Breakups

you could talk to her and just be her friend. then maybe after you guys become friends see what happens next.

Depends on the girl. If they don't trust you, then they might try and test you.

A judge will award custody based on which parent is morally, financially, medically and psychologically fit to be the better parent. The judge will take all evidence into account before making that decision. If you cheated - that doesn't necessarily rule you out of the process. On the other hand, the judge may see you cheating as morally wrong.

If you already have a girlfriend (I presume that's what you mean by 'gf'?) then it would be extremely sleazy of you to try to worm your way in with another girl. If you're no longer attracted to your current girlfriend you should break up with her as soon as possible so that you don't string her along unnecessarily. You'll then be free to pursue other girls, but one at a time please - nobody likes a player!

honestly, its really difficult to handle that kind of situation. for you to know the answer.. you better check the root of your problem. the first question you need to come up is 'how will you know the person you will obssess?'.. after answering that question, you could try to figure out how you could handle him/her. -samishiyoru

It means he wants to check out what else is out there and get some. and he will come back to you because he loves you and you are good to him. Maybe he just needs a vacation. Or maybe he thinks you guys are moving too fast and wants to take a break so that you guys dont ruin what you have...

Two things pop in my head, and as a guy who has done this, I think I can give at least a partial answer. 1. Wants to stop being the ex. This one is a little obvious. Signs to look forward would be the type of gift (i.e. is it romantic, does it have meaning from when you two were dating - there are others you just have to use some common sense) and the timing - is it out of the blue or on a date that used to be special for you two? These things I would guess to be indicators he is wanting back in (a gift right after the break up could mean this as well or the next thing I am about to say...) 2. Truly desires at least a basic friendship and/or no hard feelings. This is something a lot of people would scoff at (and people who say that a friendship post dating is the same (at least after a long relationship) as before should be laughed at), but I speak from personal experience. If you were great friends before dating or you became close friends during a relationship this is very possible, especially if the break up was not ugly. My ex-girlfriend and I were friends for two years before we started dating and our break up was mutual when we realized we wanted different things out of life (she broke up with me by the way, so I am not making that up to feel better about myself - though I had considered it many times myself for the same but was too afraid of hurting her). We both cried (a lot) when we broke up (we had been dating for three years), but agreed it was the right thing to do. The things to look for are the same - the type of gift and timing. I simply give her a gift card or small gift like a CD on her birthday. Acceptable gifts would be things any friend could give you (and not too big) and acceptable times would be when other friends give you gifts (birthday, Christmas, etc) You may want to think about how "over" you he seems. If he is constantly e-mailing, texting, calling, etc. probably still recovering from the relationship. If it is what you would expect from any friend - but preferably less- he probably is just trying to say, "No hard feelings" and that he still cares for you like a "friend". I put friend in quotation marks because its a unique type of friend. Most friendships are meant to grow, but this is a friendship that cannot grow, but its hard to no longer care for someone who meant so much for so long if you were close before and/or grew close while dating and the break up was accepted by both sides as the best thing for each person. Some people choose to not show those feelings because they think (and rightly so) it will make things complicated and others try to somehow find a way of saying that they still care while making it clear they have no intention of trying to work their way back into your life. Trying to maintain at least the actions of a basic friendship such as giving a small gift on an occasion that gifts between friends happens could be how he is showing that.

It's 99.9% it will work so... (not very good at math)... 0.1% it will break?

It seems as though he may be thinking about you but he is the only one that truly knows how he feels.

That would certainly depend on you two. You would have to talk with one another and discuss how one another feels.

You don't. Revenge is wrong. You have to learn to deal with rejection and anger that derives from the feelings of wanting revenge. Revenge does not solve anything nor does it prove anything. Walk away and move on - don't look back.

Moo's advice:

Heck with "revenge is wrong". Heres what ya do.

Revenge on a Guy

Step 1. Find a girl trustworthy enough to fake being a girlfriend.

Step 2. Get that girl to make the guy want her.

Step 3. Make it so that the two go out.

Step 4. Have the girl tell you EVERYTHING the guy says and does that is valuable to your cause

Step 5. Gather all of this information and think of ways to use it against him.

Step 6. Put those tactics from Step 5 to use!

Step 7. Have the girl dump the guy AND spill his embarassing secrets in front of a HUGE crowd.

Step 8. Watch your victim suffer.

Step 9. Laugh while watching your victim suffer.

Step 10. Video tape and laugh as your victim suffers.

Step 11. Put video on Youtube for further revenge.

Step 12. Remind yourself to thank Moo for this excellent advice. x3

Hope I helped!

