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If you are very much in love with a person other than your spouse how do you get rid of these feelings and remain faithful?
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∙ 8y ago
This is such a hard one to deal with.
Most of us can be quite attracted to another person of the opposite sex when married. If smart, just dream about it (your secret) and remain loyal to your spouse if you still love them. Marriage can get mundane, so instead of looking for others, take that energy and try making your marriage more interesting.
If you take time out (mini holiday) with your spouse and really make an effort then you will regain a one-on-one relationship again. Within time you will forget your attraction to the other individual in your life.
Most of the time the grass on the other side of the fence isn't greener and you could very well trade off something wonderful in your wife for a brief encounter with someone you think you are in love with.
It's easy to love someone else, because you gain the magic "of the chase" and all the frills that go with it, but it doesn't last for long.
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∙ 8y ago
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∙ 15y agoI fall in love with people all the time. People are very interesting, attractive, truly lovable, yet I've been married 23 years. While sometimes it is uncomfortably painful to feel strong attraction for someone else, it helps me to realize that there are MANY very lovable people out there, and unfortunately there isn't enough time and energy in one lifetime to love them all! I will never really have enough time and energy to meet the needs of all the people I will meet who attract my love. There will likely be many people in my life who I would "love to love," sorta like there will always be more cheesecake in the world than I will be able to eat. So, when I'm feeling tortured with the feeling of "being in love" I think about the person I "love" and to think about what is best for them? It isn't loving to get someone tangled up in a romantic relationship with a committed married person like me. I have been selfish before. I've had affairs, and then told my partner about my affairs. All affairs do is cause pain all the way around. It takes the energy that should be nourishing your marriage and flushes it down the toilet, wastes it on a relationship that can't continue. If you want to stay married, as I do, then don't ruin your married love. If you want to love someone, don't involve them in unnecessary drama. Maybe some people can keep it light and enjoy each other's love without sexualizing it and making it complicated, but most people can't. Just look past your immediate feelings, and think how much better you will feel about yourself if you don't succumb to greed. You can't have everyone.
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