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Cheating
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It really depends on wether or not your boyfriend does this often, like says hes got to go somewhere with out you, when you think somethings up.The best way to find out is to ask him if you can join him. if he says why? or no. then you should find another man.if he says yes then don't worry about it.. hes not cheating. but this does sound a little fishy.
Is it normal for a man to fantasize about his wife sleeping with other men?
It's no less normal than general fantasies of threesomes, orgies or one night stands that many people have had. It doesn't mean that the person wants to act out the fantasy in real life. There's a major difference in enjoying various fantasies that harm no one, and acting them out in real life, where you can't predict what will occur.
In fact, most men are faithful. You won't find them in bars or clubs or hotel lobbies. They are performing community service, working long hours in meaningful jobs, worshiping in church or other religious services, and hoping to find faithful women for life-long, intimate personal relationships.
Many people enjoy long marriages. No relationship is perfect and couples can have disagreements, but loyalty, honesty, respect and staying power are what it takes to have a healthy relationship.
How do you tell if a guy is cheating on you?
Well from personal expirence I would say ask him a lot of different questions and see if he can keep up, then re ask the same questions. If he can't answer the same question the first way he did then you might want to worry. Also if he calls you or anothe female you know the wrong name then you have him right there.
And for something more realistic , working long hours, not being where he said he would be , smelling of some other womans perfume , not wanting sex as much , or more than usual, doing new tricks in bed , making a dash for the shower the second he gets home , any unexplained absences , seeming like he can't wait to get out of the house or away from you. Don't go making wild accusations. Eyes and ears open , mouth shut , til you have some concrete proof.
Why would a guy decide to keep two girlfriends?
What did he do with all the other girl friends? You two are left - you hope. If he is not in love with you then you already know this. Being with him om your "day" is enjoyable. You may be young and have a lot to endure yet.
How would you know if your boyfriend is cheating while you are on vacation?
You don't. You have to do that little thing that means so much and that's TRUST. If you ain't got that, why are you even together?
AnswerWell, this is hard, unless you have someone watching him. I would think the only way is to ask him what he did while you were away and try to verify his stories, ask other people that you know if they saw him while out, ask the other people that he includes in his whereabouts, in a non-chalant way, like,"Hey, it was great that you and so/so ran into each other, how did he seem while I was away.?Is it common for a married man to have a long-term affair?
No, it's not as common as one thinks, but it does happen. Actors Spencer Tracy and Kathryn Hepburn had a long-term affair because he and his wife were Catholic and his wife refused to give him a divorce. Ms. Hepburn was still very much in love with him when he died. There are many people that have long-term affairs for various reasons and some people that may only meet one weekend out of year.
How do you tell someone you love them when you are not sure they love you back?
Do they have to love you back?
Love is risk. Love is life.
Think ahead ... years from now. Would you rather have risked and been made a fool, or not risked and missed a great opportunity? Would you rather have tried, or never have had a chance?
I'm for telling people like it is. Remember, though, not to overdo it. I dunno why we humans find disinterest attractive but we do. If you lay yourself out on their doorstep offering your life at them, they will simply notice fault... at least.
Am I making any sense? Let them know. Take a chance.
If things go sideways, wouldn't you rather they do so now?
Good luck. Pain is life. And we love life. Enjoy the ride.
hi there the best way is to sit your partner down and tell him/her straight out rite that your feelings are stronger than before and that you love him or her. Its the easiest way be honest with your partner it goes along way
How can you tell your boyfriend is cheating on you?
Well he might make excuses to not hang out with you..
What do you do if your boyfriend cheats on you?
Forgive him.
If you really like him, than who cares if he cheated on you. Always be forgiving. That is the key to a good relationship.
But if he doesn't want to be with you anymore and he was just using you, then break up with him because he obviously doesn't deserve you. It may take a while but eventually you will be able to forgive him. Just avoid him. But if he tries to talk to you, don't be mean or hateful. Act like nothing happened and just go on with your life, because if he sees he has upset you, he will feed off of it. Trust me. I've been through it.
i cant say for sure, but ususally when a guy is cheating he has a guilty conscience and thinks that you are out doing the same thing. i would call cheaters:)
How do you catch your girlfriend cheating?
Sign 1-Gut Instinct:
- The telltale sign of a cheating spouse? Having to ask that question in the first place.
- Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.
- Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that something is not right.
- You find intimate apparel or other small gift-type items that are gifts for someone else and have not been given to you.
