Cheating

Not necessarily. Accusations and suspicions of cheating come from a place of insecurity that may or may not have a bearing a person's ability to be faithful. Those are two different issues.

Are women who accuse you of cheating more likely to cheat on you?....No. Men tend to think because a woman repeatedly accuses them or happens to ask, that maybe they could cheat on them, low self esteem, craziness..etc. To be frank about it, if she thinks you are, she could cheat on you, but only if she thinks it or has proof...and deny, deny, deny just doesn't work...it only makes it worse. If you're cheating, state it. Don't let it linger or get worse...if you have found someone else, be a man (or a woman) and state it.

I have been cheated on repeatedly and honestly, I am sick of it. I have only accused because 'clues'..etc are so 'put out there'. Women do not accuse because we feel 'less than', like most men think. We accuse because it's happening. We don't waste our time chasing after a man, like men do chasing after us. Being a woman is different than being a man, and I am not speaking of gender--if we didn't need them to reproduce, we would be just fine, honestly. No Wars...or accusing of who did what, but of course, Men rule the world and in that...."you can't do what I do" is a likely saying from men. I throw my hands up and thank God I can't do what you can do....I treat my body, my spouse AND life with respect...You men should do the same....Do what us women do...and grow up.

Granted I have heard that there are a few men out there, that are actually men. They don't cheat, abuse..etc. but they are like finding a diamond in the ocean...very hard and very rare. If there are any out there, I have yet to meet them... if men would only think about it...women are more respectful to their body (and love life)...why cheat when we have all we need?...after all, all men want it.

Interesting. In all the other Questions related to cheating on this site, the women who post constantly state that "if a man accuses you of cheating, then HE probably is." Well, guess what? That applies to women as well. If you're going around accusing me of cheating and getting all suspicious of me, what do YOU have to hide? It takes one to know one. Men should be more suspicious of their wives and girlfriends. Go through HER stuff. Check out HER email, guys. Rummage around in her purse. Look at HER cell phone numbers. When a guy cheats, that means somebody else's WOMAN is cheating with him. Maybe that woman is YOURS!

My wife was always so very jealous she would drive crazy, about where I was. She always called me if I was five minutes late. She made me promise that if I ever found someone new that I would not do it behind her back. Guess she would know how much it hurt. Well I suppose that you've guessed already, at what she did? Than told me that she never meant to hurt me, after three years, why would she ever think it could me? Well that was 20 years ago and she never cheated again, she loved me dearly, until she passed away. I do love her but she'll never know how much of my love she lost, nor will I.

The game of what is known as validation has been and will always most likely be around. I am 34 yrs old, one thing i have learned a very important rule of thumb is this, (everyone is different and has different methods of operating), people do things for all sorts of f__ked up reasoning, what is meant by validation is people try for something they don't really need or sometimes even want only to have a story to tell someone else, the spot light of he/she actually did it attention, some people desperately crave to be admired, i have been married twice, the first time definitely a learning experience, the second i have loved since the first day we looked each other in the eyes with a burning passion, now don't misunderstand me, she is like the man above stated accuses me of cheating on a daily basis, sometimes the fight goes on for several hours, and i have not even wanted to, i enjoy my sex life with my wife, too me she is drop dead sexy, i am married to her and i have fantasies about her she is so hot to me, but with sex were not completely on the same page so some fantasies will ramain a dream, the thing i do with my wife in general too make sure if she ever cheated on me it was because she wanted to not because she needed to, men here is the problem and very few of us understand it, i am what is known as a (past master) of every interest, that is why i know what i am about to tell you, woman need company, they need to be heard, they need to be loved, they definitely need to climax, the need security, the problem with their needs is their like a cat, love and hate you in the same minute, want a divorce and sex in the same hour, most of these issues with woman are just frustration coming from whatever wherever, when woman want things it isn't the same as with men, they don't just blurt it out and say it, they communicate for whatever reason subtle, why a hint is better than asking/ telling beats me.

Woman usually do things such as cheating out of neccessity, they have somethig missing and in their life and even they don't know what and the cheating thing is an attempt at filling the space of what is needed, woman don't know what they want sometimes, and sometimes want our help figuring it out, yes this is true, stated in a book written by a psychological doctor who is a woman, so ladies don't try to deny this, you WILL not convince me other wise, i have met too many of you and observed enough for a lifetime.

Most of the time being accused of cheating is done to observe the answer as a whole, how long it took to answer, the expression on your face, the tone in your voice, and any other things that can be read, the real point of it sometimes is to guarantee her she wont be left heart broken, she is looking for a promise that her man is hers no matter what goddess he will see today or tomorrow, or who will try to seduce him, as long as the answer come back in a believable or usual form you are good for today anyway, but she will be back in a different form tomorrow, grant you.

