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Narcissism

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Narcissism refers to a mental disorder which involves excessive admiration and love with one's self. It is also characterized by a need for admiration and attention from others as well as an exaggerated sense of self-importance.
Most normal people have some narcissistic tendencies and those tendencies may come to the fore during times of personal stress. And I do believe that the prevalence of narcissism is higher than the 1 to 2 percent estimated by experts. Narcissism is a spectrum disorder with only a minority of the...
From what you've said, you've made your case to her, and backed it up with specific examples. And she either finds what you said to be without merit, or believes that he has sufficiently redeeming qualities for those negative things not to matter.So now your role is done. It is your daughter's...
A narcissist does not have a conscience. They will find a new source of narcissist supply or already have another source as a back up if they no longer can obtain the fix from the current victim.
It is what they do. Why do flies fly? That is what you would expect them to do. They are very self centered. That is why you don't get involved with people like that.
  == Answer ==     No.   Narcissus was a greek tragic character who fell in love with himself.   Narcissism, as a result, means someone who thinks far too highly of themself, placing theimselves above the needs of others. It's vanity taken to it's most extreme form. Think Hugh...
It's when someone is obsessed/in love with themselves. It comes from a mythological character named Narcissus who fell in love with his own reflection.    Answer According to American Dictionary it is "abnormal admiration of one's self."    Answer it is vanity. or according to...
1. Did a doctor diagnose the person as having a personality disorder involving narcissism? Too often, a person is called that, when the only reason is that he/she doesn't agree with the other's goals or hopes. Always putting oneself ahead of others might mean narcissism. Or it may be that it's a...
Answer 1. Someone who is gullible, suffers from guilt or is emotionally reactive so that the narcissist can 'play them' and make them look to blame for their own inadequacies and irresponsibility. 2. Someone who despite 1. still has status, looks, money or valuable skills. 3. Most importantly (and...
just remember that they are incapable of really caring for you, at all. once you realize any guilt or regret you feel for "ruining" the relationship is a dead end, and that even if you had been perfect the relationship would still turn out horrible, it gets a lot easier.
Yes he or she probably will, because sooner or later they will be in need of narcissistic supply. If their current "supply" has run dry they will usually seek out old sources. This could happen some considerable time after your break up. I have first hand experience of dealing with a person who has...
its a way to feed what experts like to call "supply" as long as an  individual is "supplying" the narcissist with be it whatever. as  long as it perpetuates the farce or adds validity to it. then you  are what they call a asset. or one that lends credence to whatever  it is they are perpetuating...
They marry the type that are just so eager to give love and attention to someone who needs it. My mother struggled all her married life with my father who had Narcissistic Personality Disorder (never diagnosed). My mother was a very loving person, very warm and tactile and my father drained her and...
Narcissism can be difficult to treat at times, but it depends on the client. If the client is truly motivated (which yes, does happen despite what you may read online), treatment requires that the therapist be particularly skilled in the treatment of this disorder. There are some very specific...
Empathetic thinking is to put yourself in someone elses shoes and try to imagine their pain to better comfort them. It's a beautiful gift to have and use with safe people.
We all possess a degree of narcissism. A good dose of self-esteem and self-regard is healthy for us and is essential to our ego identities. Without any self-interest, we would lose our ability to support and protect ourselves in the world. Only when there is a trauma or injury to one's ego identity...
One View: Yes, and they do so because they are paranoid that you are plotting/ conspiring/ scheming about them. Something which they are doing to you! Sick ain't it.Another View: As a person with narcissistic personality disorder, I seldom if ever eavesdrop on others' conversations, because I am...
Absolutely not! This is not neccessarily true. My ex gf who is a Nar. Lives on a ranch. She is an animal lover. Many times Narcissists can get their "supply" from other sources not just human. where she lives is a bit out in the boonies so to speak so she doesn't have alot of resources to find new...
  == Answer ==     Well, I guess I'm qualified to answer this one. I was married to a narcissist minister for 29 years. Then one day, three weeks before our daugher's wedding, he came to my office, told me he had had an affair with the church pianist, that her husband had discovered it,...
  Sound like he has already used his excuse to you that he was abused by his dad and it's time your husband quit using this excuse. Many people have been abused by a parent(s) and of course it is a terrible thing and one that psychiatric counselling is needed. However, he knows this and has...
