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Marriage and Relationship Counseling
Marriage counseling can be used in any stage of a marriage, but it is often looked into after a major relationship crisis, such as an affair.
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How is counseling a relationship?
Counseling helps you fix problems you have in your relationship and help you to have a stronger relationship with your significant other.
If medication for depression and anxiety is not working, there is a possibility that there is another closely related mental health issue that needs treatment. Seeking your doctors opinion, and also seeking other doctor's opinions until you get the help you need is important. Mental Health support groups or helplines can also provide information or just someone to talk to when things seem too much. There are some milder forms of biploar that have very similar symptoms to depression, but need different therapy. This may or may not be true for you, but worth exploring.
I would say yes only based on personal things. My husband questioned me all the time. He even told everyone I was cheating. Well he left me after 11 years of marriage and two children for a friend of ours. Still to this day he denies that he was ever doing anything and I caused the whole thing by him not trusting me, But it could be her last relationship was very bad and her trust will take time...just be careful sit down and just ask....maybe you`ll get a good answer...
It depends, I suppose. Did you answer honestly and without hesitation when she originally asked you, and now she won't do the same in return? If so, that should arouse your suspicions. Just remember that suspicion is not enough; find out for sure.
I think women are obsessed with this topic. They spend an awful lot of hours questioning and accusing their man of cheating when in most cases he isn't doing a thing! But what does that do? It alienates him from you.
And women think they've got it all figured out based on "the answers you give." Trouble is, no matter what answer you give your wife/accuser, it always indicates that you're cheating. If you make fun of her question and laugh it off, it's supposedly a sign that you're cheating. If you get angry (and who wouldn't after a dozen times?), it's a sign that you're cheating. If you say nothing and walk away (who needs to hear this again?), it's a sign that you're cheating! Sheesh! If a man did that to you all the time you'd think he was a nutcase and you wouldn't want to be with a person like that. Then, after all this accusation, women wonder, "why is he distancing himself from me?" Because you're crazy that's why?! Listen to yourself!
I got this treatment myself a couple of years ago from my own wife, so I speak from experience. I did go out by myself from time to time--to the bookstore, the grocery store, a married MALE co-worker's house--but I was always where I said I would be--always just a cell phone call away--and I always truthfully told her where I would be before hand. But, the spying and questioning made me pull away from her--and because I viewed her as a different person, it made me think about going ahead and finding someone else. (Note that I said "think" about it. I never actually did it.) Afterall, if you're accused and convicted of a crime, you might as well commit the crime. Your accuser has already decided the case ahead of time.
Women: Get a life of your own. (That way you can share it with your spouse and you won't have time to accuse him of anything.)
Did any of this sink into those estrogen-tainted brains out there?
I have to agree with that guy right there ^^^^^^ He's absolutely 100% correct WOMEN get your own lives. And this COMING FROM A WOMAN. I am Sooooo sick of hearing "you women" this and "you women" that because yeah approximately 80% of "you women" treat your men like they are you're property and not allowed to do anything without you.
To these Ladies, Let me tell you a little something about the way you should treat your man and you will get responses you are presently only fantasizing about. ***First things first, back off a little bit, don't nag, preach, scream, fight and accuse him of things he's probably not doing. Because he wants time away from you doesn't mean it's with another woman. In spite of what you want to believe he met you cause he had a life, I'm sure he wasn't locked in his bedroom and you just happened to walk through the door. Let him continue to do the things he did before you and I guarantee you he'll come home without having slept with another woman. If he does sleep with another woman, then boot his ass out the door, if you don't you get what you deserve. ***Secondly, Treat him as though you want to be treated, hug him, love him, show him attention, listen to him when he's trying to tell you about his day, or what he did while he was out. **** Thirdly, keep yourself up, keep your appearances up, look like you did when he met you, You don't have to look "hot" 24 hours, but ya know if he's coming over or coming home, look nice, wear some perfume whatever it takes, catch his attention and I promise you it'll be worth all 5 minutes of freshening up. **** Last but not least, don't hold sex over his head like you're mom keeping candy from him for not doing his chores. Get your argument over with and get over it, sex isn't meant as a tool, it's a way for a man and a woman to show each other how much they love each other, granted us women want talking and cuddling for proof, but men need the sexual part of it as their way of connecting. Men are actually very simple creatures and women tend to treat them as though they are and should be more complicated than what they really are. Ladies GET THE HELL over it, they aren't your pets, they aren't your property and they aren't going to stick around if you treat them as such.
