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This category contains all questions regarding cheating and everything it entails, whether it is emotional or having physical relations with someone other than your significant other.
Did the person leave because they're a narcissist, have love for the other person, or both? If the individual has left you for someone else, why would you want the person back? Move on! The right person for you may just be right around the corner. Answer2: A narcissist has more love for themselve…
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It really amazes me how much the word "narcissistic" or "narcissist" comes up. You'd swear it was a new trend of disease that everyone wants to get! Some guys are just jerks and you're trailing on the boxer shorts (or thong) of your true love. You deserve better! It would be the day I would let my …
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Its really hard to tell because you need solid evidence. Usually if it feels that way deep down in your gut, That's what it is. But you shouldn't act on in until you know for sure. ANSWER: Jealousy can't be the factor her. If you think your husband or wife is been cheating on you, it will be pain, …
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The terminology in the question is misleading. Cheating is something you do against someone you are committed to, your partner, spouse, significant other. Whatever the current term may be. You are not cheating on a mistress, unless the mistress is unaware of your circumstances. The same applies i…
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First of all, men don't always cheat, but when they do, here are some possible reasons: They are not ready to have commitments. They no longer feel satisfied/stimulated in their current relationship and are too cowardly to end the relationship. They are concerned about their financial/living situat…
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Get a new friend. I know it's hard, but she will use everything she knows against you to get to him. Be polite but to the point. The next time she makes an inappropriate comment to your husband, smile sweetly and say, "It's too bad you have to practice flirting with Mike because you can't find a …
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I think peoples idea of love varies so much that many people don't know what love is. Love is not wanting to hurt the other no matter what. But does a man not love his wife if he cheats on her. Well, he is probably praying he will not get caught. sadly though a wife can smell another woman even if i…
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Sometimes he comes home late, he has suspicious marks on his shirt or coat, he does not put attention on you, he does not spend time with you, or he does not have private stuff with you. One of the major signs of cheating is sudden lack of interest. This goes for multiple categories. Sex, Common i…
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Signs from the car:They let you do the talking most of the time. They are using more gas.The mileage in their car is too high. Check the mileage for them to and from work. Is there a lot of unexplained mileage?They want you to wait while they clean out their car before you get in it.There are tw…
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This is really an opinion thing, but here goes. If she is truly a lesbian and is not just curious or bisexual, then I think you need a divorce, as this would make you incompatible on the most basic level. Can you see yourself married to a man? Also, I don't think you should be offended if she is a l…
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Not necesarally. If it bothers you, talk to him and tell him how it makes you feel. He probably doesn't realize he is doing it and will hopefully stop after you talk to him.   It doesn't necessarily mean he will cheat, but it does seem to show that he likes to flaunt himself around women.If y…
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ANSWER Well, it's a very specific situation, but generally speaking, a man/woman who cheated on their partner or use to do that regularly CAN change their ways after meeting their true love. I have a friend who used to cheat on her boyfriends regularly (kind of shocked me when she told me about it)…
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After i and my lover spent about 6 years together, my boyfriend told me that we can not be together. and already We were making ready ourselves to get married this year and I was very happy and absolutely ready to marry him. this breakup started when he went a little far from the city where I live, …
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In and of themselves, they aren't a reason to conclude that he is cheating, but combined with other things, they could be. If your husband is normally completely open and trusting, sharing everything with you, then they are definitely a reson to wonder. If he's the kind of person that likes a littl…
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No dwelling on the past. Old news! Today is a new day. No, you should not tell someone that you were a mistress to their partner.ANSWER: I'm not sure if this relationship is over because of the word " were", don't get me wrong, in my opinion only 2 way why you want to tell to a complete stranger, w…
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No, talk to your own spouse follow the "chain of command" Think about it, are you wanting to mend fences or ruin trust irrevocably? What good would come of it? Yes you should, it will, if nothing else - put an end to it. You maybe surprised at what information his wife may have. I had to do that…