Usually rather contemptuously, if at all. I believe they hardly mind , because their emotions are shallow anyway. You may have wanted to believe you were loved, but someone truly psychopathic or with severe NPD may be able to sometimes emulate loving feelings but they are just not there. They will...
  == Answer ==     I just discovered my husband is a narcissist. I left when he got really weird. I have 2 children. I have been researching like crazy, buying books, internet, any thing I can get my hands on. If I were you, you and your wife should research, she should be able to tell...
no because you can not pass lying down from generation to generation
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My latest experience ( I am now in my fifties) with my narcissistic mother has been that she was accustomed to a fairly high level of attention from me which inevitably became less frequent as I recently bonded with a new partner. I initially felt I should apologise to her for this, and kept on...
  Well - I'm not sure what the question is, but everyone thinks they are not normal at times. If it takes over your life, then you may need to ask someone for help, but if it does not impact your life, hey - no big deal.
ignore them.......then they can't feed off of your emotions. they stalk and prey and trap you in a tangled web of drama.
== Answer ==   A person who has been sexually abused as a child doesn't even realize the damage has already occured mentally. Either the child will keep this abuse a secret or if the family should find out it is kept secret. Either way the child usually never wins and is never sent for...
  == Answer ==     You don't have to be a narcissist to do this, many men (or women) can constantly harrass their ex spouse for several reasons.     You should seek out legal council (everyone is entitled to this) and take this to court. You didn't mention if your husband had...
Sometimes they do if the other supply misses some qualities you had that he feels he needs in order to feel better and also to torture both of you to feed his ego.
  == Answer ==   They most certainly can. Narcissism is a personality disorder and we all have different personalities. It doesn't matter if you are narcisstic or not, you still can have sexual acts towards a son and daughter and that's sexual abuse!     I am sorry to hear of your...
    == Answer ==       Police don't get infected by narcissism! There is probably not enough evidence and if you are reporting this person as an abuser to you, then often the person reporting it to the police is too afraid to charge the abuser. There is not much the police can...
not quite sure what context your question is based but yes  pathological liars have tremendous control when forming there lies  weater it be a well orchcastrated lie. or one they shoot from the  hip. once again if they can get themselves to belive it. it wont be  hard to convience others of it.
Yes,In all probability he would. But then it also depends as to what kind of a person he was. But then, why do you want to tell him that you have someone else? You are no more answerable to your ex, whether he is a narcisist or not. Just forget his existence and live your life. But yes, you do need...
  == Answer ==   I'm answering this question as the child of a narcissist, not the (former) spouse of a narcissist, but I think - I hope - my answer will be helpful anyway. You can recover from this, but it will take time. First of all - get some counseling. Do not attempt to handle this...
     I've noticed that this condition has become prevalent in other women in my age group; and can only think that -- thru my eyes --   many of us have been going thru tough times psychologically since 2001.    married w/kids with some/all parents still living -- this...
I am saying this from experience...if you are still living with the person you say is a narcissist move out as soon as you can and do it without him/her knowing. The longer you are there the harder it will be. I am not exaggerating in the slightest! I have a daughter with my ex who has NPD and it is...
The two concepts are not often connected, but emasculated means deprived of masculinity (in literal terms that would mean castrated, although the term is more likely to be used metaphorically) and a narcissist is a person who is absorbed in self-love and does not care about other people. These are...
  == Answer ==   YES, YES and YES!!!! I was engaged to a narcissist for six months, after a four year relationship, and finally broke it off. My fiancee liked to compare me to my other girl friends (she's more interesting to talk to, she's more outgoing, etc). He even dated another woman...
To hurt you and to keep your attention,play mind games that's what they do,and maybe to do the same with the new girlfriend to drive you both nuts !
They ARE that deluded. They have no concept of reality. Their brains are different. www.vainencounters.com New Answer-I am sure they know they aren't special they feel bad about themselves and the only way for them to feel good and special is to entice,and then devalue humiliate and discard good...