- When your partner shows up without their wedding ring or suddenly stops wearing it and makes lame excuses as to why. This also goes for jewelry you might have purchased for them and you catch them not wearing it when they go out when usually they wear it at all time.
- When they break their established routine at work and home for no apparent or logical reason; erratic behavior.
- When your mate becomes suddenly forgetful and you have to tell him/her everything several times; their thoughts are obviously elsewhere.
- When they appears distant, show a lack of interest, or develop an unexplained aloofness that wasn't there before.
- When their behavior just doesn't add up.
- When your wife sleeps with her purse by the bed, or your husband sneaks out of the house.
- When your spouse suddenly starts completely ignoring you and not listening to what you are saying -OR- when they suddenly begin to treat you extremely nicely�more so than usual.
- When they encourage you to have a social life and go places out of town, and it seems like they're trying to get you "out of the house."
- When your husband or wife begins to intentionally look at or flirt with the opposite sex when in the past, this is something they would not have done.
- When you find birth-control pills in the medicine cabinet, and you've had a vasectomy -OR-
- When you find condoms in the car or in his pockets, and you are on the pill.
- When he or she leaves the house in the morning smelling like their usual fragrance and returns in the evening smelling like something else.
- When they arrive home and head straight into the shower or bath, and they work an office job.
- When your spouse's clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume or after-shave used by the opposite sex
- When he or she has worn the same fragrance for years, and suddenly they are wearing something new and wearing MUCH more than usual.
- When your mutual friends start acting strangely toward you, because they either know about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible spouse you are.
- When your spouse's co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence, because either they know about the afair or have heard horror stories to justify it.
- When your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is "touchy" and easily moved to anger.
- When your spouse avoids social events with you, as if they want to cover up that they are with you.
Email clues~
- When your spouse sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it.
- When your spouse spends all their time on the email, checking their email, or fooling with email somehow.
- When your husband or wife suddenly deletes all emails from the email account (and it's not just a clean up) and in the past they used to let them accumulate.
- When they delete an email the minute it comes in, and then delete the trash to make sure you don't see it.
- When s/he buys a cell phone and doesn't let you know about it.
- When your husband or wife suddenly deletes all messages from the voicemail where as they used to accumulate.
- When they suddenly delete all caller IDs from the phone so you can't see them.
- When s/he sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to the office.
- When you aren't allowed to ever look at or use their cell phone, and they go to great lenghts to make certain their cell is not answered by you.
- When your spouse is secretive about their cell phone and it is on their person 24/7, and they are on it talking or texting that whole time.
- When they receive bizarre text messages from friends you never realised knew-in other words having 'pretend' names in their phone that are really the OP.
- When they stay up to "work" or "play a game" on the computer after you go to bed. Excessive internet usage, especially late at night, is a red flag.
- When your spouse will not allow you access to their computer or they suddenly shut down the computer when you walk into the room.
- When they may password protect their laptop or computer to keep out suspicious eyes.
- When she or he warily guards access to their chatrooms, chat logs, games, Facebook page, or other social media.
- When your spouse has unusual sites showing in the "browser history" (such as "adultfriendfinder" or "ashleymadison"), or erases their history after each late-night session.
- When your spouse raises hypothetical questions such as, "Do you think it's possible to love more than one person at a time?"
- When they have a sudden desire to be helpful with the laundry (and they never have before) and it's like they're trying to find or hide something.
- When he/she shows a sudden interest in a different type of music that they really disliked before.
- When your spouse loses attention in the activities in the home and seems forgetful, distracted or like they don't care.
- When he/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home�including the children.
- When you notice that your partner loses their ability and desire to show the children the attention they need or a lack of desire to do any fix-ups around the house, e.g., lawn care, painting, cleaning the garage, house repairs, etc. They might turn this around on you at the same time and accuse you of never doing anything or treating the child/children badly.
- When they are always tired or demonstrate a noticeable lack of energy or interest in the relationship.
- When they sleep on the sofa some of the night.
- When you two don't go to bed together, and they tell you not to wait up when you have always done so.
- When your spouse suddenly asks about your schedule more often than usual-wanting to know where you'll be and when.
- When they talk to you they treat you abusively or with disdain, disrespect or excessive sarcasm. Or. . . they may begin to find fault in everything you do in an attempt to justify their affair.
- When your spouse is exceedingly critical and sometimes mocking you.
