Communicating with your abuser is an art form. It is called "walking on eggshells".
If you think the relationship is getting emotionally abusive no need to talk...best to walk and do it fast.
Once the abuse begins in the cycle, it is hard to get out. The longer the cycle has been spinning the more difficult to leave.
Break up with him, that will make him realize how serious his behaviour is. You should not be with him if he is abusive, that only encourages his behaviour. He will think, "well, she is still with me so I can't be that bad."
recording him
What is he doing that is Abusive --- Not all Abusive behaviours necessitate breaking up a relationship.
He will verbally abuse you by saying very hurtful things as well as play head games and constantly toy with your emotional state. It is best to get out of this relationship as soon as possible.
Firstly you must help yourself by setting strict boundries that it is never OK to physically abuse eachother at anytime. He must attend an anger management program or class. Until that is done dont agree to spend time together.
He would be constantly putting you down and he would never compliment you. He wouldn't respect you.
not always but some time they can be both
Men who are abusive generally have learned this from the environment in which they grew up. Some men have a short fuse and blast off with either verbally abusive words or they become physically abusive with their partner. Some men know deep inside it is wrong, but don't know how to get help and most men refuse to seek psychological counseling because it makes them feel weak and not masculine. If he refuses to get help then you have the power to get out of the abusive relationship.
He's playing you like a fine fiddle. Narcissistic people are ego-maniacs, controllers and can be verbally abusive (even physically abusive at times.) They love to feel in control so "game playing" is high on their list and that's exactly what this guy is doing to you. A person that loves you does not treat you in this manner. Tell him to get lost! Get on your own two feet and become independent and think of the signs of this narcissistic ex-boyfriend and learn from your mistakes. There is never a happy ending in a narcissistic relationship.
Because he is abusive. Partner abuse is a treatable sickness, but not always curable. Staying with an abusive partner does not help them to become a better person.
It does often happen that people will learn how to get their way through verbal aggression, from their own experiences of being verbally abused. Life is an endless learning experience, but sometimes people learn the wrong things. Answer I think it COULD happen but I think it would be the exception and not the rule. Victims in these kinds of situations are usually not abusive types of people - that's why they are victims. If it is an adult who grew up in a verbally abusive environment they may be the victim for a while and then finally snap and turn the tables and become the abuser but I think in most circumstances the victim would not become the abuser in the next relationship.
attempts to control you, refuses to be affectionate in public, verbally or emotionally abusive
It is highly unlikely that man who does not have an abusive personality will become an abuser if their partner grew up in an abusive home and refuses help. Good men know they should never hit a woman which in some cases can lead to male abuse by a woman. The stress of being around an abusive person be it verbally or physical abuse is bound to have effects on the non abusive partner, but most men will only take so much and have the opportunity of leaving the relationship.
leave, get out, leave right now, its the end of you and him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Seizures can make you extremely abusive towards those who are trying to help you at the time, After the seizure you may have no memory of anything that has happened to you.
If your boyfriend is abusive, you need to leave him right away, because he will only get worse.
The onset of dementia in older people often brings frustration and anger that is taken out on those closest. Your husband should be seen by a doctor who can evaluate his condition and make suggestions.
A women can know if a man gets aroused by her if she physically sees his penis become erect.