Friends can be wonderful when you know what you need to do and need support. However, I found that neither friends nor family knew anything about what was going on with my ex or how to deal with it. Also, it is good to leave reputations intact when dealing with a person who will remain in …
Hold your ground when Necessary, but avoid completely if/when possibleMy first-hand experience: I have to say ignoring her if you can, but when you live with the person it is very difficult My husband went to Iraq for a year so i was forced to move home with my parents and younger sister again, due …
Because she probably puts up with his bad behavior over and over again. She is probably insecure and needy and the narcissist knows he can get away with anything with her.
Because they are just looking for a narcissistic supply, not really love. They don't even know what love is; they think love …
I would think there aren't any studies on that. My answer beyond that would be, "No."I DO believe that our personalites are very similar to those dictated by astrological signs but I don't think mental illness, specifically narcissism is more prevalent in some signs than others.Personally, I know th…
Why? Because they don't value reality and truth as much as they value grandiosity and admiration from others. They don't care if they have to lie about their entire life, if it makes them look good. They certainly won't have any problem lying about a "simple" vacation.
Why would you WANT to? If someone is that self-centered and you want to put up with it it's either a reflection of who you are or the person did a good snow-job on you at the beginning.
A true narcissist? If so you can't. Narcissists like to ruin peoples lives. If you live with a true narci…
You first have to understand what you are asking. A narcissist is a person that believes that the world only revolves because of them and that they must be admired by everyone... even themselves. Everything else comes in a distant second.
They did not cherish that pet. The pet did not even ex…
Well, you may want to not say things like, "See what he's doing now? That PROVES he's a narcissist!" You can't hand everyone a book on narcissim and have people check off items as they see them. Yes, I'm being a bit silly here, but don't do anything that will undermine your credibility or make you l…
For the same reason cult leaders do. They don't want any "voices of reason" undermining their plans or their quest for control. They don't want any family members, friends, clergy, etc. to get in the way of what they are trying to achieve. Its easier to brainwash someone if your voice is the only vo…
a N. can be won over simply by finding what it is they want next. if it is something they are wanting they will be eating out of the palm of your hands. be sure it's something they truly desire. this can be a little tricky also. they are shrewd and suspicious and very paranoid.
WIN them OVER?!?!?!I…
They do. That's the problem. They can't commit to one person. They, instead juggle several people. They'll eventually move on to the next victim and sometimes have a hard time letting go but if you don't give them "supply" or reaction or attention they will move on to someone else. ~ T
I am currently video taping a N who has created havoc in the lives of my husband and myself. This individual is a pathalogical liar who claims to never break the law. His vindictive behavior is carefully constructed to have no independent witnesses. I have observed him to be completely disoriented b…
Sam Vaknin is a self proclaimed narcissist, and a regular guest on many of the support forums rearding narcissism, and actually even runs a few websites of his own, where he makes himself available to answer questions. The other posters are absolutely correct though, in saying that typical…
You must realise that no matter what you do or don't do this person will keep following this cycle. It is how they operate. They will do this to any woman they are with. They put you on a pedastal only to take it away from you like tearing the rug from under. Its done on purpose to make you a slave …
Yes. But he will only devalue you again. I know you are hurting and maybe even thinking of accepting crumbs from him, rather than dealing with the pain. But you must face the fact that at some point you are going to have to walk through the pain rather than relying on a temporary fix fro…
Narcissists are all about control. Show them that they no longer have control over you. Don't call them. Don't email them. Cease all contact. Don't answer their calls or emails. Avoid them if you see them in person and show no reaction. The lack of reaction to them will be absolutely maddening.Best …
Emotional abuse can be grounds for a lawsuit and can potentially
win if the behavior is deemed as "outrageous", extreme. A tough
case to make but possible depending on factors like how well you
can prove the damage and how significant it was.
Most likely he will. If he's not able to come back with a good enough answer or reaction on the spot, he will most likely try to do it afterwards in a way or another. One way might be spreading rumors or lies about you behind your back.
AnswerHe will absolutely spread rumors or lies about you beh…
I was with a narcissist for two years. He went straight into another relationship which completely devasted me. I went crazy and told him what I thought of him, and that I knew he was using this woman like he had me. He accused me of stalking him, but I knew he was getting pleasure from th…
In a nutshell: Yes. Nobody really needs to hear life stories when you want a simple answer.
