answersLogoWhite

0


Best Answer

Because your abuser has a low self esteem and any potential set back or competition even from the past is a threat to him that is whats up with all the questions even if your ex was a better lover if you want to avoid future abuse you either lie or get out of the relationship. If it were me going through thge abuse I would first get a safety plan in place neighbors, friend to call the police if they hear any thing out of the normal, then when the time is right get out of that relationship as soon as possible. before he seriously injures you or someone you love, do not believe him when he says that it is just you and him, and that no one else will love you, because if he loved you he wouldn't abuse you. LOVE SHOULDN'T HURT.

AnswerYou should go on the web and find out what an abuser is. The more you educate yourself the more you can understand how these people work their victims and knowledge gives you power. Before you know it you won't need him in your life.

The reason your abuser is questioning you about your ex is because abusers lack self confidence, they probably have been brought up in an abusive environment themselves, they have few friends or if they have any they keep the secret that they are abusive. Abusers need to control their environment because they "make up" their own personalities. He feels threatened that your ex could be a better lover and in his mind, he just can't accept that. Abusers seldom have any idea how to treat ANYONE in their lives, and it's all about them. They can be extremely cold and calculating individuals.

Your statement "why would your abuser" sounds like a normal person saying, "why would my husband" or "why would my boyfriend" rather than the fact, the situation you are in is a bad one and you should be thinking of leaving this guy.

Please seek out an "Abused Women's Center" in your area and if you can't find one please locate your "Mental Health Clinic" in your area and they will find one for you.

I am very worried about you because your statement leads me to believe that you have accepted this way of life. You deserve better hon!

Good luckMarcy

User Avatar

Wiki User

โˆ™ 2011-09-13 17:26:25
This answer is:
๐Ÿ™
0
๐Ÿคจ
0
๐Ÿ˜ฎ
0
User Avatar
Study guides
๐Ÿ““
See all Study Guides
โœ๏ธ
Create a Study Guide

Add your answer:

Earn +20 pts
Q: Why would your abuser ask you if your ex-husband was a better lover than him?
Write your answer...
Submit
Related questions

Why God would let my lover gone?

Perhaps there is someone better for you or your lover--but we can hardly know the mind of God!


Why is Chris Brown called breezy?

It sounds better than domestic abuser. Why would you listen to that no-talent hack?


If you stopped animal abuse would the animal abuser feel better or angrier?

better I would say angrier because, he or she wouldn't like it, and would want something else to abuse.


Should you call your husband who is an alcoholic and cheater?

I would call him my "exhusband".


What is Michael Jordan lover of?

Basketball and shoes would be a better known answer he also cares for everyone


Why would your abuser not want you to be happy on your birthday?

Control.


Would you date someone who is a recent drug abuser?

No!!!


Does domestic violence disqualify someone for child custody?

Yes, if brought to the court's attention, a domestic abuser would not be granted custody of a minor.Yes, if brought to the court's attention, a domestic abuser would not be granted custody of a minor.Yes, if brought to the court's attention, a domestic abuser would not be granted custody of a minor.Yes, if brought to the court's attention, a domestic abuser would not be granted custody of a minor.


How would you describe a person who has drastic change for better?

A transformation. Or in the case of a substance abuser who has pulled themselves up, a phoenix, the mythical bird who rose up from the ashes.


Why would as narcissist marry a narcissist?

This is not only very unlikely, but could have some very violent results. Abusers usually stay away from other abusers, as they are difficult to control. The abuser may accuse the victim of being the abuser, but this is not the case. I will assume that your diagnosis is current, however, for this question. An abuser would marry another abuser due to a history of abuse in childhood. The initial abuser would be very confused. Having grown up in an abusive environment, he has witnessed both the victim and the abuser. The child usually grows up to become one of these two options. In this case, it appears that the child grew up to become both. If this is the case, the abuser will be very confused and will probably have a split personality in which he either plays the role of the abuser or the victim. The problem will come when both abusers want to play the 'abuser' role, and neither feels like playing victim. This could become very dangerous.


What would a parent have to do to be considered and abuser?

abuse the child mentally or physically


Can a spouse abuser be rehabilitated?

I am no expert on this, or anything else, for that matter, but I would suspect the answer is no. Spousal abuse is like any other form of bullying; it is a power game. The abuser has no respect for the abused person; there is no love in the relationship. NO!!! And if he tells you he is, he isn't. Don't believe it. Get out and get a real man that doesn't need to use his fist. You are better than that.


Does an abusive person turn everything around to make it your fault?

From my experience yet. This is apart of the guilt process. The abuser wants to make their victims feel that it is his/her fault that the abuse accured and if he/she hadn't done something or had done something better it would have never accured. The abuser will never take accountability for the poor choices he or she made.


Can you contact your abuser after the case is closed?

Why would you want to contact your abuser is the best answer to your question? It's probably best if you sever all ties to an abuser. Instead find a good therapist and start going to a twelve step group like Co-Dependents Anonymous.


How much is three horeses?

for any horse it would be around 3,500.69 for the horse and you better be a horse lover because than why would you be looking at this question !!!!!!!!!! i love horses there the best pets i could ever have in the world and better than gold fish but i guess dogs are a little better!


What are the penalties in court for abusing someone?

The abuser would probably have to go to jail.


What to gift for my lover?

The best gift for your lover would probably be the Ninjabread Cookie Kit, which costs about $22.95.


The power relationship between the abuser and the victim?

The victim has no power or they would not be abused. The abuser always has the control. Children and the elderly are victimized often in society as well as men and women. The abuser will start out by abusing psychologically and 'put down' their victim until they leave their victim confused with no self confidence. The abuser may threaten to leave their victim (this is terrifying to the elderly); leave the wife and take the children; talk of killing the victim or anyone that is close to them. The abuser often isolates their victim so their victim has no family or friends to turn too and they have to suffer in silence and depend on their abuser.


My ex abuser husband can be remarried and showing the never was abuser is true?

Unless your ex has a police record/jail time for DV, there would be no way to tell. A private Detective can access old records.


Did Boys take his girlfriend or lover for outing?

if he was a normal mature boy he would take out his lover which should be his girlfriend!!


What is Selena gomez lover name?

I assume you meant, "What is Selena Gomez's lover's name?". That would be Justin Bieber.


What would a lover call his love in Korean language?

Poorambamzook


Where would an animal lover marry?

in the Jungle


What would a shy girl expect from her lover?

Acceptance and love


How does abuse affect the relationship between the victim and the abuser?

Well firstly the victim would often feel scared around their partner and would always be on-edge around them, secondly the victim would always carry a lack of trust against the abuser and these things are needed for a good healthy relationship.