husbands, kids or the elderly up. Abusers learn their abuse usually from the environment in which they were brought up in, but there are a few that are just mean to the bone and love to control and bully people. Never mind the feelings of the abuser because this person could have gone for help at any given time and most refuse help because they feel they are right in what they are doing. They will say things like "well, if you had to live with that, you'd get ticked off too" or, "she deserves it!" Yeah right! If a woman is too mouthy, drives the guy batty there is nothing holding him in that relationship and he can walk right out the door and not come back. So, why the abuse? Because that's what he likes to do! ABUSERS PICK ON THE WEAK! Abuse pros deal in this sort of thing every day and several cases come cross the desk. Abuse is on the rise! If you can't get in to see this person then in the meantime, contact your local "Abused Women's Center" and if you can't find it in the phone book then contact "Mental Health" and they will lead you in the right direction. Don't wait on a long list, but get help right away. There are some great people out there willing and able to help a victim of abuse. More input: * The problem is, you want your friend or family member to undestand that the rest of the world doesn't tolerate abuse and you would like them to have a better life. Unfortunately you can't force a person into a better life. Abused people have to make those choices on their own. All you can do is give information.