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give it time. it will all work out. just dont be pushy. pretend you dont care, he'll come back to you.

obvioulsy you two have unfinished businnes and by that I mean there is still a flame there.

Do what you want to do, and what you think it correct. If you wish to get back together with him, then make sure that he first breaks up with his girlfriend. And make him earn you trust back. Let him know that he hurt you. Make sure he knows that he should always respect you and not harm you. And most defently make sure he does not cheat on you again. Do what you want to do.

well, it's not always just because she is trying to get back with you.She probably thinks that because she has a new boyfriend she is over you and wants to move on yet still be your friend. I called my ex once or twice a month and he was cool with it until he got a girlfriend. once he got a new girlfriend he deleted me off of his face book and forwarded my calls. It's better to be friends then become enimies later on down the line.She probably just wants to see if your okay with out her. The best you can do is be her friend and if things get akward that way tell her that you guys should keep your distance,don't just do it out of nowhere, talk to her about it. hope that helps.

Talk it out. Its always best to be honest!

* Some people use suicide as a threat to manipulate others, but rule of thumb is the fact when someone says they will commit suicide the possibility is always there and no one wants this guilt laid on their shoulders. The best thing you can do is either talk to your mother about this so she can talk to his mother and explain the circumstances or, you could talk to his mother on your own. It is most important that his parents know. It is up to the parents to deal with it from there. Once his parents know about it then you can tell him that you want some time to yourself and you are not ready to settle down with one person.

I have been in this situation and I called that person on the phone asked if we could get together and talk as friends which he agreed to and after explaining the situation and why I did what I did he forgave me. That was 9 years ago and we've been together ever since. I guess it just depends on the type of person they are.

Whenever a relationship ends, someone will hurt in some way, period.

Here, it's important for you to weigh the reasons for which you decided to end the relationship in the first place.

My rule of thumb is this: People don't become "ex's" for no reason.

Decide if this reason - be it an action, or quality, etc. - warrants ending your relationship.

I've heard of a guy that called up his ex and said straight out 'I made a mistake, I can't replace you, will you marry me?' and she said YES!

If you want to try again just because you feel sorry for him, don`t do it. but if you feel that you made a mistake, then get back on track with him, by all means.

well you didn't break up with her you broke up with the ex and so did she if you all slept together right after to getting to know each other on first name basis no one knows you just have to wait it out and actually it doesn't mean she not trustworthy it may just been at the time she was wanting you as much as you was wanting her don't take it as a trust issue take it as a compliment she really digs you I would never sleep with someone after just getting to know them but maybe she's sure about herself when it comes to you and because she feels a certain she was able to express those feeling for you in a more intimate way

You loved her enough to get her pregnant and I think the issue here is you aren't man enough to face up to the fact you are the father and deal with the responsibilities. No one says you have to get married, but if you are a man (hoping so) then you'll stand by her until that baby is born and have the manhood to support that child and if you don't want to take an active interest in the child rearing then realize that you will have given up a lot and trust me when I say ... the mistakes you make while young catch up to you when you get older! Many children that are no longer minors want to know know who their mother and father were and the big question is "Why didn't you want me?" How are you going to answer that one should this happen to you?

The problem is that you're determined to win over someone who has told you he doesn't share the feelings you have for him, who doesn't want to commit to you. "Not ready for commitment" is usually wordspeak for "I'm not interested in being in a committed relationship with you,". He didn't want to hurt your feelings or come across as a bad guy, he worded things in this way. It's the same with the offer of friendship--it doesn't mean he's a jerk or evil, but it's more a way to placate you then a real desire to be friends with you. Attempting to be friends with him will only make you cling on in hopes of another chance, while you put your life on hold. My boyfriend just recently broke up with me as well. His reasons didn't make sense to me but i agreed to it. He also felt the feelings weren't developing. You can try to win him over and hold on to that feeling of hope for however long you can/want. In the end it comes down to the mutual feelings involved with both sides. You can't force someone or yourself to be with someone you don't have strong feelings for. The issue is always commiting. One realises long after or shortly after the experience that they either do not want to commit, or that they just don't feel you have what it is they're looking for. This will make you a stonger person, you will grow in all areas and your ability in surviving break ups will shock you once you accept it is finished. Potray yourself as you, Show you have moved on (but really think it) put a smile on your face, positive attitude and walk head high with class, and you shall only gain the best, he will soon realise. Trust me, just let go.

Sometimes it's a control thing, as their ego might get between you and their true feelings. If they say that they want you back that would mean that they would have to resolve the breakup issue and confront their feelings, which is why they probably want you to go to them, saving them the trouble. That is, however, assuming that the the ex couple still want to be a couple.

It means he is not happy with the development of the relationship or he wants to try dating someone else.