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It's definitely an ego boost. My current partner was a terrible sleeze in the beginning when we first started dating. Flirted with girls and never owned up to it. I hired a P.I. and he was so nervous when I confessed I had him followed. It's only now 3 years later that he has started to grow up (38 …
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You should confront him about it and make sure your assumption is true. If it is true then you may want to leave him since they usually say that "once a cheater is always a cheater." If you give him a second chance, he may just cheat on you again and then you end up by getting hurt even more.AND IF …
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%DETAILS% That would be due to the ex still wanting a back up in my mind. Or that the person thinks they have made a mistake.This could be them being selfish in a way.Best thing to do at times is just totally cut the cord. Unless you want the ex back, then, it's really up to you on what to do. &…
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: he always was and always will be a cheater beware of the diseases he will bring home no charge. I can't think of any acceptable situation for someone to cheat on their spouse. "Too eager and forward" Huh? It is irrelevant if the woman was totally naked and climbing all over him. He had a choice a…
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There's nothing you can do. She was his wife once. You can't erase that. No matter how much he loves you, he will not not stop loving her, either. I know this isn't what you want to hear and I'm sorry. Marriage is serious business. He loved her enough to marry her and he once loved her as much as he…
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I would say yes only based on personal things. My husband questioned me all the time. He even told everyone I was cheating. Well he left me after 11 years of marriage and two children for a friend of ours. Still to this day he denies that he was ever doing anything and I caused the whole thing by hi…
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Not necessarily. Accusations and suspicions of cheating come from a place of insecurity that may or may not have a bearing a person's ability to be faithful. Those are two different issues.   Are women who accuse you of cheating more likely to cheat on you?....No. Men tend to think because …
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Probably because you want a husband, not a father, and from your question I assume he's not so great in that category. You should work on improving this relationship rather than looking outside for whatever is missing.   He maybe a good guy, a great father, but obviously he is missing somethi…
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Yes! This is exactly what happened to me. My husband did not buy the secret phone until I noticed suspicious numbers on his regular cell phone bills. When I questioned him he got very angry and hostile and accused me of interfering with his privacy. After investigating I learned that he had not only…
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Guilty Conscious Guilty Conscious is right I would say to make an attempt to show he/she is just so in to you, plus they need to keep up with your whereabouts so they can do their dirt. I know, I've just gone through that. My husband would call me constantly "to see where I am" only to find out he…
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From my personal experience that can mean several things, if you are the jealous type maybe he doesnt want to stir up trouble with you, maybe they had a question about their children together or something else that was important for him to find out, or maybe they remained friends and just still like…
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She was having serious family trouble but he didn't tell me he was helping her because I was overly jealous of her. He is also her boss. I understand him helping her but he deceived me for months. He admitted to talking to her daily, working closely with her, going to lunch with her but says he was …
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You tell us..do u still love him? i however don't think so..if u did u would have controlled yourself and acted like an adult. By cheating on him you proved that you have zero respect for him and that your either still in love with your ex (if that) or u want to have 2 much fun to be married to one …
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If you both want to save the marriage, your wife needs to admit to the affair and end it as of this moment. She needs to have no contact with the man she was having the affair with, even if this means quitting a job. She needs to explain why she had the affair--what were the issues she had in your …
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Answer He needs to end the affair, have no contact with the other person, and agree to go to marital counseling with you. Why did he decide to have an affair? He should be understanding about your anger and hurt, and he should be honest about his whereabouts and activities when you're not around.…
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It maybe just his way of diverting the attention off of him, and you may want to have him checked out. That is usually behavior of someone that is not doing right themselves.   You can start convincing him by reassuring him of things he may suspect of you, i.e. always receiving blocked phone …
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Maybe she's not getting what she needs from you, or shes curious to try different things. You should be open to that. Only your wife can answer this one. It could be that she is simply trying to hurt you. Perhaps she is a closeted lesbian and this is a reason to "come out". Perhaps she just needed…