Cheating is done by men with either an ego or a huge build up of fluid that needs released, as for the ones with an ego he slept with her because she made him feel like a sex master or a king for a whole 60 seconds and he could not resist the validation, as for fluid build up with those who wont masturbate cheating is pretty much the only way to release the pressure, sex is used against men because their build up is different that a womans, once he is turned on it stays, she will eventually cool off and forget it, he still has fluid build up and no where to go, guys a word to you from experience, masterbating is actually something you might consider ok, it not only takes the sensitivity out of your game and helps you to go longer when inside of her helping her to build up and eventually climax, but it take away the pressure of you needed sex so you can actually think about what your saying and doing instead of saying what she wants to hear so she will give in, making promises or saying things just to get sex after words isn't good, a promise is a promise, sex goes way, promises don't, it also takes out the need to cheat cause the pressure isn't there at all, just be careful if your girl does turn you on just by looking at her you will never be in the mood and she will definitely wonder then.

Men if your woman has been cheated on any in the past and severely hurt by it, she will most likely never overcome it, once a woman is scorned it is for LIFE, if she doesnt get past it someway somehow and she will take her hatred to the grave, and nothing you say or do will change this in her, i have some understanding of a woman so i know about how they feel in some ways, and i know others are just silly for what they do and why, but woman are woman, once she has had children or the sex slows down you will reallize what kind of woman you have, if she turns into a witch after children, all she wanted was pregnant most likely, if the sex slows down and she does not literally try to rape you she didn't enjoy when it was there.

One correction to all men, woman need us a lot more than we need them ok, remove the sex and they have nothing we can use, unless you enjoyed the cuddle time, do not allow them to fool you, if you allow them to be boss over you and she changes or seems more energetic and very ambitious she is on her way to controlling your every move/ word/ thought and anything else available, if they tell you they don't need you ask why she is there, if the reason for her being there is something she can easily do for herself (she most likely would), and it isn't true.

Woman my heart goes out to those who have been cheated on, I feel for you, if you ever cheated then you deserve what you get, if not I truly feel for you.

Men, if a woman has anything on her mind at all, you will need to ease it for her to relax and become in the mood for sex, she cant climax and worry at the same time, so if it cant be relieved for a while get what your there for and try talking after words, maybe another round is order if you can help ease her mind, she will want to thank you for your help.

Could be cheating, but probably just no longer interested. not necessarily. you should get invilved w/ his old friend on a more personal level. hang-out w/ the two of them until you feel secure. if this feeling fails to arise, come right out and ask. them both at the same time. honesty is your ali.

I'm sure there is more to this story, but, don't second-guess anyone and how does this woman (or any other person) know the man hates this woman! On the other hand for SOME men they aren't too fussy who they are with when it comes down to sex.

My ex did the same thing and I thought he was trying to make me crazy. But as I got older I realizedthat if he admittedto it than it would be realto him. By denying it, he could forget it ever happened. Don't worry what he will or won't admit or acknowledge. Youneed to be at peace with yourself and move on.

I wouldn't go that far. Virtually all teenagers are curious about sex, but many probably have no curiosity about gay sex. Some people become curious about such things later in life. Who knows name one adult who knows whats goin on in any given teens head xept food

== == * No you can't tell if a man is cheating by his testicles being loose. There could be many reasons for this. He could have previously masturbated for instance. * Actually, it is possible to get this, and any other information, from a man via his testicles. * Simply take one organ in each hand, and squeeze, gently at first, then harder & harder until he gasps and make a high-pitched whimpering noise. At this point he will tell you absolutely anything you want to know, no matter how incriminating, in order to stop the extreme pain that he will be experiencing! I've used this technique a few times, and its absolutely infallible!

Well honey, it means one of two things. Either your mother and father made love before he left for his long trip, and your mother simply found out a month or two after he left, or.... Your mother is a dirty cheating c*** juggling thunder c**t who cheated on daddy while he was away, probably with someone you know; a nieghbor, the mailman, maybe someone your mommy makes you call 'uncle'. That's how these things happen. It means she doesn't love you.

Yes. Freeloaders. Comittment-phobes . Sex addicts. Adrenaline junkies. And the desperate and the gullible .

You love her and she loves you back, unconditionally.

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You do, no one elses not even your own family, your best friends not even her friend. It's you that can say if this woman is worthy of you or if you are worthy of her. If you love her, your heart will tell you. Just look into her eyes and you might find something that will make your heart fonder. It is you ....no one else.

• When someone acts upon infidelity then they have broken that bond of trust with their mate. Saying sorry is a start, but not enough and trust is earned. It will take time for the mate that was cheated on to forgive, but it can be done if the person who committed infidelity has only done it the once and is truly remorseful. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes, but we should learn from those mistakes and not make the same ones over again.

It really doesn't matter how he behaves because you've already concluded he's cheating. It's a no-win situation for him.

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It's going to be hard for you to see if his going to travel with the other woman. One way is if this trip of his is business, the plane ticket will be paid by the company. You can call his work place and pretend that you want to surprise your husband inside the plane. You need to sound real or else thy will just tell you to ask your husband. If this don't work just ask him what hotel he will be in so you know how to get in touch with him when you need to. If your husband is cheating and you know about it but he didn't know that you know, why not just follow him at the airport and see what will happen there. Just be careful and make sure that you have some evidence to back your story, and good luck.