Do as that says and assuming you have a great guy as you must have thought he was or you wouldn't be with him anyway and I can almost guarantee you that you will get treated very well, like the queen he thinks you are or at least the queen you WERE when you hooked up.
I am a married woman of 8 years and even after 8 years I am as happily married as I was the day before I married him. Now and again he brings me flowers and gifts (which we can't really afford). He is always telling me how beautiful I am, looks at me all sultry when I walk out of the bathroom-naked. And guess what else, he used to go out ALOT when we were dating and first married, not anymore he LIKES to be home with me, he enjoys being with me and would prefer to be home with the kids and I as opposed to being with his friends all the time.
TRY IT LADIES !!!!!!!!!!!
What is a dual relationship in counseling?
dual relationship is a relationsthip where where multiple roles exissts between a therapist and a client.
Does Blue Cross Blue Shield cover relationship counseling?
No, medical insurance does not cover relationship / marriage counseling. In order for counseling or therapy to be covered by insurance, there must be a mental health diagnosis identified for the client to suggest that treatment through counseling or therapy is "medically necessary."
What is dual relationship in counseling practice?
A dual relationship in counseling is when the counselor/therapist has more than one social role related to the potential client. For example, you would not be someone's "neighbor" or "cousin" and also their "therapist." If there is question as to whether you may be in a dual relationship situation, it is best to ask (if you are the potential client) or provide (if you are the potential therapist) information for alternate providers to avoid any conflict of interest.
God hates divorce. What you should do is stay married to your husband and pray for him. If you are not a christain, you need to accept Jesus Christ as your lord and savior. Pray! Prayer changes things. God never asked anyone to stay in a marriage that had any type of abuse and marriage is based on trust, loyalty, and RESPECT! Once children come into the marriage the children come first and it should be in the interest of these children that they are kept safe by all means and that includes divorce. I am was divorced because my first husband was abusive and am a Christian and I never fear that God would not forgive me. There is nothing to forgive for you can lead a horse to water, but not make them drink! If you have tried your very best and your partner isn't then it's best to leave for the sake of the children.
Should you get marriage counseling before marriage?
It is always a good idea no matter how long you've known your fiance. These counselors go to school to learn how to help you know more about each other and how to teach you how to deal with the problems and conflicts that arise. If you are a religious person, i suggest going to your pastor for counseling or a Christian counselor, they will give you the best counseling on those subjects you haven't even thought of yet as potential problems or things that are necessary in married life.
Some people just have one sick sense of humor and congratulations ... you've got one! LOL It takes two to play this game, so perhaps without realizing it you have either talked about it and tried to get more info out of him (could you have a jealous streak) or used a remark when angry such as "if I'd known things were going to turn out this way with you, then I should have stayed with Jim." Although people don't often mean these things, the other party NEVER forgets those types of comments. This "game" can only go on if you allow it. If he keeps saying it, just smile and say, "whatever makes you happy." He's trying to get a rise out of you and he appears to be pushing all your right buttons. I would listen to the warning signs (red lights are going off here) and seek some marriage counseling. It's obvious things aren't all that great in your relationship, so, if you feel your marriage is worth saving suggest to him you want to seek out a marriage counselor and if he doesn't comply, tell him he either sees one or you're leaving. Also remind him that "two can play the same game" but NEVER cheat on him, because one low snake in the household is enough. Good luck Marcy
Yes, if a guy marries you, but does not tell his kids or family then he wants to keep everything secret.
Describe processes for initiating maintaining developing and concluding a counseling relationship?
LOL! Btec national diploma ;)
It would be impossible for anyone to answer that question because there are so many factors involved, including your husband's willingness and ability to forgive and put it behind him. But if you're involved in counseling with your husband, that is a wonderful step and hopefully one that will help with reconciliation and the issues that led you to become unfaithful in the first place. Good luck!