- When your spouse becomes "accusatory," asking if you are being true to him/her, usually out of guilt.
- When they begin to speak more and more harshly to you, or are more sarcastic. Sometimes this is just an attempt to justify their cheating�or to give them an excuse to storm out of the room/house.
- When you notice that they are reluctant to kiss you or accept your affection and/or they criticize you for showing attention.
- When your spouse ignores or criticizes your loving behavior and thoughtful ways. Example : "Why are you so luvy duvy? I'm just not like that."
- When s/he joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program and "hated" exercise before.
- When your spouse buys new, sexy underwear and you never see it.
- When they have a sudden preoccupation with their appearance.
- Her: When she gets spiffed up and dresses provocatively to "go grocery shopping" or to "get her hair done." She may also show up with a sudden change of hair style. Him: When he showers, shaves (cologne, deodorant, etc.) and dresses up more than usual to "go out with his buddies" or to "go fishing."
- When your spouse begin to make sudden and excessive purchases of clothes or an unexplained change in clothing style (for example, from business professional to steampunk).
- When they show a sudden interest in a different type of music that they always hated before.
- When your spouse receives "mysterious" phone calls that don't seem to make sense-and when you ask who called, they say, "No one", "Wrong number", or "Why do you care?"
- When YOU get an increasing number of hang-ups or "wrong numbers" when you pick up the phone especially if the caller hangs up after hearing your voice and doesn't speak. Generally when a person dials a "wrong" number, they will at least ask, "Is Fred there?" before hanging up.
- When your phone bills show unexplained toll or long distance charges. Often you'll find one phone number listed excessively.
- When s/he Hurriedly picks up the phone to answer it before you do.
- When they leave the room to talk on the phone.
- When your spouse Whispers while on the phone.
- When s/he deletes the information (name and phone number) from "caller ID".
- When they behave differently or end the telephone call abruptly when you enter the room�or appear to hang up quickly.
- When your spouse tells you to get ahold of him or her at a different telephone number (they don't want you calling while they're with the OP).
- When the passenger's seat is adjusted differently than you had left it.
- When your spouse takes the child seat and/or kid's toys out of the car for no particular reason.
- When you find suspicious items in the car like phone numbers, receipts, lipstick, condoms or strange hairs in the vehicle.
- When they begin to keep a change of clothes hidden in the trunk of the car or an unusual amount of clothes changes at the gym.
- When the car has unexplainable mileage or a lack of additional mileage. For example, if your husband states that he went out of town yet the odometer indicates that only a distance of 25 miles had been driven. Conversely, if he says that he's only been to the office that day, yet their odometer shows many more miles had been driven, this too, may be a significant matter.
- When s/he "goes to the store for groceries" or "goes to get some gas" or "goes to the bank" (a task that should take just a few minutes) and comes home 5 hours later.
- When you notice increased gas purchases that are inconsistent with the amount of miles on the car.
- When you find credit card receipts for gifts you didn't receive -OR- your credit card bills itemizes gifts you didn't receive (such as florist or jewelry).
- When you find the credit card receipts showing purchases from places unknown to you or that seem suspect -OR- when your credit card bill itemizes odd places.
- When you see an increase in ATM withdrawals on your bank statement, especially those from out-of-town.
- When you find ATM receipts bearing a time/date stamp from a city you don't recognize. [Cheating costs money! To play you must pay.]
- When they begin to volunteer to go to the post office, rushes to check the mail before you do or opens up a new P.O. box perhaps without even telling you.
- When unusual phone numbers appear on the phone bill.
- When the duration and time of the calls on the phone bill appear excessive.
- When they are secretive about their cell phone bill or they start to pay it themselves.
- When you notice business travel or other deductions on their expense account for travel or other expenses of which you were not aware.
- When s/he is no longer interested in sex, or s/he makes excuses for its infrequency.
- When your spouse starts to request kinky or other erotic sexual activity (behavior) that you've never done before, including watching porn.
- When they show a "new talent" in the bedroom (that they might have learned from the individual with whom they've been cheating).
- When s/he appears reluctant to kiss you, or show affection toward you.
- When your spouse continues giving poor excuses for why they're not in the mood to make love.
- When they have unexplained scratches or bruises on his or her neck or back.
- When s/he suddenly wants more sex, more often.
- When s/he works longer hours, more frequently
- When they supposedly work a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub.
- When they change their established routine with no apparent reason.
