Cheating

Give me a hint. Who is he ?

he's a soap opera actor. his wife (colleen zenk pinter), has filed for divorce on grounds of infidelity and abandonment.

There will be a comfortable time for you when your ready to say it but until then try buying her a card that says how you feel, show her and make her feel it until that time. Hallmark has cards for saying things you cannot always say. Don't fear the response or rejection as you will never know until you do it.

Ok... For the love of God please be serious. Why does love blind us when the answers are so clear?! Look at this question and seriously ask yourself if he cheated... YES! YES! YES! YES! Why the hell is she in your house? Why the hell were her undergarments off?! HELLO?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

To stay in a relationship with her you have to understand that her trust in you has been altered (possibly permanently). But if she is willing to work on trusting you again, find out what she needs from you to regain trust. Decide if it's realistic and reasonable, something you can and actually want to do. Don't lie and don't cheat; back up your words with your actions. Don't seek out or hang out with this friend of hers either. Your girlfriend has to be willing to act the same; your cheating doesn't give her carte blanche to manipulate or lie to you.

However, you can prove your honesty to her until you're blue in the face; if she can't let go of the past and keeps throwing this issue in your face (especially during arguments) it's probably time for you to move on. Seems like you were suckered into this test by your girlfriend and her friend as a test of your loyalty and trustworthiness and you swallowed hook, line and sinker. My advice is to accept the loss and walk away, you will never know when you will be set up again by this girlfriend. Let this be a lesson: If you really love and want to be faithful to someone, never put yourself in an incriminating position - not even if you think it may be a joke.

If he doesn't, then he should. How dare he become a deadbeat dad just for some other woman. One day, he will regret it. Hopefully, it's too late for him.

This happens in all relationships so your not alone. You need to think of this as a test of your will, you must have a soft spot for him, hence the question. Now what ever that is you need to think long and hard about what he shows you more of. I don't know how old you are but if a real relationship is what you want you need to hold your ground for what you want. Its a give and take situation tho and men are notorious for not knowing what they want or what they have until its gone. Give him a week to think your gone and see how he reacts. RAREHINGES

Only you can make that decision. Marriage is about trust. If you don't feel that the trust can be repaired you need to take that into consideration when you make your decision.

If you decide to try to make it work you should probably talk to a marriage counselor.

It depends on how he feels about her.

I kiss my younger stepbrother on the cheeks. Does that make me a cheater?

ANSWER:

God no, it's like kissing your own mother, sister, grand mother..

• Yes, it is possible for a married man to have some feelings about a girl friend that he had an affair with as they had some good memories together. However, this does not mean he loves her, but probably misses her as a friend. In time, memories fade and hopefully the marriage is strong enough to survive. Good communication skills to discuss each others feelings is extremely important and perhaps marriage counseling would help.

It means he doesn't really care about you

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What you can do is ask a lawyer where you at, they are the only one who knows the law in SC. Remember every state has different law.

If you slept with him and you told him no and to stop then that is rape and you should tell someone immediately.

nothing can really keep a man from cheating unless he wants to get revenge or he is just a gerk