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You don't! The thing is with anyone who thinks you are cheating, mentally handicapped or not, if they have it stuck in their minds that you are doing something that you are not, then you muct realise they THEY have the problem not you. Try to become detatched from their emotion and ask why are the…
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Both men and women are attracted to other people and will look if they notice a beautiful person. Being involved with another person romantically does not change how beautiful other people are; there are simply customs in place in society that limit the amount of interaction romantically involved pe…
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First, I believe that your definition of love is confused. A person who really loves another person does not hurt them. The men that are cheating probably do not know how to love anyone but themselves. I would venture to say that they lust instead of love.As far as hurting you ,they are also hurting…
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%REPLIES% Answer Well, heres an Idea! QUIT BEING THE OTHER WOMEN OR MAN!! Why would you still be doing things with him? If you guys get back together I 100% know he will cheat on you! Leave him in the past, and go on! Think about his wife, have you thought about what you would feel like if you …
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It's possible, and it depends on what the affair meant for him. Many "slip" once ("it was just sex" scenario) and feel so ashamed that the trauma prevents them from repeating the deed. Others have an emotional involvement, which is tougher. Some are chronic cheaters. Depends on the character, and on…
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A man who cheats and infects his spouse with a potentially fatal disease is an animal of the most careless and cruel nature. The mere thought of it sickens me. Leave this louse if you can or at the very least, tell him to keep his slimy, disease ridden paws off of you! I agree, if a spouse cheat…
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If you confront him, what do you think he will say? He isn't really going to admit it and get in trouble and probably end his marriage is he? Not very likely. You should get evidence first. People who don't want to know the truth-ask their spouse. Why? Because it is almost certain that he/she will …
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If you have a gut feeling something is going on, just keep your eyes open . Ssometimes the cheater loves to talk about the other even to their spouse. Signs can be coming home late, car seat in different place, he likes to argue over nothing, seems distant to you. These can all be signs that he woul…
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Check over his credit card/gasoline /phone receipts. Ask him how his workday was. Check his clothing for stains/perfume. If you suspect that he is going out publicly with another woman, blithely mention to him one day that a friend or yours saw him with this woman in public. Keep your tone light an…
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Answer more than likely hes chaeting on you. hes just trying to buy your love and buy himself time away from you. he wants you around so he buys you things, but he says he needs space b/c he wants to go out and do whatever he wants. he wants his cake and he wants to eat it too. don't let him he i…
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Technically no, but it's similar to a murderer getting off on a technicality. If you're in love with someone, and you sleep with someone else, you're really cheating on yourself. If you think it's not a big deal, and technically it's not cheating, than you're a shallow person and don't know what lo…
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It's possible, of course. Monogamy was imposed by the society, not by nature. But that's not the real question. What you should ask yourself is whether you're ready to live with it, even if you think you are. YES! Any human being is capable of giving love to multiple partners. Love is not a limited…
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keep it to yourself, and forget about it. This is a really hard one to figure out and you will not win no matter what you do and here is why: If you sit down and tell your girlfriend her boyfriend is cheating on her she won't believe you. She will make up (denial) in her own mind that you are …
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Think about how you feel about your relationship with your spouse. Are you happy? Does your spouse still make you feel amazing? Do you want to spend forever with your spouse? Look deep in your relationship and ask yourself these questions among many others and finally ask yourself if going outside y…
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Nothing wrong with playing the field. But you have to wonder about the years after marriage. That would be a different light. Although it is never honorable to cheat on a girlfriend/boyfriend, a person really has no committment to each other at this point. This does not necessarily mean that yo…
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I am assuming the confession came after you were married. It hurts,... it hurts to be betrayed and lied to and made a fool of. That kind of pain and distrust will take years to heal from. I had never trusted a man in all my life until I met my husband and for some reason, I loved him so wholly and c…
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Because he is a chauvinist! He is going by the fact he is man and this is expected of him. Thank heavens most men aren't like this. Personally I do not understand why you let him get away with this behavior 4 more times. Anyone can make a mistake once, but then you should learn from it. Oh, by th…
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Love is not fair and believe it or not but people can love more than one person.
