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Is it natural to beat yourself up after your spouses affair so it destroys your self esteem?
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- Yes, it is natural for a spouse who has been cheated on to lose their self esteem and beat themselves up because especially women feel that they had to have done something wrong to cause the spouse to cheat; perhaps they are not pretty enough; too fat; too thin; not a good wife or mother, when, in fact, it is the cheating spouse that has low self esteem and is immature. You both can either go for marriage counseling or, you can sit down and communicate with each other as to what problems you have in your marriage and try to work together to come to some amicable agreement regarding these problems. It is far easier for some people to cheat (so they think) then to work at a marriage and be responsible for their own actions. If your spouse has only cheated once only then 'to err is human', but if they make a hobby out of this you would only be enabling their behavior by staying with them and you will eventually lose all your self respect and dignity and waste your life on such a person.
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Did Freud and minna have and affair?
According to Carl Jung, yes.
You feel guilty about having an affair should you stop?
You wouldn't be asking this question if you didn't already feel there was something problematic about what's occurring. When you invest most of your focus and energies into an affair, you put other things on the shelf--your spouse/partner and your children (if any). By seeking a emotional escape with a lover, you're turning away from reality, which includes the reasons you're unsatisfied in your current life. What is missing from your life that you feel is met by the affair and your affair partner? The problems that were in your life before the affair started haven't gone away, it's just easier to ignore them when you're on the emotional 'high' that an affair creates. When that high fades for either you or your lover you'll be back to square one. You (personally) still will not be satisfied with your life. The problem with an affair is that both lovers live in a bubble--never planning on the major fallout that would occur if the affair was found out. Would you leave your spouse/partner for your lover? Would they leave their current partner for you? Can you accept that you will be seen as untrustworthy, based on your secrets and deceits? Will you be OK with being gossiped about, and possibly having your children exposed to it? Are you prepared for the possibility being asked by your spouse to leave your home and your family? What do want out of your marriage/relationship? If you want to stay with your spouse/partner, you need to focus on that relationship by ending the affair now. If you no longer want to be in you current relationship, you need to do the most integral thing for everyone concerned--notify your spouse/partner that you are ending the relationship. It is then up to you and your affair partner to decide if you have anything worth pursuing in real life.
How much do I need to know about my cheating husband's affair?
Ask yourself what you could live without knowing and what you could live without knowing that you would use as anger tactics or throwing back at him. If you are trying to forgive him and move forward - do just that leave the past in the past and move forward - try not to bring it up anymore. It would probably be best to as little as possible and leave it at that.
Why are some wives struggling with self doubt and self esteem after spouse affair?
it can leave a feeling of inadequacy. If a person is with some one and they still cheat on them, it makes the other person feel as if they are lacking and are therefore at fault for their spouse going out and cheating. They may feel if they were prettier, smarter, sexier, etc. that they could have somehow prevented this. Fact is if a person is going to cheat or if that is just part of their character, there isn't much that can be done to stop it.
If the affair was long distance and lasted 5 years and was more emotional than physical doesnt that make it worse?
just saying the affair was for nearly 5 years,but because of distance they talked everyday,texted,etc..until the mistress ended it because of his lies..i think that makes it harder to cut ties with the mistress..
How do you get over an affair which was perfect till one partner lost the desire is confused wth stress at work and homeStress not related with us we love our spouses also and were happy in our affair?
You should not of been having an affair in the first place. If you really loved your spouses you would not have begun the affair, nor would you feel the need to get over one.
What is involved to make an affair?
Two people willing to cheat on one or both of their spouses. It also involve selfishness.
How easy it is to fall into an emotional affair?
If your emotional needs are being met, then you can easily catch yourself if you feel you are falling into an emotional affair or that someone is trying to pull you into one. However, if they are not be met, then it is very easy and will feel natural and probably harmless.
If a woman knows of a spouses affair then chooses to stay but later on tries to use that against him in a divorce is that possible?
this info is likely to be used AGAINST the woman
How did the Dreyfus affair affect the third republic?
Go f*** yourself
What has the author Pamela Kilian written?
Pamela Kilian has written: 'Barbara Bush' -- subject(s): Presidents' spouses, Biography, Large type books 'Barbara Bush' -- subject(s): Presidents' spouses, Biography, Family 'Barbara Bush' -- subject(s): Biography, Family, Presidents' spouses 'What was Watergate?' -- subject(s): Juvenile literature, Watergate Affair, 1972-1974
Was Shania Twain married before Robert Mutt Lange?
No. They filed for divorce after she discovered Mutt was having an affair with her personal assistant. They have now "flip flopped" ex spouses.
Why don't those involved in an emotional affair get divorced from their spouses so they can be with the other person if they really love that person?
Because they don't love that person. They only "Love" themself.
Is it ok to keep having an affair after 6 years and no on knows?
no you should be ashamed of yourself
What are the release dates for Family Affair - 1966 Speak for Yourself Mr- French 3-24?
Family Affair - 1966 Speak for Yourself Mr- French 3-24 was released on: USA: 17 March 1969 Austria: 12 August 1970
Has anyone ever sued spouses mistress in Texas?
ANSWER:There no such things as suing another woman because your husband is having an affair with her. Your best solution is your husband, he is the one that pursue this woman. Sorry love!
What is the easiest way for two married people to carry on a secret affair?
You don't - and if you both feel you need to you both should not be with your spouses or in committed relationships, get a divorce - then you can do whatever you want. Think of it this way how would you feel if your spouses were doing this behind your backs. Affairs never end good so be realistic about this and stop what does not and should not be started to begin with.