My BF of ten years has cheated on me with SIX women that I know of! I am sure there have been more. I left him when I caught with the girl befor this last one. We got back together after 3 mths. It has been three yrs since then and I recently found out he has been seeing someone else for the last year. They don't stop no matter what they say. I am stuck in a very unhappy situation. I have 2 kids a part-time job that pays next to nothing and I am in school part-time. I can't afford to leave right now. The house and everything else is in his name. I feel that if I had left after the first one I would probably be in a higher paying job and I would have made better choices to financially secure myself. Now I have to be with a person I loved that obviously could care less about my happiness, lies, and thinks he should be able to have his cake and eat it too. I don't care what anyone says once they chaet if you stay with them they think it's ok and they continue to do it. Leave now and know that you could be happy some day. Nicole No! I do feel very badly for you and I know how you feel because I was cheated on as well, but thank God, I found out sooner. Just think of this ... this guy cost you 8 years of your life! Doesn't that make you angry? I bet it does, so why stay with this jerk? You need to reevaluate yourself and find out who you are and where you want to go in your life. Ask yourself why you have put up with this for so long. It basically comes down to a lack of self confidence. I know it's scary to be with someone for a long while, and then have to pull the plug and be out on your own, but once you do it, it only takes a few months and you realize just how strong you are and you feel like a caged bird set free. I don't like the term "emotional affair" because it just doesn't fly with me that a person can see someone for a year or more and never have sex. If you believe this one then pigs fly! The fact your husband is cheating and you had to find out about it means he'll keep on cheating. If he hadn't been caught he'd still be cheating! Since he works with this girl do you honestly believe he'll stop seeing her? Even if he changes job this guy is looking for "fun" and "excitement" and he'll have another affair with someone else. Some men often talk themselves into affairs when they feel stressed out in their marriage or have money problems and women can do this as well. Cheating is way down on the list of my food chain and I would never put up with it. Once is enough and if the person is truly sorry and they haven't done it before then perhaps a second chance should be given, but the fact your husband has had 8 years with this woman says a lot. 8 years out of your life! The reason I don't like cheaters is because they have many options. They can work out their problems or even see a marriage counselor. If that doesn't work then it's wise to separate and file for divorce. That's the adult way! Cheaters trap themselves every time because they know they cheat so they figure their counterpart will cheat on them sooner or later. Kick him to the curb! He simply isn't worth it and you deserve a happy future too. There are a lot of nice, faithful guys out there. After my first marriage I thought I would never trust another man again, but came to my senses and refused to let one man tarnish all other men. I met and married a wonderful guy and we've been married for 33 years. Yup, we have our problems, but we work them out and yes, we have our arguments, but we settle our differences. For the most part our marriage is full of fun and laughter. Marcy

I disagree 100% you can't become a spy!!! Relationships are based on trust, asking around, snooping and getting other people to watch him are rediculous! How long have you guys been together? It takes time to build trust and obviously you guys haven't done this yet. From the question you ask I'm interpretting it as you think he will in the future but it's not that you think he already has... By being like an FBI agent you would give him no credit and by asking other people your making him look bad and probably yourself too. If you don't trust the person you're with don't be with him, otherwise be confident and know he's with you for a reason, nothing you do will stop him from cheating if he wants to, the trick is to be the best person you can be which will probably make him want to be the best person he can be for you, and this will keep you both happy together. Check it! Look for clues, ask people if they've been seeing him woth someone else. Ask someone else to help you monitor him so you don't feel alone. I hope he doesn't.

Well its a opinion. Girls can be more sensitive, can and cant. Why dont you talk to her, and tell her. She will tell you why. The voice is better then the type pad.

Girl...You can't make him trust you again. That is something he has to do on his own. All you can do is show him that you love him and want to be with him. Then it'll be left up to him if he wants to trust you. It's complicated.

• Both men and women of all ages may find someone else attractive and as long as it's looking, thinking and not touching it's not considered cheating. Most humans of both sexes have fantasies and it's normal.
  

If your talking about the man she is seeing, yes it is a bit different. If I don't know better the man she is seeing is giving her more time and attention, that you probably haven't done in a long time. Could it be that after a few years of being married to her, you become more comfortable that you forgot that your wife has also some needs like you. Sometimes husband do forget about us wives. Maybe your wife missed hearing you telling her how much you love her and appreciated everything she has done for you.

I know what I'm talking to you about because it's happening to me, to my marriage. I think the man your wife is seeing, is listening to her, it supposed to be your job. The man I married also said to his his ex mistress and me that I never listen to him talk. I wish that is true because I thought the man I married is a quite type person who rather listen than talk. But I was wrong, he loves to talk, it just not with me from the start of our marriage.

So if I were you, I will talk to her, really talk to her and ask her where the two of you stand now. Ask her what you done that made her look at another man. The ball is in your court now and this is up to you to fix it..

The only way you can get over it is if he does his part by slowly regaining the trust back by allowing you to ask questions and letting you know where he is without any issues for a while you should feel more comfortable about what he is doing and stop worrying about it.

What you can do is put yourself into situations where she needs to trust you. When i had a boyfriend I didn't trust him, and it's not because he gave me a reason not to it's because i worried about him a lot, because i loved him so much. So what you can do is if you're going to be with your guys for a night and they want to hangout with some girls, or go out to a bar, do so, BUT call your girlfriend and tell her what you're doing, heck, invite her along even if she's not doing anything. The best way to gain the trust is to show her what it's like when you're with your buddies or something. Let her in, and she will let you in if she really loves you

Tell her that you'll eat her cat if she doesnt