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%REPLIES% Answer Of course, since you don't know what else they are doing. Answer It sounds pretty strange to me, but I still wouldn't accuse your wife of cheating. Men/women can be friends. However, it's obviously bothers you so I would tell her it's either the cell phone or you. I don'…
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He is immature and trying to prove his manhood. Most cheaters are insecure about the size of their penis and need women to lie (as all women will lie about the mans penis being perfect size to him. He will realize what he had with you one day, but you take your kind heart and save it for a real man…
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ABSOLUTELY!!! Take it from the sister of a woman who did it constantly. There's nothing more humiliating and convicting to a cheating woman than having this disgusting fantasy she's living become exposed. Right now she's comfortable because the situation is still somewhat in her control. Once the ot…
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Whoa. While I can't say I've actually seen that happen...I can see how that would be a shady, underhanded way of trying to slip past detection. It's devious...but pretty brilliant in its dishonesty. I'd say yes...that would work. But for someone who suspects that's happening...all it takes is serio…
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Dee - do you mean separated as in 1) broke up or just 2) not in the same location? If number 1, then he wasn't cheating. If number 2, then, no, your're not being unreasonable.   I've been there. Separated or together it doesn't matter. He has no business hanging out with ex-lovers no matter…
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%REPLIES% Answer No, it's not worth the effort to follow your husband to his mistress' home. It serves no purpose. Here's the scenerio: You follow him, you knock on her door, she answers it and there you are face-to-face with her. 9 chances out of 10 your husband will be furious you are t…
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Depression is a tough part of life to be in and before you ever started dating someone else you should have sat down (perhaps in a restaurant) and quietly told your boyfriend you needed to have a break for a bit and not rushed out and started dating too quickly. The last thing this poor guy needs is…
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Needy! People that have affairs either usually have one or more of the following problems (there are many others): They feel lonely in their present relationship. The person you are married to or going with does not fill the needs you must have to feel whole. If the person you are with is a good…
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This is such a hard one to deal with.Most of us can be quite attracted to another person of the opposite sex when married. If smart, just dream about it (your secret) and remain loyal to your spouse if you still love them. Marriage can get mundane, so instead of looking for others, take that energy …
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No, you would not cheat and lye to them. There obvioiusly is no LOVE if your spouse is continually doing this. Why would you put up with this kind of behavior? What are you waiting for. If it is the number 36 that keeps holding you back, it's only a number. There is a whole wonderful life out there,…
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I don't think you should confront her when she is with the man - I think you should confront her when she is at home and there is privacy and calmness. If you confront her when she is with him, emotions could highly escalate and cause something bad to happen.   She's a big girl and knows she …
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Because all men are insecure and are envious of women that aren't. they like to put blame on women for things that are completely irrational because it makes them feel like the "man" no pun intended in the relationship. Because he probably is cheating on you and trying to cover his guilt.   …
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Sounds like your friend has a pretty bad relationship with her husband and may be staying with him for family or lifestyle reasons. Maybe she needs to know the truth to help her confront her own life and her own happiness. What about a letter, anonymous. This way she won't feel awkward with you. &n…
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You don't know unless you have some actual proof, but if you suspect something fishy is going on...it probably is. Is he Cheating or Am I crazy: There will be signs such as: - he acts differently - does not tell you he loves you anymore - does not kiss or hug you goodbye - if he does kiss you it i…
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Some might say that it would be best to confront her at the front door by pushing her backwards down a flight of stairs. While this might provide you with some temporary relief, it is illegal and worse than what she did. No woman is ever worth going to jail over. Before confronting your cheating pa…
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Answer His wife knows about your affair. Answer LOL that first response was a funny but perhaps he wanted to get away from you and this was the only way to get rid of you but his wife perhaps did find out about the affair!
