A dual relationship in counseling is when the counselor/therapist has more than one social role related to the potential client. For example, you would not be someone's "neighbor" or "cousin" and also their "therapist." If there is question as to whether you may be in a dual relationship situation, it is best to ask (if you are the potential client) or provide (if you are the potential therapist) information for alternate providers to avoid any conflict of interest.

God hates divorce. What you should do is stay married to your husband and pray for him. If you are not a christain, you need to accept Jesus Christ as your lord and savior. Pray! Prayer changes things. God never asked anyone to stay in a marriage that had any type of abuse and marriage is based on trust, loyalty, and RESPECT! Once children come into the marriage the children come first and it should be in the interest of these children that they are kept safe by all means and that includes divorce. I am was divorced because my first husband was abusive and am a Christian and I never fear that God would not forgive me. There is nothing to forgive for you can lead a horse to water, but not make them drink! If you have tried your very best and your partner isn't then it's best to leave for the sake of the children.

It is always a good idea no matter how long you've known your fiance. These counselors go to school to learn how to help you know more about each other and how to teach you how to deal with the problems and conflicts that arise. If you are a religious person, i suggest going to your pastor for counseling or a Christian counselor, they will give you the best counseling on those subjects you haven't even thought of yet as potential problems or things that are necessary in married life.

Some people just have one sick sense of humor and congratulations ... you've got one! LOL It takes two to play this game, so perhaps without realizing it you have either talked about it and tried to get more info out of him (could you have a jealous streak) or used a remark when angry such as "if I'd known things were going to turn out this way with you, then I should have stayed with Jim." Although people don't often mean these things, the other party NEVER forgets those types of comments. This "game" can only go on if you allow it. If he keeps saying it, just smile and say, "whatever makes you happy." He's trying to get a rise out of you and he appears to be pushing all your right buttons. I would listen to the warning signs (red lights are going off here) and seek some marriage counseling. It's obvious things aren't all that great in your relationship, so, if you feel your marriage is worth saving suggest to him you want to seek out a marriage counselor and if he doesn't comply, tell him he either sees one or you're leaving. Also remind him that "two can play the same game" but NEVER cheat on him, because one low snake in the household is enough. Good luck Marcy

Yes, if a guy marries you, but does not tell his kids or family then he wants to keep everything secret.

LOL! Btec national diploma ;)

It would be impossible for anyone to answer that question because there are so many factors involved, including your husband's willingness and ability to forgive and put it behind him. But if you're involved in counseling with your husband, that is a wonderful step and hopefully one that will help with reconciliation and the issues that led you to become unfaithful in the first place. Good luck!

Yes the pastor can be sued by the husband for breaking up his marriage on adultery grounds.

Marriage counseling is usually a short-term therapy that may take only a few sessions to work out problems in the relationship.

The National Directory of Family and Marriage Counseling will be very helpful in looking for a facility. As long as you input the city and the state in which you are living in, the directory should give you plenty of options to choose from. http://www.counsel-search.com/

In the beginning of the relationship between the Counselor and Client, Couple, Group, or Family it is the initial exchange among the parties for who is going to control the counseling or therapeutic exchange. Often, very early on, even with the first contact over the telephone or in the waiting room the client(s) will attempt to take control of or "battle" for the nature of the counseling exchange. In general, the client(s) will attempt to dominate the counselor/therapist in an attempt to unconsciously "sabotage" the relationship so they can continue to assert the behavior that they need to address by wresting control from the counselor/therapist. In most cases, if the counselor/therapist doesn't "fight" and win for the manner in which the counseling/therapeutic relationship is to be "structured" or conducted, any further exchanges between the counselor/client will be forfeited in the favor of the client. This process then allows them to continue their maladaptive behavior because it attenuates the efficacy of the counselor/therapist. If this occurs, it is likely that the counseling/therapeutic relationship will prove to be unsuccessful, unless the counselor/therapist can "take back" dominance or control of the helping relationship.

No counseling works unless:

* Both parties want it to work * Both parties realize that they, not the counsellor are going to make it work * Both parties realize it will take a long time to fix problems that were a long time developing

* Both parties and the counsellor want to, and do, put in the sweat of making it work (penalties are in place for failure to follow through)

* Both parties agree to a statement that whatever is disclosed has no future use as a stick in arguemnts

* The counsellor is of the highest quality, is certified by a government organization (not a clergy hack), has been checked out and has a good track record * The counseling is not free (nobody values free advice)

* The basic problems are addressed and acted on following a causal analysis process

* The marriage is worth saving * Third party advice is avoided

Definitely, before anything gets out of hand or goes anything further.

The person having trust issues should be counseled individually as well. Else they could possibly mistrust the marriage counselor too. I should know, my husband mentally links me with wvery man in town.

My husband and I have been married for 7 months and recently started seeing a marriage counselor because of trust issues. Trust was never a problem until we were married and living together. Now that we are together all the time, we expect to know every little detail about each other's lives when we're not together. And when I felt that my husband was being sneaky or keeping something from me, I made some pretty horrible accusations which made him feel as though I didn't trust him. I was having trouble trusting him and he felt that he couldn't trust me enough to tell me what was going on for fear that I would jump to conclusions. It's going to take a lot of work to build a solid foundation of trust in our marriage, but seeing a marriage counselor is helping us to strengthen our marriage. It definitely helps to have an intermediate person who can put things in perspective and make you see that there isn't a good guy/bad guy in marriage. It's about working together as a team to resolve issues and build a strong marriage.

Counseling is needed for sure!

You love someone who lies to you, cheats on you, and uses drugs?

Of course multiple relationship is unethical, dating a person who's into multiple relationship is extremely dangerous. First of all there are numerous diseases that you are bound to catch and this is exactly why we are different from animals. multiple relationship is like going to an orgy, except everyone is not present at the same time. Humans have to put some kind of respect towards themselves and their bodies, if not, then we are going to be the worse creatures on earth.

Research shows that marriage counseling, when effective, tends to improve a person's physical as well as mental health, in addition to improving the relationship.

Marriage counseling is not covered by insurance. In order for any counseling or therapy treatment to be covered by insurance, there must be a mental health diagnosis identified for the client to deem the counseling "medically necessary."

Take the words of an old Country song: "One day at a time, sweet Jesus. Thats all I'm asking from you. Just give me the strength, to do every day, what I have to do. Yesterdays gone, sweet Jesus. And tomorrow may never be mine. Lord help me today, show me the way, One day at a time."

it hasnt..! LOL GET OVER IT

Surely a pastor knows that he's "building up his riches in Heaven," so why should he ask for, expect, or charge anything on Earth?

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