"What is a narcissistic injury?"Whatever you internalize from his/her conduct as your fault. As guilt tripping and projecting is apart of abuse and manipulation used by abusers to weaken your sense of self and resolve.If you understand he/she owns their own conduct and self destructive behavior and …
Well, a woman can sometimes be "vain and filrty" simply to get attention. Flirting is a way to get a lot of attention and most people, especially vain women, love attention. Plus if she didn't have a strong/healthy relationship with her fater or other male role model sha may be targeting a…
because they are afraid to return the love given to them
That's how they deal with things. They compartamentalize. They can't and don't want to deal with the emotions that normal people can handle, so they've programmed their brain to abruptly end relationships and do something else entirely-…
Narcissists think they are always right, who wants to be around people like that?Because they are usually on the prowl. I heard one woman who was narcassistic say that being in a room with only women was like watching paint dry. They have no desire for female friends. They seek men. They often are g…
The 'narcissist' may have been emotionally attached to you, and, seeing he could no longer be with you, lashed out to spite in retaliation for your leaving. The fact that he did not physically hurt you, did not restrain you, and apparently caused no further emotional duress…
They will be very petty snd try to put you down in ways that they think they can get away with (passive aggressive tactics). They will say things that have a double edged sword meant to hurt you. They also chose to do this when you are out somewhere and no one can hear. I once had this friend who wa…
Yes sometimes. The victim may become so insulted and angry by all the manipulation that he/she may try to "outsmart" the narcassist. It ends up backfiring as narcassists always store information in their minds of any precieved slights and will retreat and some back full force. They do this to show y…
They want to take from people not give. Therefore, they put on their best facade or front in order to get what they want. They often mirror the behaviour and outlook of their prey. Such as, if you are very funny they will ACT like they have good humour. If you are educated they will either really b…
Yes but do not be suprised by the fact that alot of people probably already know what he/she is. Alot of people just don't think they are worth it. They wont even bother saying that the N is cause hes not worth their time. I guarantee there are people seeing through their act. They are NOT as clever…
I think you perform an online search, "uncover the truth about narcissists" and educate yourself. Its amazing what you find out about them and how easy it is to get over it once you know. Understand that they are devoid of feelings, that a narcissist is an empty shell and that they are not real. Th…
i see many of the response are women who have had the husband leave well mine is the opposite and i am having a hard to dealing or understanding how you can love someone unconditionaly and all you want is to grow old and never touch another women in your life how 4 weeks before your wife can give yo…
They are MASTERS at reinventing themselves. This just mean that they can appear to be a down on his luck homeless man in court so the judge could feel pity and lessen his sentence, or he could be a suit and tie business man at work. My ex-narcissist transformed himself to fit into any situation he w…
Do you mean fake crying? If so, YES!!! Especially they are notorious for this ACT ober the phone. Notice its more on the phone and when in person they will NOT really let you see their face as they are faking it. They are good actors/actresses and can turn any moment into an old Humphrey Bogart film…
Yes, mines did...IF you want to call it a relationship. He KNEW me and LIVED with me on and off for 5 years. I questioned why he kept blaming his abusive behavior on his parents and SUGGESTED for him to seek help, but my guess on why he stayed in contact with me was due to him getting the supply tha…
No. Narcissism can be difficult to treat and it depends on the client. The client must recognize they have this problem and want to change. If the client is truly motivated (which yes, does happen despite what you may read online), treatment requires that the therapist be particularly skilled in the…
Talk to the girl that complains about you and ask why she feels that way. If you talk to her about what you are hearing, you can clear this up.
Beware of the Narcissist! Mine spent 5 years telling people how annoyed with me my neighbors were (I'm in a farming community) & on…
You have to learn to be responsible for what is best for YOU. Sometimes you just have to say "no" when someone is trying to manipulate the situation.
I am also struggling with this situation. We feel for other people, narcissists do not. I know in my heart it is best for me to stay away but i…
I got involved with an N 8 years ago & when I think about it there were many signs I now realize set off my radar at the time but I ignored (I was raised by an N mother & have been trained to ignore those warning signs).The first time I spent time alone with him (he drove me home from a rest…
Are you sure she has let it end? BPDs are not known to just walk from a relationship. They have a strong fear of abandonment. Expect more to come. If you truly want out of the relationship be strong and stand your ground. BPDs are highly manipulative. She may try every trick to get you back. If that…
BIPOLAR IS A MOOD DISORDER
It makes a person moody. Bipolar is caused by imbalanced brain
chemistry. It is very treatable. There are three levels of bipolar.