It is human nature not to trust any one that has once betrayed you. This is completely understandable. There is a reason not to believe a person if they say they will change however once you are able to forgive them it will be much easier to take them back.

Forgiveness is supposedly the gateway to happiness. So if you forgive him you will be less angry that your spouse cheated. It is right to give people second chances and if love is pure as it is supposed to be he will not cheat again.

A Stereotypical Male:

A man who...

Not only THINKS about Sex all the time, but doesn't hesitate to flaunt it.

Treats women as objects.

Believes in Gender Roles.

Believes he is Superior to Females.

Sits around on the couch watching TV.

Is Pro at Selective Hearing when it comes to Girlfriend/Wife/Children.

Responsibility, is not in their vocabulary.

Generally is messy.

Doesn't think of Female's needs and wants.

When hanging out with Guy Friends... they act different then at home.

Once again- Tell her goodbye. She knows or ought to know that it must be killing you and yet she did it anyway. There is no excuse for that and no coming back from that that I can see.

no you cant tell but you could find out from looking at her phone or noticing how she acts. Has she ever cheated on you before? i was wondering cause your asking this question. if she has not cheated then i dont see why she would now or if she has she is not worth you my friend, trust me there is better girls.

You have to ask yourself why you are suspicious and if you have a valid reason to be thinking something or if maybe you have trust issues from the past that have never been dealt with and following into this relationship. The best way to find out anything is to actually talk with him and ask him. Communication is key in a relationship let alone trust.

Sounds like your relationship is based on sex and that's not good for you because it makes you feel used. Ask him how he feels about you and the reason why he doesnt say i love you back. Signs of cheating is if its the weekend and he just wants to hang out with the boys but doesnt answer your calls but he always has an excuse. Or he fakes an argument just to say forget you then so he can go out and get his way knowing that you will eventually get over it.

I don't know why your girlfriend keeps breaking up with you but i have just come out of a 1 year relationship with someone i think will be the love of my life (of course I don't know this). I kept threatening to break up with him when I got scared and I thought I was going to get hurt. It wasnt cos I didnt love him or care about him, but I was scared and I didnt want to be rejected. I know it hurt both of us, but I couldn't stop. The cool thing about us was that each of us would compromise when the other was being stubborn. There was a fair amount of give and take. I hope we can be friends one day and I hope he will always always be in my life. Good luck.

I'm a 65 year old female and this is strictly my opinion, but yes, I do believe many men can take it harder than women. Women seem to be more romantic and put their "all" into relationships and usually take the relationship very seriously. It's often times hard to read a man's mind on this subject. I've seen many men devastated by a lost love and some never find or want to find someone else to replace that lost love. Men are just human and they hurt. They may get drunk, act foolish, flirt, date another woman right away and sometimes jump from the frying pan into the fire. It's just their way in some cases. Other men can move on. It's scientifically proven that men who are widowers are completely lost without their mate, while women who become widows are sad, upset, miss their mate like crazy, but are stronger and can eke out a life for themselves. Some marry, some don't and others rely on their friends and join clubs. Men are more apt to "go into themselves" and unless a woman seeks them out it's doubtful a high percentage would ever remarry or at least date another woman (when older.) Because there are over 3 times more women in the world than men the stats are higher of course that some women take longer to heal. Everyone is different, and every situation is different, but I would say that in general women take longer to heal after someone cheats on them. Women value trust more than men, so when they lose it, it hurts more. But this is a stereotype; there are plenty of exceptions. But the answer above me doesn't agree with mine, and it seems well supported. This is very subjective. -DJ Craig

If you think she's actually going to contact your wife, you need to come clean fast. The truth's going to come out anyway, so you need to get your side of the story out first. That also allows you to cleanly break off all communication with the ex-mistress once and for all. But if she's just trying to plant suspicion in your wife's head -- by having suspicious things sent to your house in your name, for example, like expensive jewelry catalogs, or sending your wife anonymous e-mail about "what to do if your husband cheats" -- then you can just pull her aside and tell her gently that you know what she's doing but you've recommitted yourself to your marriage, and you want her to walk away happy for you. This type of person sounds more like a stalker than mistress material, and certainly no one you'd consider leaving your wife for.

It is a terrible feeling to be cheated upon. There might be various reasons for your feeling. Ignorance is the main one.

• If you are fairly sure your husband has not continuously cheated and this is the first time he has strayed then no, you wouldn't be a fool for trying to save your marriage. Sit down and talk to your husband and hopefully he will agree to go to marriage counseling. Explain to him that the psychologist is not there to blame either spouse, but to give them tools to strengthen their marriage and only there to point out where you are going wrong when communicating with each other. Communication skills and talking about each other's feelings are a necessity in any good marriage. If your husband is constantly cheating then this is a red flag that he will continue to do so and it would be to your best interest to dissolve the marriage and move on in your life.

Only he will know the true answer to that. It really depends on your realationship! Will he still trust you? Does he really love you? How close is he to that friend? Was it just a kiss? But I believe you should tell him before he finds out by someone esle.