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Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
8,665 Questions
He's playing you. Move on.
AnswerI knew i guy like this when I was younger. He was a total jerk to me and yet for some lame reason i still seemed to be attracted to him. The fact is that there are other fish in the sea...better then this guy...and there are definitely ones out there who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Good luck honey!Viola.
Answer: He's a man-whore. Move on. lIvE lIfE
If your ex-boyfriend is engaged to someone else why would he continue to contact you?
hi, he calls because he still has feeling for you and don't want to let you go. He's afraid of commitment! Don't fall for it! How would you like to be his fiance and find out later he is calling his ex girlfriend while you're preparing for your wedding day? This guy is a total jerk! He has the opportunity to tell his fiance he's still in love with you and come back to you, but he's dishonest and cruel. Tell him to take a hike! He may want to be your friend or have a shoulder to cry on. If the marriage doesn't work out, chances are he will contact you for only that one thing. If it bothers you, tell him to leave you alone. Since you dated him and everything, he may think that he could have another chance if the marriage fails and he may be keeping you around for some relief.
My boyfriend of one year doesn't love me should I dump him and find someone who will love me?
girl, it's dumb to waste time on someone who doesn't love you. don't date for the fun of it, find someone who cares about you and who you care about.
Well, is your boyfriend always honest. Has he ever cheated on you. Look When I met my husband he had a girl best friend too. We were just dating and barely getting serious. He has told me that he use to like her for a long time and she knew but just wanted to be close friends. Well, one day she came down to visit and he called me with excitement that he wanted to take her out and show her around. I really not sure what happen. But the next day he told me that nothing happen or what ever. I believed him because I know in my heart he was being honest. Now I hate the fact that he is best friends with her but the time we got engage and she met me she got jealous written all over her face and you know what? it didn't bother him one bit because he was in love with me and never saw her or heard from her again. So ask him what were they doing, why did he stay up with her all night, will you ever introduce me to her someday, does she know I'm your girlfriend? Don't be afraid to ask you don't want to seem like a fool. Get details. Then figure out what to do.
I am very sorry to hear you are going through this. The best thing to do is start communicating with him and have a long talk about your relationship (without yelling, screaming or crying.) It's true that a couple in love are there for each other 100%, but sometimes the scales can be imbalanced and it appears you are the one with too many problems and he may be just plain worn out. Hon, you have to start relying on yourself more, becoming more independent and learn how to 'problem solve' some of the problems you may be experiencing. You can ask for advice, but in many cases a woman is quite capable of resolving her own problems. I am not accusing you of anything and when people have a lot of problems it's easy to lean on one person or many too often. You need a couple of good girlfriends you can trust and vent some of your problems too. A relationship shouldn't be all problems, but some fun mixed in as well. So girl, get up, dust yourself off, have that talk with your boyfriend and see how you can repair this relationship. Start learning to count on yourself for resolving some of your problems, but there is no harm on leaning a little on your boyfriend. Make friends, volunteer some place and start realizing you are stronger than you think. Good luck
NEVER go out with that kind of guy. U are the one who is getting hurt.
he is just playing with girls. he seems like he is not satisfied with only one girl.
it means he is a player. you'll find way better person.
he is just trash. just dont even talk to him..
After your first break up do you get depressed for a while?
I think it depends on the person and who in love you were with the person if it was a really good relationship then probably but if not, not so much.
But as it's your first breakup usually a bit more depressing than future ones.
My ex & I have been separated for 1 1/2 yrs & his name is still on the deed. He has not lived here for over 1 yr. Do I have any legal right to have him remove his belongings
you dont
Should you tell your ex boyfriend how you feel if he is seeing someone else?
Yes, He might feel the same way.
Better to find out, it never hurt.
What is the best way to get over someone you love?
Honestly, you can never get over a love. Trust me, I've tried. You'll always remember them. The best you can do is simply, move on. Find someone else, but don't look for people that only remind you of that person (that you loved). That'll make it alot harder. Look for different things in people. It works.
Should you move out of your house after a breakup to start over?
It depends: were you married to the other person and spent a lot of time and memories in the house (yrs. and yrs.)? Then yes. Seeing things in the house could cause you to remember certain memories over and over again. If you lived together for only a little while (a yr or less) then probably not.. unless the memories were pretty gruesome (mental or physical abuse).
- If your boyfriend has been away for weeks and you do not miss him then it could be because you were not getting along in the first place or, you both needed time to be alone and not together to sort out your relationship. This does not always mean you have to break up or you do not love the person. If you feel you want your freedom to date others then have the decency to at least let your boyfriend know how you feel and make a clean break of it and do not end up cheating on him (not accusing you of this.)