Some people have it much worse than others.
NARCISSISM IS A PERSONALITY DISORDER
Narcissism makes someone emotionally abusive and self-ce…
I'm not a professional, but I do not believe that narcissism is curable. JMO.
No. They can barely cure it, leave alone curing it "fast."
Pathological liars A pathological liar is someone who consistently lies (about anything- from the most mundane subject to detailed stories). They are very insecure people who lie to present themselves better than they really are. For Ex: If you sold 20 chocolate bars, you say you sold 25, if you s…
Both or at least you should attend counceling. You will need a 3rd party with professional training to help you strive.
AnswerDo an internet search for Sam Vaknin's blurb on Inverted Narcissists Survival Guide. If it doesn't help you, it will likely at least make you giggle. It did me and I just …
I tried in vain to have closure with my N. All I wanted was to end it on a good note. I think he knew that once I got my closure I would leave him alone. As long as we were on a bad note, I would try to make things right. He just wanted me to keep calling and being upset. I gave up after a month and…
I am assuming we are talking about 2 adults here and this is a romantic relationship so here's my advice. . .This is no joke;Run. Get as far away as you possibly can. Your life and vitality are at risk.Will it be difficult, yes.Even if you "love, love, love" the person, they don't "love" you if they…
Your husband isn't narcissistic, but just a plain old jerk! You didn't explain if this was his daughter or yours from a former relationship or marriage and you didn't explain what type of sexual comments he is making, so please explain further if you should choose to answer my post. I'll b…
A Witches Brew
According to Sam Vaknin, "Narcissists are an elusive breed, hard to spot, harder to pinpoint, impossible to capture. Even an experienced mental health diagnostician with unmitigated access to the record and to the person examined would find it fiendishly difficult to deter…
Narcissism is a rare personality disorder that requires a specific diagnosis. Additionally, narcissists typically don't lie much.
Your boss sounds more like an ego-centric who twists the truth to support him or herself. I would file a formal complaint with HR and get others in your depart…
Yes, Narcissists believe they are superior being. They demand constant positive attention and motivation. Their subconscience allows them to believe they are better than their peers. They exaggerate their achievements and goals in order to receive admiration and praise. They don't like second place …
Yes. Go onto: www.google.com Then type in: Treatment for Narcissistic Personality Disorder?" Don't be surprised to find that there is little help because Narcissists are not labeled "Narcissistic" without a good reason. They feel they are right and everyone else is wrong, so it's highly doubtful the…
If you want to punish one, just ignore him. They hate to be ignored!!
you be nice to them and praise them then get them to do what you want.Bust them in every lie, which basically means every thing they say to you, not being brash, but I have been with a narcissist for 10 years. There is no d…
Only a licensed psychiatrist can diagnose an individual with Narcissist Personality Disorder, or NPD. Individuals with NPD rarely seek psychiatric help (that's part of the disorder: "I'm OK and you're crazy, why should I seek help?") so usually it's a spouse or family member that exposes the behavi…
Probably not, the best you will be able to do is to document / record / video / keep everything the narcissist pulls. True narcissists can usually fool and actually love fooling legal and health care professionals, it gives them a sense of power. Don't kid yourself either. Many health care…
there is nothing you can do for her, accept that she is who she is
and try and put as much distance between you both as you can, she
will never change, she will never love as a mother should love a
child. you owe it to yourself to have as little as possible to do
with her. i haven't spoken to my n m…
The narcissist has become so disillusioned that he believes in statements with no logical basis.
Lying is a trait and vehicle which narcissists have acquired for self-preservation. It is a cover that works time and again until their credibility is impeached by facts. Because a n…
WHEN THEY WANT SOMETHING FROM YOU
only when it serves them to be
I agree, only when they are at a low point and need something from you but then throw an almighty tantrum when they don't get it, will then blame everything on you and will then cut you off..... until the next tim…
No, narcassistic people are this way with many (often will argue with coworkers, family and friends) and you had nothing to do with it and you didn't cause him to be this way. You got the worst of it because you are the most closely connected to this person. They consider society stupid as a whole a…
yes this is the silly cycle of a narcissistYes it is common. That's what they do best, playing their games and ensuring they have victims at hand. They want to know and wish that their victims never move on and find other partners. To them that is the worst type of insult.