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Which woman REALLY makes you feel better about everything. Which woman will see you through anything, the good, the bad, and the ugly? Which woman makes you feel like you are the only man in the world when she's with you, it's about you and not her? Who makes you feel good about being you? Good Luck…
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Relationships are built on not only Love, and committment, but are built on "the big one, and this is trust". It is recommended to move on. If this relation ship is what you claim it is from your question, it is time. No one needs that type of grief in their lives. With out the trust, there is no re…
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If either the female/male is of a cheating mind you bet they can lie like sidewalks. It is possible to love two people at the same time, but we all know one must make a choice in these matters. I never heard of "lie like a sidewalk", but I have heard of "lie like A Rug". I am giving an update to my …
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You cannot do nothing big about that. Just go and confront him and ask him. If he agrees it is fine and if he does not you cannot do anything about that either.
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Please be as sure as possible he even is cheating. If he's late from work and you think he's cheating, you may not be right. If he is, the quickest method is hiring a detective. It can be hard to find a good one and it can be expensive. You pretty much have to get the goods on him if you are dealin…
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A relationship that starts with lies and deceit is a house of cards from the beginning. I do not believe so because can you really ever trust that person?   if there is a real connection and love most relationships could last no matter how it started   Please see my response to "Has…
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Cheating On Your Long Distance Lover: 1st of all, harsh TRUTH: you're not IN love with him. You may love him, but your not IN-LOVE with him. Loving someone and being IN love with them are 2 completely different things and people often confuse this feeling in relationships. For example, you love you…
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Absoulutely, you may think he does not know, but trust me he does, even if he just thinks 'somethings not been right', he knows, if you suddenly now give him some attention ect again he will pick up on that and although he will be happy about the attention he will realise that there has been another…
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%REPLIES% Answer Once you might forgive your husband for cheating, but 2 - 3 - 4 times ... kick him out! You deserve better! When you keep taking him back in he has absolutely no respect for you and certainly no respect for himself. He has it good! He knows he can have the fine life and sti…
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No! Put yourself in her place. What if a boss asked you and a female coworker to work late and of course you had to comply. Simply because she is female and you have to work late does that mean your wife should be sure you are cheating?On the other hand, if she is working too many hours of over-time…
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Although many people feel they can be friends I don't believe you can. There was simply too much water under the bridge. I would just look forward to your future and not even go there.Good luck Marcy   passion still exists sexual chemistry still exists this is a recipe for disaster of one mor…
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%REPLIES% Answer ABSOLUTLY! Answer it's okay, but do you want to live like that? if he's still lying, he'll probably always lie and who needs that? life is short, hunny. spend it with someone who's going to be good to you.
