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Is it common for an abused woman to intentionally start doing things that she knows will infuriate the abuser to drive the point home that he doesn't own her?
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∙ 18y ago
No it's not common, but many women just simply come to the end of their rope and depression sets in. When this happens she has an attitude that she simply doesn't care if she lives or dies and believe it or not that's when the survival instincts kick in and she can go after her abuser. Fighting back against your abuser isn't a smart thing to do (the woman will often lose) and the best thing is, to phone the "Abused Women's Center" to get the support you need. They provide you with a place to stay (safe house) counseling, legal help, etc. It's a waste of time fighting an abuser and many women are killed over a lot less than this. Good luck Marcy It seems a little wreckless to me. I suggest that it would be far more intelligent to just get away from the abuser. You don't need him to be in your life at all.
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What is a common form of abuse where the abuser tries to keep the abused from family and friends?
domestic abuse or violence
Is it common for the abused victim to be smarter and better looking and more socially accepted than the abuser?
Yes. But it is also common for the abuser to be all of those things. Abusive realtions are common, physical and verbal, romantic and non.
Was your abuser really that bad if you feel worse without him?
Abusers are bad. Period. It is common for someone who has been abused to feel lonely when the abuser becomes absent, but it is because of the stress of change. If you feel yourself running back to your abuser, get help. The situation will only escalate otherwise.
Why do abused teens feel the need to fight the abuser ALL the time even if they're not doing anything?
Anger. Often it's a response to feelings of rejection, equating the abuse with a sense of being emotionally rejected by the abuser. Anger is a common response by a depressed individual. Especially depressed males.
What behavior change is not common in drug abuser?
taking on more responsibility
Is it common for a family member of an abuse victim who is being abused by the same person to regard abuse books and websites that the victim reads as poisoning the victim's mind?
Yes it is common because you are giving the key to the locked door of freedom to the victim (if she so wishes to take it) and that doesn't sit well with the abuser. Abusers are about control, conniving, terrifying their victim, keeping them on their toes and keeping the person so brain-washed they don't know what their rights are or that there is a better life out there for them. Often a person who is badly abused is terrified of ruffling the slightest feather of the abuser. Women who are abused wake up every morning hoping that will be the morning when they can do everything right so they won't tick off their abuser. Of course anyone looking in on this scenario knows better ... the abuser likes to feel almighty powerful and he doesn't need an excuse to abuse. If this person is you who is looking up the information, then be prepared for war! Watch your back as well because some abusers are very vicious and they look upon women as "their property" and you will only end up sending danger signals to him and you will be considered the interloper. Unless these two victims of abuse are willing to seek help there is nothing you can do, with the exception of catching the abuser in the act and contacting the police. Be warned, if you should call the police you could make things worse for the victim because the abuser will blame the victim more than he will you. Good luck Marcy
Does an abusive partner feel the need to keep in contact with the partner they abused on a regular basis?
Yes. Abusers tend to have compulsive behavior, live in the past and through others with an unhealthy dependency (very much cowards), and will most likely be obsessed with their victim eternally. They will do anything to get the "sick dance" (the common relationship that exists between the abuser and abused) going again and if the victim is not careful they may find themself going back into the same unhealthy psychological stage of feeling sorry for someone who wants to harm them, thinking again that he's not that bad and just has some problems etc., or maybe she did things to have brought that out of him. Wrong...it has nothing to do with his current life. This is a story that started long before the abused ever knew the abuser, as well as the abused also has a story that helped in placing her in this relationship in life. there is an ebb and flow in play. Not all abused are women, but more than 95% of them are.
How common is it for someone who is abused to start doing things intentionally that they know will make the abuser angry as a way of proving that they are not the problem and if so should they?
It's possible this could happen and for two reasons: #1 the victim may not know they are actually doing it (built up anger can do strange things to a person) #2 they've had enough, but aren't quite ready to put their feet out into an uncertain future. Many of us do things unconsciously and sometimes we never pick up on it. It depends on the abuser. If he's mentally abusive this is bad enough and you'll never win in the verbal game of abuse with them (because the victim isn't abusive by nature) and some abusers are very physical and if their victim stands up to them they can become very enraged (possibly even murder in some cases) at the thought of "How dare this lower than me person talk to me in this manner." Abusers think they have all the answers, that they are controlling everything and most (especially men) feel that they own the home, vehicles, and anything else and they can see fit to do as they wish to the victim, the children and yes, even the family pet. It isn't a good idea for the victim to engage in enraging the abuser anymore than they are. Abusers can turn like rattle snakes. It's best for the victim to go to the Abused Women's Center when her abuser is at work, and stay there! They will give a great deal of support and help the person get on their feet and away from their abuser. Merry Christmas Marcy "How common is it for someone who is abused to start doing things intentionally that they know will make the abuser angry as a way of proving that they are not the problem and if so should they?" Good question. Thus far my legitimate complaints have fallen upon deaf ears. But I don't fear him or them. In truth last night i had dream about wearing boxig gloves and kickig his butt and winning while on the beach. I gave him two black eyes. I actually won. Merry Xmas to all and happy new year (smile)
What type of noun is abuser?
The noun 'abuser' is a singular, common, concrete noun; a word for someone who regularly or habitually mistreats someone or something; someone who indulges in corrupt customs or practices; a word for a person.
Is it common for a sexually abused woman to marry a man who is obsessed with sex?
yes, it is common. If a woman has been sexually abused then they have to go out and seek wht they are used to. They have to find a man who is obsessed with sex.
Can an emotionally abusive partner really be in love with you?
Abusers and their victims form dyad's of codependency. It takes two to tango and an equal number to sustain a long term abusive relationship. The abuser and the abused form a bond, a dynamic, and a dependence. Expressions such as "follies a deux", "shared psychosis", and the "Stockholm Syndrome" capture facets two of a myriad of this danse macabre. It often ends fatally. It is always an excruciatingly painful affair. Being a great believer in common sense and having been in the same situation for many years, I think the answer here is very obvious. Would you allow your self to be abused by someone who didn't matter to you? YES, THE ABUSED CAN AND OFTEN DOES LOVE THE ABUSER. THEY KNOW THAT HE CAN BE A GOOD PERSON. See "Stockholm Syndrome". It's not genuine love - it's a psychological yearning based on fear and control. There is no sound reason to really love an abuser - you can have compassion for them - but not the kind of love that motivates you to stay in a relationship with someone who treats you like crap.
Is assault common after the abuser probabtion ends?
If you ask this question, its because you are worried, if you are worried, its because you KNOW its going to happen again. GET AWAY from the ABUSER, is the ONLY answer, go find yourself a GREAT guy that would NEVER hit you.