Oh god yes. Some do anyways! I recall one who wasnt intelligent enough to use big words but god he would go on an on and expect you to hang onto his every word until he got too the point..which he never did. He used conversations ONLY to manipulate me with undertones of me not quite being good enoug…
This sounds all too familiar. I had to answer this because this kind of thing happened to me almost eerily similar and I will tell you that the child is better off without him. If he's not in the kids life it will have a better happier life. I can't even imagine if my ex N had been in our child's li…
You can't answer a question like that after just a description of that single behavior. He could also be a very insecure person who is attempting to make himself feel more desirable/important. There are quite a few possibilities and you can't determine if he is a narcissist from just what …
It could just be that it's a very insecure person who is trying to convince the rest of the world while he's trying to convince himself.
Actually yes they do. I have never met an insecure person who would say that, it was normally that they are not as smart and want the validation fr…
I don't know what kind of marriage you and your husband have, but lot of times men feels his wife is not pleasing him the way he expected to. Lot of it has to do with physical appearance, personality, routine life style, sex, and so on. When men are at work, they see another woman who's dressed sexy…
because he's still some source of narcissistic supply for her
She craves attention, good or bad to make her feel alive. Stephanie
Simply because they can and do. They are like drug addicts and need attention all the time. Most can't stand themselves so they hate to be alone…
I don't think you ever do. All you can do is learn to let go of the pain withinYes. I thought that would be the hardest but in time you just dont care how and what they think. You will just be glad to have your self esteem and life back. There is no future with these types.
That really depe…
It has been my experience that they will fake-hurt for a moment and
then go out and try and get more of their narcissistic supply from
whoever, wherever....their "fake hurt" only lasts until they find
someone to take the place of the person who just left them.
If he abuses you physically he is an A1 physical abuser so kick this guy to the curb! Narcissism has nothing to do with your problem with him. Abusers can come from an abusive family, they can even be abused themselves in society, or they can be spoiled brats or simply mean to the bone wit…
People say NOTHING CAN BE DONE. Except for one thing: that's fast becoming untrue! The mere fact that some scientists know as much as they do about what's wrong with the brain functioning of a sociopath means that solving the problem is no longer an impossible and obscure wish -- it's…
this is truly the hardest feeling to deal with. first you have to allow yourself to grieve the loss of dreams you had about your future with the narcissist. then you have to find support for the feelings you have about the time you spent with the ex then you need to find youreslf again, do the thing…
The question really is why do you care? You shouldn't want to be with anyone who treats you with such disrespect. Including your so called friends. Read some self help books to build your self-esteem.
Narcissists DO NOT CHANGE. Sure they will be happy - for a while. Then WHAM!! …
YES !! I recently got out of a relationship with an N. I broke up with him in the first place and then we got back together(or so I thought). Then it seemed he left me for a woman 10 yrs older than me, very unattractive and overweight. I later found out she is financially set. Still it bothers the h…
It's time to leave when you realize that the person cannot get better with your help and love. It's time to leave when you realize that the relationship has developed into an "enabling" situation...meaning that you give your all and more to help the person you love and nothing has changed.…
It's a high possibility, as the narcissistic person doesn't care about anyone's needs or feelings but his/her own. Even if they don't actually cheat on you, you undoubtedly will still have a lack of trust in them, if they act this way with other people.
Hopefully your narcissist won't be as b…
Yes. my diagnosis was Borderline but i feel i have some Narcissistic traits too. i do not LOVE myself, in fact, if i make a mistake i feel self-hatred but i can be very demanding that my needs be met and can become rageful if someone tells me i am something i believe i am not. my upbringing was em…
It most likely depends on whether or not the person in the new relationship is willing to feed his or her ego indefinitely. However, whenever the person "fails" the narcissist in his or her grandiose vision of how perfect and excellent their lives together ar…
Mine dumped me Then the following day he called me to say that he wanted to work through MY issues together. We spent a week talking about MY issues and him refusing to discuss any of his issues, except for the fact that he blatently checks out woman and flirts with woman right in front of me RED FL…
In the beginning, he is so considerate of you, and seems to
understand you like no one else. He is very self assured, and this
is what pulls you in. It makes him insanely attractive. He doesn't
get very upset for you when you are upset. He is shallow. You feel
that there is something missin…
HERE IS THE ULTIMATELY EASY LIFE CHANGING ANSWER FOR years I looked up for the answer to the same question. sufferings are uncountable. and you probably are so impatient to know the good answer, so here it is:
Contact a 'theta healing' professional. there are plenty of them, I can recommend …
YES!!! They of course would do this. The one I was with made me feel (through odd comments, manipulation and lies, headgames) that I was barely loveable and that any minute he might bail. He would make me feel all the time (except during honeymoon stage) that at any minute he would dump me…
remember how much of a pain he was
missing your NarcissistStay away from him. NO contact. Contact with him is toxic - you will be swept into his hell again.