You don't!
Take a different perspective on the relationship, look deeper into the definition on love.
To take a different perspective on the relationship:
Love is a prospective thing. There are two ways you can take this.
Put greater effort into the relationship, stop being so sad because its probably a huge turnoff, and just work at it and hope that one day you'll grow on them.
In the negative sense they could be staying in the relationship just to humor you
To look deeper into the definition of love, ask yourself why you love that person. The answer is not because that person is a great person.
The only hint I'll give here is that it has something to do with your past.
If you love a person and the other person doesn't love you back, then it's not worth being together. I mean you guys could talk it out, but if the other person doesn't love you and you are unhappy it is better for you to break up. This is how, JUST DO IT!!! But wait.... first talk with the other person and tell them how you feel (that you love them but you feel that they don't love you back)
If you want to break up with him, just tell him what you said here!
What are ways to get your best friend to break up with her stupid masochistic boyfriend for good?
honestly you should prob. just leave it be. If they are not ment to be, or if he is really that bad she will eventually see that for herself and realize that she is much better with out him.
You should probably be worried by the fact that you were snooping in her phone! Why would you do that?
She didn't ask to receive these texts. Perhaps she shouldhave deleted them, but we all like to be wanted and needed. It probably makes her feel good to think that she has this ability to attract him, even after they broke up.
Don't be worried about her until her actions or words give you reason to be worried. We are not responsible for the behaviour of others, and she is not responsible for his behaviour.
Get control of your insecurity.
REPLY :The reason I touched her phone was because she let me text a friend of mine but when I accidentally went into her inbox she started freaking out and I just went in. There were mushy mushy messages she sent to him as well. Ones where she is telling him that she would like to go over and kook for his whole family with the text ending in calling him "hun". I did not go snooping around she was there in front of me. And her excuse was she was going to show me the messages anyway but I found out before. Who believes that excuse?-- further response --
This extra information changes the whole context of what you wrote before.
You need to ask her to explain each message she sent and ask her why she sent them.
Tell her in advance that you will only accept one answer to a question. If you ask for further details to anything she says, what she says next will need to be consistent with what she already said.
BUT- don't be accusatory, just ask calmly for a rational explanation of her messages. One consistent with her still being your girlfriend.
I wouldn't worry much about her use of the word "hun" - I worked with a woman 20 years my junior whoalwasy called me 'hun' - even in front of my wife and her husband.
I still have a concern for your insecurity....
Why, when she "started freaking out" did you continue reading? We are all entitled to our privacy and a few secrets - whatever they might be about.
Will she ever be able to trust you again?
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I don't know if she trusts me but when she was freaking out I said I wanna know whats in there you don't want me to see. And then she just stood there saying "Go on" so I did. Im insecure because I have been cheated on in the past by 2 ex girlfriends who took months to admit they were cheating on me. I trust or rather use to trust my girfriend very much until Ive started to realise these issues. For example she hangs up when shes talking to me when her ex calls. That is not very healthy and makes me feel like I'm not enough. I also have a hunch her ex does not have a clue about me and that I might be the one being used to be cheated on him.
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Break up with her... no need to be suffering like that... one of my exes, used to do that and guess what? he's an ex!! hahah cuz he left me.
well,i think he pushes you away because it's weird and he's feeling uncomfortable around you.
Why did my boyfriend kick me out when I was six months pregnant?
* He's not much of a man at all. It takes a very cruel and irresponsible man to kick a pregnant woman out on the street. Only you have the answers as to why he kicked you out as there must have been some comments he made to you. If you have parents or grandparents see if you can live with them as it's important that you receive prenatal care and some support during this time. If you are smart you will kick this man to the curb and move on.
well you should be nice to your friend and his girlfriend. im not sure if it will work though. kinda act like you would be a better girlfriend than ur friends girlfriend. i dnt know what else to add. sorry if its not a helpful answer. Good luck
Why did she tell you she wants you back and later she says she was joking?
then say so was i or just say whatever avd tell her to get over her self its kinda sad that some one would though u sond okay bt dont let it bring you down:)
You love your boyfriend but he cares what his ex thinks about him still Does he really love you?
he does it just that he still used to his ex but just tell him that he need to listen to you because your with him and not his ex unless you guys shoulnt be together
What if you have kissed him how do you know if hes still interested in you?
He will talk to you and possibly ask you to do things with him. If you find he is avoiding you or not contacting you then he may not be interested anymore. You could try just talking to him.
