Here is advice: * Get a PI to follow them through the day. If he is coming home at night it is most often the case they are finding a way during the day to meet so you won't suspect. (That is what happened to me. I suspected my partner, I had no proof but after getting a PI to follow him (and he wasn't doing anything wrong), and then confronted him with it he was in such a worried state, he said "well at least he didnt catch me doing anything" which made me think he was. Well I didn't catch him doing anything at that point. The PI said it is a pattern and it is often the case that this sort of stuff goes on during the day and they can track this down for you if you are at all worried. It may take days, weeks. Normally gut feelings are telling you something - definitely go with your gut.) * If your spouse has a mobile phone you could get it and look in the text's inbox and sent, if you have the internet check his emails and his Yahoo massenager or msn, if you dont get anywhere ask the woman you suspect face to face and you will know if she is lieing to you or phone her, any one which is good for you.
It is not always wise to believe gossip. It could have happened, but unless you know this woman's husband you don't know if he's the jealous type or thinks his wife is cheating with every man she talks too. Have a discussion with her husband and ask what proof he has. If he has no proof and you obviously want to get to the bottom of this mess the hire a private investigator to find out if your husband and his wife are having an affair.
If you have absolute proof that your husband is cheating with this other woman then you should deal with your own problems with your husband first and yes, the other woman's husband should know. This is not an uncommon problem and most people (whether a husband cheats with another man's wife or a wife cheats with one of her friend's husbands) is very common and the victim of the cheating generally does tell the husband or wife that their spouse is cheating with their spouse.
Pictures. Always. Or record a conversation regarding it. Written proof is always good.
Sadly, not many. You can divorce him and name her as the adulteress, and even sue her as the reason for alienation of affection from your husband, but that will be a long shot. But you may come out much better in the settlement if you stay with him for now, and do all you can to get proof that he is cheating, such as photos of them together, motel receipts, etc. If you choose to go that route, don't let him know that you are aware that he is cheating.
If he has given you a reason to suspect him of cheating, then absolutely. Assume that he isn't cheating until you have proof, though. Be careful of how you approach him with this: if he's not cheating then it might become an issue of him saying "you don't trust me!" or "why do you need to go through my stuff?". All in all, I guess just be tactful.
Cheating is cheating no matter where it occurs and (with proof or uncontested) is still a legal cause for divorce. Abandonment is a different issue, particularly if your husband was in military service in Iraq. If the abandonment happened when he came back, that is another story.
If he wants you to produce a phone bill, you should have nothing to worry about. If you aren't cheating on him it should all be fine. If you are cheating what is the point if you want to be with someone else divorce him, obviously he doesn't realize how good you are and wants to go for some other lowlife. If he is you deserve better, Get out there, Do your thing and hopefully it will all turn out okay.
just keep quite, but, if the truth doesn't come out in 4 weeks after the affair tell the husband, ( get proof more than just Ur say so )
Most cheating husbands will deny they are cheating. Be calm and either get a friend to go with you when you feel he is out cheating and follow him or, hire a detective for three or four days to be sure he truly is cheating and then you can give him solid proof you need and you will have to decide if you want to live with a cheater.
Married couples should communicate and be honest with each other so it's time you sat down with her (if you have children send them to relatives for the evening) and tell her how you feel. Let her know that you will not put up with cheating. If she denies she is you are either overly jealous or, you need to follow her on the nights you suspect she is cheating and catch her red handed.
Get a divorce. First one to file has an upper hand right off the bat. If you can get proof of his infidelity, that'll help your case a lot.
See if you could get some proof of cheating. Perhaps you can call some numbers you've found on his phone. When you do, figure out what you'd like to do from there. You would have to decide if you want to stay with him knowing what you do.