- When s/he begins discouraging you from calling him or her at work.
- When your spouse is often "unavailable" when you try to call him or her at work.
- When they returns calls long after you leave a message for him or her.
- When s/he prefers to attend work functions (or any events) alone and tries to discourage you from attending.
- When your spouse takes more trips for business reasons and even refuses to let you drive him or her to the airport.
- When you find out by accident he or she took vacation day or personal time off from work - but supposedly worked on those days.
- Your spouse is away from home, either nights or on trips, more than previously.
- When the amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off.
- When they are late home from work and always have an excuse ready.
- When s/he claims to be stressed with work problems when questioned about their odd behaviour.
2. "I need you to respect my privacy."
3. "I Love You But I'm Not In Love With You."
4. "I need some space to figure out my feelings."
If you want proof you will have to spy on him. For example you can spy on his Facebook or Emails using PC Monitoring Software like "Wolfeye Keylogger"
Any man who has cheating in his background is likely to do it again. The only way they change is when they develop the value of being monogamous. This value is an internal value, that is, not managed by threats, fear of being discovered--or by being married--and so on.
There is nothing you can do. You claim to love him, but you cheated--he isn't going to believe a word you say & he rightfully shouldn't. He can't trust you, YOU CHEATED. There's nothing you can do but wait it out. Time will fix it; let your boyfriend heal.
I would be very careful here the amount of times ive heard about this situation and the guy running back to their wifes as soon as it goes wrong and ending up with no-one at all in the end...if You are married then married means married and in God's eyes and your wife's "Until death do us part"
those vows that are taken I suppose it depends on whether they mean anything or not to you?...This is not a judgment but maybe something to consider carefully...
Just because you are now attracted to someone else does not mean your marriage committment carries any less weight than before! Being attracted to someone else happens to many people and isn't unusual. It's just how we respond to it that matters. Mostly, we have made in our minds a decision - whether consciously or not - to allow the initial interest to develop past the point that it should. Committment is easy when everythings going fine - it's situations like this where committment to someone really kicks in and requires that we actively stand up and say 'No! I'm committed to this woman I married and that is the end of this particular interest'. It won't be easy, but far easier than the mess any other action INEVITABLY leads you to.
In short, you weren't wrong that you were happily married. What is an illusion is the fact that your marriage is no longer capable of being a happy one, and that this other person is an improvement on your wife. If you really want to preserve the precious relationship with your wife, then take practical steps, even if your heart mightn't be in it at first. Break off contact with this other woman, no matter what the cost. It will pay in the long run. Recognize that many people feel attraction to someone else, but it does not follow that your wife is no longer the best person for you. Neither does it follow that you have to allow the feelings to continue.
Seek out a counsellor that will act to help deal with your situation and won't just give up on your wife and marriage. If you don't, chances are you'll be back in the same situation years later. Think about how you would have been hurt if your wife had felt the same way toward another man. Concentrate on why you first loved your wife, and make some steps towards treating her as you did when she was your girlfriend. Make yourself prefer her in your thoughts, and soon it will become reality. What you're feeling for this other woman is fleeting, even if it seems so 'real'. Most people who have affairs feel the same way, but reality soon sets in once they act upon their feelings. Plan to be able to say at the end of your life, or at your wife's graveside that you honored her in life in the most wonderful way that a man could honor a woman. Have you seen the questions that come up on this site every now and then? "How many kg are there in a liter?" There is no answer, because kg measures mass and liter measures volume. You are asking-- "how many kg in a liter?" and the answer you're getting is "down the tubes". "Happily married" isn't the way we should refer to this. "Maturely married" may come closer to the heart, but I don't think the phrase will catch on. A mature marriage/relationship is based on deep trust and mutual respect, and all the other yadda yadda things that we could throw in. I'm not dissing mature marriage-- my point is that this mustn't be confused with infactuation and lust.
Get a grip. Infatuation diminishes and vanishes over the first year or two of a marriage. This must happen; it's inevitable. If a marriage isn't supplemented by maturity by then, there will be a rough period. Infatuation and lust can always find a way to kick in. And after infatuation has its way, you will be in the very same place again (and again and again). To suggest that this means there is something wrong with a marriage/relationship that is maturing is foolish. Of course they don't feel the same. Come to your senses, and do something to kick it up again (for a while) with your wife. Maturity or infatuation? It's a no-brainer.
How do you turn a straight woman gay?
