Relationships

Personally I do not think guys love this. I for one actually hate it!

In many cases, men accept this behaviour because they actually love the girl, and the girl may carry on because she simply just does not know how to behave any better.

It is a most nasty behaviour by girls and it makes many a man very sad.

As some girls grows selfaware, they understand that they themself are attractive. Many men would like a beautifull woman (Of course, who wouldn't). The pity is that a lot of men start chasing girls because of their exterior properties, not their true inner beauty.

Being hunted down like this and the woman may start to treat some men bad just as an act of self-preservation. Men do not like this, but many men put up with it for a while just to get a chance at that girl. I do however pity the girl who have many men fighting for her and always use every possible excuse to only get her to bed. This is far from what true love is about. It can explain some of the bad behaviour from girls.

Some girls never stop the bad behaviour against men. They treat their man like dog-poo for the rest of her "attractive" life. As age moves in and nobody fights for her anymore, her man might even leave her due to years of bad treatment.

These girls never understand why they loose everything because they have not changed as years pass by. This of which might be very true indeed.

Men and woman are different. It is simply what we are supposed to be. We are supposed to be different. We are supposed to fulfill each other and make each other "complete".

Where many woman use psycological methods against men, men use a more direct and sadly enough often brutal approaches towards women. I can defend both from the point of actually understanding why, but neither approach is the right thing to do. Some people stay in a most devastating relationship simply because they are afraid of being alone. Some treat each other so bad that friends turn away and make one feel very alone. Some people stay together because all they have left is each other no matter how bad this some times might be. It is the wrong choice but comforting in a sick sense.

It means that he loves her and can't live with out her.

it means that he likes her alot. and that he just says random things so he can find some way to talk to her. and that if they don't go out yet then he wants to go out with her but just doesnt know how to ask her or is to scared of rejection to ask her.

yes you should put your love aside and listen to your brain. The trauma will haunt you for as long as you remember. The feeling will never go away.

Answer

Although love is a very powerful thing there IS a time where enough is enough. Cheating on you is bad enough but having a secret relationship too is ENOUGH. You deserve better than that. If you put up with it from her she will have no respect for you at all and there will never be a chance for the two of you to work things out. You have to let her know that she cannot walk all over you and if she really cares about you (even if you split up for a while) she will find her way back to you. If you do not stand up for yourself and basically let her know that what's she's doing is not cool at all, she will never respect you and will continue to do what she is doing. When we really love someone and are afraid of losing them we sometimes do not stand up for ourselves. But in that process, you lose yourself, your self-respect, dignity, and that person that you love. It's not worth it. Let her know in a way that demands respect that you will not tolerate it. She will never respect you if you don't. She may get very mad and leave you and say all kinds of mean things but when she calms down she will at least respect you and the possibility of you working things out will exist at some point. Otherwise she will consider you a doormat, a pushover, and will not care.