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Why beat around the bush? Be up front and ask him these questions. If you have a good and solid relationship, along with good communication, he shouldn't mind a discussion with you about it.   This fellow is hiding something from you. It's obvious!If he can not or will not answer any of your …
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%REPLIES% Answer Not always. Some women are possessive and unsure of their relationship and thus, it can turn into jealousy. Time to communicate and put those fears aside for her. It will only get worse. Be sure you don't have roaming eyes and playing a few little head games with her either…
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Depends on the situation. If the affair is happening where both parties are within physical proximity, not long at all. If there is distance (like far away places or within hundreds of miles) it may take longer, but, will become more of a "phone sex" scenario. If phone sex occurs, it is the same as …
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%REPLIES% Answer Love is BLIND. Your family and your friends obviously care and love you very much. This kind of truth hurts. If you continue on this path of denial, it will only continue to get worse. You need to get real and deal with reality. Ask your self the question, why are so many of m…
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Time will tell. If he makes a clean break with his wife and treats her with respect and tells her the truth, then MAYBE he could be your soul mate. But only if he chooses you. If he stays with the comfort of the familiar life with his wife, he is not your soul mate. keep on looking and good luck. yo…
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Steam it open.   If you steam it open, the glue may not go back right and the paper might crinkle. Cheaters are very suspicious people by the nature of their folly, so he will likely catch on quickly. I have been in this situation before. If you DO manage to open the bill, here are the two ou…
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Just a friend? How naive does he think you are. Where is the respect the trust? It's gone correct? If there is any hope for this marriage, you BOTH need to seek out a GOOD marriage Councillor, Now. You need to start helping yourself repair any damage this has done inside of you, to salvage your own …
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My goodness, I feel so very sorry this has happened to you. Even if you are finacially dependent on this man, this is not a reason to stay. You have to make a plan to leave. Get on that phone a call a Center for Women. There should be numbers in your phone book to call. They are there for you. They …
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You can't call someone like this your "girlfriend". There are a lot of real nice girls to date out in our big world who have committment, morals, and good principles they live by. Why would you even want to put the effort and energy into finding out whether she is cheating or not. If she's done it t…
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%REPLIES% Answer Why would one want to? This is not going to solve the issue. It's already been done. One should be communicating with the spouse and seeking professional help to resolve what ever one thinks is left in the marriage. Answer I would not do that. What if either you or he be…
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Be extremely prepared. Be up front. Denial may certainly play into this when you confront your partner. Don't let the confrontation get side lined, and keep the topic at hand. Don't confront in a public forum. Do this in private. Keep a cool head. No drinking or drugs what so ever. Do this when the …
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Answer Invasion of privacy between adults is wrong. No doubt. Even if he's cheating, you're not "right." However, if he IS cheating, then you have a right to know. The following is bold, not sneaky: ask him to SHOW you his cell phone for your own peace of mind. If he accuses you of jealousy, that…
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As with all such problems, you must actually be there. A private detective is expensive but can bring results. If you're absolutely positive that cheating is occurring, then it's probably worth the investment. Shop for P.I.'s as you would a plumber-- get 3 estimates... unless, of course, you are lim…
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Good question! The answer is: there is NOT an availability of strangers to choose from. Strangers are, well...strange. People cheat with people they know for probably two reasons. First, the excitement of being with someone in a dangerous situation (not that being with a stranger ISN't dangerous). S…
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I believe that relationship problems can almost always be solved. The problem is with your attitude. It's not something external to you.So, you could have saved your marriage, if you wanted to. If you want to hold on to your new relationship you'll be able to do that too. But if you are searching fo…
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No its important to see that the woman in your life was a victim not the abuser, please just be there to support her and stay by her side keep reminding her you love her and this will help her heal. An ex abused woman will not hit her companion so please dont be afraid. You have to see that trust is…
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None. Unless you enjoy being abused and beaten, there is no potential. He will attack you sooner or later. He has the potential to kill you. If you read this and think : " Oh, no, he's so sweet and caring, etc etc", you are in for a bad surprise!   No one gets a five year sentence for …
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%DETAILS% Unpredictable behavior achieves two goals: (1) Control over you and (2) Avoidance of intimacy. If you're dating a married man then you dont deserve anything better then broken promises. Please see my response to "Has anyone gone from a mistress to a new wife and still feels the relations…
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Answer LEAVE and don't look back. My abusive ex boyfriend did this to me also and the abuse never went away...it only go worse! Answer I agree. Do not look back when you leave because, I am proof of my previous marriage that got worse. I ended up marrying my abuser and it got really worse. I …
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Do all person involved in this agree with it? Oh no ofcourse not. Then it would be called polyamorous. Is lying to someone abuse? It probably is. It sure is a sign that the relationship is not a healthy one and should be discontinued. Not only is it abusive but it could cost you your life is they …
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It is not easy, but it takes nothing more than time and being honest with yourself and family and friends. I bet talking to a counselor will also help.Me personally, it has been nearly one year since the abusive relationship ended. I still deal with trust issues and self esteem/confidence issues. I …
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