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Why would an abuser give you the silent treatment at times when things are going well in life and you feel happy yet you feel less for him?
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∙ 17y ago
It's a control game to see if you will beg him to talk to you and punish you for having the guts to stand up to them. The above poster is correct, but there are some abusive people that for a change are stunned when someone does stand up to them (especially their mate.) It's a sign to them they are losing control. If you think you've won, don't start blowing up balloons, because abusers will get even and be right back in your face and will make you pay dearly for this so-called weak moment the abuser feels they've had. They love control and don't like ANYONE rocking their boat.
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∙ 17y ago
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∙ 17y agothe object for some to abuse you is to "control" you, this silent treatment is most likely a form of manipulation to control you.
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Why would an abuser threaten to dump you and give you the silent treatment when you told him you are going to go to college after staying at home for ten years?
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if you ask politely?
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not from my experience she just keeps on going.......
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Is it abuse when you try the 'silent treatment' on your abuser in order to avoid abuse?
If it's mental abuse then this is called, "Head games" and that is what you are playing with him. There are many people that can't seem to express themselves well and there are reasons that you may never know. Most of these types of people never go for help so it just continues. It's tough living with someone who gives you the silent treatment or when they do speak they have nothing nice to say to you. If he just argues then he's frustrated and can't express himself, but abuse is when he could call you "ugly, fat, useless, stupid, etc." That's abuse! If he is physically abusive then it's time for you to leave. These people never get help and the physical abuse just becomes worse. If it's just mental abuse then there isn't a chance in hell that he will sit down with you and discuss this, so you are going to have to make some tough decisions. No one should have to live in this misery, so if you've had enough then I would move out! First see a lawyer and just don't leave or this could be classified legally as "desertion" and you could lose the house, any properties or monies and even the children. I wish you good luck Marcy I'm dating my boyfriend of almost two years. I feel that he's abusive.. and when he yells at me, I automatically go silent. Eventually if you give the silent treatment enough, it's natural to you and you can't help it. This makes the abuser madder than he already is. I don't consider it abuse though. Any time I speak it's like a maze with no ends. I never say anything that he considers "helping", so I stay silent. I would think it best to try to talk to your abuser to avoid him/her getting worse, and you forgetting how to speak for yourself.. but I really don't see it as abuse because they abuse you first! I really do recommend trying to talk it out though.. The more you do it, the better you will become at speaking for yourself, the better you will learn to become dependant rather than to submis yourself to the abuser.
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Is your wife mentally abusing you by reporting you to the police as a physical abuser when you are not?
Maybe it will help if you define what a physical abuser is. I am not judging you, but your question leaves too many possibilities. If you define a physical abuser as a man that punches a woman more than once, then you do not consider yourself an abuser. However, this is denial to make yourself feel better. A physical abuser is a personn MAN or WOMAN that hits a person in any way more than once. Hitting includes, spitting on, chasing, cornering, towering over, throwing or threatning to throw an object, punching, grabbing, slapping, restraining. In addition, it is abuse if you threaten any of those actions. Emotional abuse usually comes before physical abuse. Emotional abuse includes yelling, swearing, belittling, name calling, gaslighting, headgames, forgetting, discarding, ignoring (silent treatment), gossiping, neglecting and many more forms. Please read about the cycle of abuse on google. You may be an abuser. If you want to keep your marriage intact its best you acknowledge this problem. Most women do not go and tell police they are abused by a husband if they are not. It takes a real man to admit he needs help and a useless one to continue to abuse a woman. If legal steps have already been taken, it is up to the police, a judge, and possibly a court appointed psychologist to make a determination of what is actually going on in the home between the couple. This is not to say that some people do not falsify claims of abuse--but in many cases, the abuser continues to deny his/her actions, even when there is clear evidence of physical abuse going on. This is not the time to worry about your wife's motives--if you are insistent on proving to the police and the court that you are not an abuser, I would suggest moving out of the marital residence, going to counseling, and looking for legal advice from a family law attorney. Do not contact your wife or any of her family, do not make threats of any kind.
Has anyone remarried their abuser and been happy?
no. i have no idea why you would ask that. that is OBVIOUSLY not ever going to happen. if it does, that person makes me sick.