Yes the pastor can be sued by the husband for breaking up his marriage on adultery grounds.
How long does marriage counseling usually take?
Marriage counseling is usually a short-term therapy that may take only a few sessions to work out problems in the relationship.
How can I find facilities that offer counseling for couples?
The National Directory of Family and Marriage Counseling will be very helpful in looking for a facility. As long as you input the city and the state in which you are living in, the directory should give you plenty of options to choose from. http://www.counsel-search.com/
In a counseling relationship the battle for structure involves?
In the beginning of the relationship between the Counselor and Client, Couple, Group, or Family it is the initial exchange among the parties for who is going to control the counseling or therapeutic exchange. Often, very early on, even with the first contact over the telephone or in the waiting room the client(s) will attempt to take control of or "battle" for the nature of the counseling exchange. In general, the client(s) will attempt to dominate the counselor/therapist in an attempt to unconsciously "sabotage" the relationship so they can continue to assert the behavior that they need to address by wresting control from the counselor/therapist. In most cases, if the counselor/therapist doesn't "fight" and win for the manner in which the counseling/therapeutic relationship is to be "structured" or conducted, any further exchanges between the counselor/client will be forfeited in the favor of the client. This process then allows them to continue their maladaptive behavior because it attenuates the efficacy of the counselor/therapist. If this occurs, it is likely that the counseling/therapeutic relationship will prove to be unsuccessful, unless the counselor/therapist can "take back" dominance or control of the helping relationship.
Does marriage counseling work?
No counseling works unless:
* Both parties want it to work * Both parties realize that they, not the counsellor are going to make it work * Both parties realize it will take a long time to fix problems that were a long time developing
* Both parties and the counsellor want to, and do, put in the sweat of making it work (penalties are in place for failure to follow through)
* Both parties agree to a statement that whatever is disclosed has no future use as a stick in arguemnts
* The counsellor is of the highest quality, is certified by a government organization (not a clergy hack), has been checked out and has a good track record * The counseling is not free (nobody values free advice)
* The basic problems are addressed and acted on following a causal analysis process
* The marriage is worth saving * Third party advice is avoided
Definitely, before anything gets out of hand or goes anything further.
The person having trust issues should be counseled individually as well. Else they could possibly mistrust the marriage counselor too. I should know, my husband mentally links me with wvery man in town.
My husband and I have been married for 7 months and recently started seeing a marriage counselor because of trust issues. Trust was never a problem until we were married and living together. Now that we are together all the time, we expect to know every little detail about each other's lives when we're not together. And when I felt that my husband was being sneaky or keeping something from me, I made some pretty horrible accusations which made him feel as though I didn't trust him. I was having trouble trusting him and he felt that he couldn't trust me enough to tell me what was going on for fear that I would jump to conclusions. It's going to take a lot of work to build a solid foundation of trust in our marriage, but seeing a marriage counselor is helping us to strengthen our marriage. It definitely helps to have an intermediate person who can put things in perspective and make you see that there isn't a good guy/bad guy in marriage. It's about working together as a team to resolve issues and build a strong marriage.
Counseling is needed for sure!
You love someone who lies to you, cheats on you, and uses drugs?
Are multiple relationships unethical in a counseling relationship?
Of course multiple relationship is unethical, dating a person who's into multiple relationship is extremely dangerous. First of all there are numerous diseases that you are bound to catch and this is exactly why we are different from animals. multiple relationship is like going to an orgy, except everyone is not present at the same time. Humans have to put some kind of respect towards themselves and their bodies, if not, then we are going to be the worse creatures on earth.
What does research show about marriage counseling?
Research shows that marriage counseling, when effective, tends to improve a person's physical as well as mental health, in addition to improving the relationship.
Is marriage counseling available in your united healthcare policy?
Marriage counseling is not covered by insurance. In order for any counseling or therapy treatment to be covered by insurance, there must be a mental health diagnosis identified for the client to deem the counseling "medically necessary."
Take the words of an old Country song: "One day at a time, sweet Jesus. Thats all I'm asking from you. Just give me the strength, to do every day, what I have to do. Yesterdays gone, sweet Jesus. And tomorrow may never be mine. Lord help me today, show me the way, One day at a time."