You cannot make someone feel something they don't as well as make someone something they are not.
How do you find out if your boyfriends cheating?
These ways are the easiest ways:
* Check his texts- It's not ideal, but more then likely he won't have deleted the texts.
*Check his calls- See if a number has been calling or been called too often.
*PHONE BILL* If he has been calling numbers on a contract, its more then likely, that it will pop up onto his phone bill.
Credit Card Bill- Has he been hiding it from you? It's more then likely that if he has, he will be putting the expenses onto his credit card. A slight check will tell you, because if you haven't had any gifts recently, then you know somethings up.
CHECK HIS SOCIAL NETWORKING SITES.
Stainage- Any random stains on the clothing? Stains that you can't explain?
Clothes- Do the clothes/ him smells like a perfume? Perfume that you don't wear?
Personality Change- Has he become secretive recently? Tried telling you lies, when it's clear he's been somewhere else? Was he once sweet, but now too tired for anything more then a kiss?
His Friends- It's more then likely that if he has been cheating on you, he has asked one of his friends to be his alibi for him. Ask his friends some questions about the night (not to Arouse suspicion), and then ask him on his own later on to see if they match up. If not, be alert.
One thing NOT to do is to stalk him. He will know somethings up, and then it will be much harder to find out the truth...
If you notice 3 or more of these things, I think its time to confront him, but not without evidence! Pictures of the things you have found is the best way to prove it, as sometimes men do make you out to be crazy, or not being in the right mind.
I surely hope not.....but I've heard some rumors (which I hope are not true). These are from Disney workers (location of Alias) who say he has had a date with a guy and they kissed.
I hope it's just wishful thinking
ANSWER:
Guys, correction here this actor Michael Vartan is such a straight man that his first girlfriend broke his heart during the first year of Alias season. Then in the mid second season of Alias, he got involved with Jennifer Gardner for 2 years until Ben Aflec asked her to marry him. So is everything clear that this actor is not gay....When Alias stop Michael Vartan met a fashion model and they are still a hot item..
If your suspicious, tell him about it!!! He is your husband after all, tell him how you feel and explain calmly (don't go into hysterics) why you are worried. Or of course you could do it the old fashioned way and follow him when he goes out. But before you do anything of the type, maybe think to yourself the reasons u r worried. Is it possible that you are jusst overreacting. But if it is definitely your gut feeling then tell him. Signs can be:
- He is often late for dates, etc.
- He seems to be visiting his friends a lot more than he used to or going out for 'drinks' with the boys
- He avoids answering questions about how his day was, what he did, etc.
He has to be the one to acknowledge his problem and seek help (therapy) for it. Getting married will not stop him from cheating; instead he will take his affairs even more underground. Unfortunately, no matter how much you love this man and how great your sex life is, you cannot expect a monagamous relationship with a serial cheater. It's *not* a lack on your part, emotionally or sexually. It's about what he feels he needs to fulfill himself, a bottomless pit. He may love you and be generally content in your relationship, but it won't satisfy his need for the rush, the ego satisfaction he gets from the 'seduction' phase of a new affair. For him there is something addictive about pursuing and seducing someone and also being seduced. This is especially true knowing that he's in an otherwise secure relationship where if an affair ends, then no big deal--he has you to help fill his needs as well. It's better to know now what you can expect if you stay with him, rather than find out ten years down the road when you have a shared life and possibly even children.
How do you know when spouse is cheating?
If its a girl: a stained shirt or pants.
If its a boy: a pruny penis
Wow...quite a first answer, but this might be more helpful...This is a very loaded question, but some general guidelines are: they might become more questionable of your actions i.e. accusing you of cheating and/or asking more questions about who you will be with, etc.; they might be gone more often than not at odd hours. However, if you want to be certain, you should ask your spouse and give them the benefit of the doubt - you can't go making accusations on empty thougths without evidence.
Why do men accuse women of cheating?
Some think they are or may . Some use it as a control thing to keep a woman off balance. Some are cheating themselves, and accuse the woman to deflect her attention. Some are insecure. Some are just plain paranoid. None of this is pleasant. If you are the woman being accused, tell him to give you some concrete reason , or get off your back. If you are the accuser, make you position clear or knock it off.
How do you know if your boyfriend likes someone else?
There's a way to know if your boyfriend likes someone else.... You will find a change in him, he's gonna act different, paying less attention on you and by not wanting to be with you that much as you guys used to.
