Cheating

• The other woman should never believe what a married man says because he would not be cheating on his wife if he didn't have problems with communication skills with his wife or wasn't so self centered and devious to cheat on her. The 'other woman' is generally looked on at first as being exciting for the married man because she does not know him as well as his wife does so he can pretty much get away with lying if he so chooses, but he also knows it's about a free sexual relationship with no ties and more often than not men for one reason or another will go back to their wives and toss the other woman away like so much garbage. The percentage of a married man getting a divorce to marry the other woman is extremely low.

I'd be more concerned with confronting my spouse then the person they're cheating with. That's the only relationship that should be on concern. Do what I did with my first husband when his mistress phoned me and wanted to talk "woman-to-woman" I told her I'd tie a big red bow on his butt and send him over and she could put up with his antics! I left!

Well the institution of marriage is supposed to be giving 100% you love, consideration and devotion to one another. It does not sound as though this is what you have. Alot of people that are married have other arrangements that work for them. If you are not happy, why waste the little time on this godly earth you have and be in marriage that is unfulfilling as yours. Be honest with yourself and your husband and make a decision to either improve or remove. good luck

you answered your own question

"Cheating" means to "keep a secret" and my question back is "why do men lie when they're caught cheating?" Both parties are to blame. There are no excuses for cheating although many people will rationalize that there reasons are a totally different case than anyone elses. We all have a tongue in our heads and if we are unhappy in our relationship then we should have the guts to break up with the person we are with and then there is no need to cheat. There are cheaters that want to have their cake and eat it too and some that are afraid if their relationship with the other person doesn't work out they can continue on with the relationship they are already in. Cheating is selfish and it shows a person has no backbone.

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Just like when the husband lie when he got caught cheating.

To me, cheating on a spouse is never justified, but her 2.5 year affair justifies a divorce if that is what you want. If you want to stay in the relationship, you'll have to forgive your wife for having the affair if you haven't already and communicate with her to find the reasons she has no interest in sex and be honest with her about your sexual needs. More than that, though, you need to talk about other needs and expectations. If there are sexual problems, the chances are great that there are other problems underlying the sexual ones. Two wrongs dont make a right. You put up with her cheating for 2.5 years and that was your mistake. It sounds like there is no love in this relationship, just end it and stop playing games with one another. Move on with your lives the way you want to live, now.....Life is too short. What did she do for 2.5 years that now she has no interest in? Im confused.........

To SOME men this could be a dream come true, but for most men it's a turn-off. Cheating with a woman is the same as cheating with a man and don't let your wife tell you any different. Whether you (not accusing you here) or your wife think it's a turn-on to have an extra female in your marriage, I suggest you re-read your marriage vows! It sounds like you aren't too thrilled about this. Your wife needs counseling to decide who she is and why she has decided she needed a relationship with a woman. She is going to have to make some hard choices here and be true to herself. If she decides she prefers women to men then this could have been an under-lying problem long before you met her. I don't buy bisexual and feel it's simply experimentation and a choice by an individual.

You simply ask him about it. Truth accompanied with humility is what keeps love between two people strong. And if he told you one thing yet you know without a doubt he is lying, take his word on it and check your sources. Sometimes the most "credible" tips come from the most incredible people.

If he calls you or tells you..Asking if he misses you but being sneeky with your words will tell you the best talk w/ me if you have anymore questions.

secretely. :)

Not all girls are dumb and not all go after the rotten type of guys. SOME younger girls may feel the moody and arrogant type of guy (lone wolf type) is one to be tamed and she thinks she's the one that can do it. It's all rather dense in a way because the mystery of that certain guy is what attracted her in the first place so why change him? I agree, it's stupid, but youth can do stupid things. Eventually these girls get the picture and pick nicer guys with more going for them.

well i agree with the girls wanting to tame a guy but i don't nessicarly believe a girl is stupid for trying to tame him.yes its a stupid idea but with the best intentions the girl wants to make him happy and help him but shes jus gonna get sunk with his ship shell get hurt they always do and in the end the guy wont stop cheating no matter what he has to change and no girl is gonna change him end of story

Answer It depends on the man. Some men may have had a first unsuccessful marriage and chose to cheat (not the answer to a marriage problem) or, he loves women and can't commit. Only you know his personality. Since you are asking this question then you must have some doubts from suspicious actions. When in doubt follow him! That's how I caught my first husband cheating on me and I found out he had cheated on me several times before this.

This in not an uncommon occurence. The best thing you could do is be empathetic although I realize this may be hurtful for you he also is going through a lot of mixed emotions. When you sit down and calmly talk as fighting and arguing never solves anything - you will have to decide where you both feel things should go from here and how your both going to handle it. Remember you have been married and were married for a reason - he may have been undecided and confused about his feelings but still knew he wanted and loved you. Good Luck and if you need an ear or something I will try to help if I can.

First off, you should make sure that she is cheating. Don't mess up something unless you are positive that she is indeed cheating. Next, you should confront her if you are positive that she is, and the rest is up to you. Do you think you can trust her not to do it again? Do you love her enough to overlook the mistake? It's all on you, there is no set way to say what to do.

I am a girl and trust me youll know if she is either shall get all mad and keeps lookin away and ask how told you or shell lie her butt off iv watched other grils do it.

Three reasons: 1) she has a bet 2)she wants to make her ex jelous 3) she really likes you

I would question the wording, "...cannot be satisfied with their wives..." it makes me wonder if he wants to explore the limits of their relationship. Maybe give her the opportunity to have different sexual experiences within the confines of their relationship. It is difficult for me, without more information, to make the logical jump from saying that he wants a threesome because he is not satisfied.Instead I would look at it form all perspectives and I can see some positives.

Maybe she is waiting for you, or she found someone else/she isn't interested.

Simple, those women that love to sleep with the married men are the type that don't want responsibilities. Like married men, they love the excitement of hiding the relationship. Some feel better knowing that no matter what, the married man will always comes back to get some attention. There are some women that feel thrilled when they know the married man's family will be destroyed.

Perhaps sleeping with someone else's husband makes that woman think that she is more attractive than the other woman, and she gets a temporary boost to her self esteem. However, in the long term there are serious consequences to her actions, both to her and the man.

Sometimes the woman is single and is hoping she can get the man to leave his wife and marry her. Sometimes she is married and wants a way out of an unhappy marriage.

well it means two guys kissing or two girls kissing......

You can never really be 100% sure, it really depends on why he did it in the first place (you really need to talk about that), but if he really loves you and you can tell that his apology is sincere and that he feel very bad about what he did and shows you how much you mean to him than there's a good chance he won't.

Just make sure to talk about it, that's the most important thing and see why he did it, of course don't give him you trust blindly, he will have to work hard to regain it, and if he really loves you he will.