Good question. I was wondering that myself. Personally, I believe their is different degrees of Narcissism. From mild to severe. The severe being the least palatable to deal with. And severe leaving the most devastation in it's wake. Sadly they allhave the "me first" atttitude which is a real relati…
The ten recognized personality disorders are: Paranoid, Schizoid, Schizotypal, Antisocial, Borderline, Histrionic, Narcissistic, Avoidant, Dependent, and Obsessive-Compulsive. In one way, shape, or form, I think most of them could be associated with rage. I will give you a definition/summa…
whats the difference.? once they give you two lies. dump him .don't let him get to 3. I was with a pathological liar and a scum bag. they never stop lying . I wasted my life for 6 years.
I think the key here is "apparent" intimacy. The N I've dealt with is extremely good at making you THINK he's being intimate....actually he turns it on and off at (and for) his pleasure. He goes in and out of being highly somatic and needing a sex partner, and when he's needy, he offers intimations …
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some do because the obsess about themselves. this includes
everything the do as well as work.
No they don't. It only has to appear they're doing a perfect job.
They'll put in an effort if it elevates their prestige whether
others of high value are watching
or obtaining a Title.
Yes, this sounds quite a lot like what happened in my situation. In my case, my ex married me once, and then divorced me, and dated a married woman (she was technically married, as was he, since neither of their divorces were final at the time). Then she dumped him (smart woman) and he ret…
My N was infatuated with me for over a year. He was totally up my rear. It was only when I decided to end things with him cause I thought he was "unstable" that he became UN-infatuated. I do believe that he did love me in his own way but could not take that I broke up with him in the first place. W…
I believe a narcissist can say and do just about anything at anytime and believe it. My ex husband would take things I had said to him, such as "your mentally abusive" and months or years later yell them back at me out of the blue. Basically he used what I siad to him, to get attention, se…
Yes, this sounds right. Narcisstic is the root word for one who places him/herself abouve others, abouve or out of reach; one who is more in love with her/himself than others in their lives. They need others to reflect themselves off of, like you would reflect yourself off the mirror; they feel that…
trust?this one makes me laugh. Because some months ago at work an N "Friend" who had been pursuing me (with lies and charm i never quite fell for) asked me outright in front of his boss. "Who do you trust more, me or him?" .. i pointed to the other fellow and said, "why him of course". N…
That's almost the definition of a narcissist. Nothing is ever their fault and they go out of their way to find ways to blame everything on others.
My ex-N would always try to refute what i am saying like "When is your next theraphy appointment" or "Are you on your period".. Especi…
permissive parents. 8/31/07Narcissism, in both genders (although there are subtypes usually attributed to males), is essentially a psychological response to low self-esteem. The narcissist develops a coping mechanism (like believing one's accomplishments are greater than they are and feeling entitle…
Yes, alcoholics, like all persons with an addiction, will
frequently lie. It's functional, that is, it works, to support
their addictive behaviour which they are sure you, and others would
disapprove of, and give them a hard time about, and/or try to stop
them indulging in. They rationalize that the…
Yes, they definitly slide into that class as they become more desperate to justify and support their addiction. Cut him loose, NOW. Take a spelling class!!!!!
Actually pathological liars tend to cause alcoholism in others. Please test yourself on these very important questions: (from…
Yes, especially if that is how their brain "wired" itself to deal with that sort of behavior.
A narcissist is back and forth with feeling emotion for another. They want to make one feel as if they want attention and then when they get it- they push it away. This is on the account that they do not want to admit or show that they indeed do need someone. It is common for somebody with…
Narcissism is a serious diagnosed disorder, the symptoms and signs of which do not include hypersensitivity. In fact, a true narcissist is very much the opposite; cold, unfeeling toward others and extremely self assured.
The narcissist I was, and still am involved with to a lesser degree, is …