Narcs are ALWAYS angry. The only emotion they feel is rage. The honeymoon is an act... pretend guy... they get tired of "acting" after a while and the real predator always comes out. www.vainencounters.com
You get far away from them, as fast as you can. And you stay away. www.vainencounters.com
  == Answer ==     Why in the world would one even try to give advice or suggestions to a narcissist??? If two narcissistic persons have been together 18 years,   that's a record most of us can't match and I say, "Hats off to them."   It's amazing they've been able to survive the...
they can be quiet. a cerebral narcissist may not approach people or talk to those they feel are inferior, or that will not stimulate them in a way that provides supply. otherwise it would just be an act that furthers the false self they are portraying, or as a way of observing during the period...
Narcissists are extremely tormented individuals. One can imagine the negative energy it takes to criticize, defend, lecture, abuse, control, dominate, deflate, devalue, bully, etc... another person, who by the way is allowing themselves to be treated this way. One needs to take time to educate...
good question. chances are you are co-dependent if that is the case  you wont be able to unless you get help for those issues through  therapy family support or self help...
Very very very briefly. Only discuss issues concerning the child. Period. The less communication you have with the N, the sooner he will move on to find another source of narcissistic supply. Bear in mind that the N will definitely use the child for whatever purpose benefits him at any given time.....
Lots of reasons. Because they see their own weakness mirrored back at them or they are enviouss of people who are popular and good at what they do and do it with ease which they despise as it makes them feel inadequate and affects their fragile ego and they can't have that now can they, because they...
  Narcissists have a natural ability to turn any situation in their favor (in their own minds, of course!). If they feel it is important that they are the one who "left" the relationship, then in their minds, they are, in fact, the one who left the relationship. If it were to their benefit that...
Narcissism & Sociopathy are on the same spectrum ALL Sociopaths are also Narcissists NOT all Narcissists are Sociopaths, though. The spectrum only runs one way.
Because they do NOT care. They have no emotions. To them this is a GAME. Fun for them. www.vainencounters.comNPD's need a constant source of "narcissistic supply." They can get this attention on-line from women building up their ego's, stimulating them with playful conversation, etc...Buyer BEWARE!...
They will find someway to even the score, and or, find another source of narcissistic supply.
Answer . \nNarcissist is just a label and there is no law preventing it as long as your wife is not abusing your daughter. The best you can hope for is when you have your daughter try and teach her the good ways of life and she will hopefully judge right from wrong as she gets older. Never talk...
Mirror their words and behaviors.....they always recoil when confronted with themsleves.......... ----------------------------------------------------------------------While I think the strategy above may be quite effective, I would be wary about engaging in it for the following reasons.(1) You...
None. The APA has admitted it's untreatable and incurable. www.vainencounters.com
  Narcissists hate everyone equally whatever the colour, even themselves deep down which is why they feel the need to lie about their thoughts and cover up their wrongdoings.
Sadism is when someone gains pleasure (especially sexual pleasure) from inflicting pain, from torturing others, or from observing the suffering of others.If you like sadism, then you enjoy hurting people for pleasure.His sadism led him to attack strangers on the street, just to witness their fear.
In one way, this question is fundamentally flawed; the very  sickness of a narcissist revolves around their viewing you as  merely an extension of themselves or a means to their furtherance  of their inordinate self-interest. Primarily, any desire to further  engage with the N is undoubtedly...
Think of a toddler dancing in the aisle of a church at a wedding. They do not see that their behaviour is inappropriate and embarassing to their parent, they are not aware that everyone is their own person, everyone is just an extention of THEIR world, and think of how they ask their mums to make...
They need to satisfy their sense of control. For instance, if you "dare" have another friend (other then the narcissist) then, he will be a better friend then you are to that friend. All of it is to escalate self importance and minimize the value of your friendship. Narcissists hate authentic...
== Answer ==   This is a tricky one. You don't want to alienate your daughter, and teenagers tend to do what you tell them not to. If she wants to stay in the relationship, then forbidding her to see the other person might create more problems.    If she wants out, then I would assure...
  == Daughters in abusive relationships ==   Your daughter needs help exploring her low self-esteem and low self-worth issues. We teach people how to treat us. She needs to understand that she is not a victim. As long as she remains in a relationship with an abuser, she is making a...
  Yes, they control you by your anger and despair and get a very rewarding self-satisfying sick pleasure out of it. Drop the rope in their tug of war game and walk away is the answer.
  So he can tell himself that it was he who abandonded you so he can deal with the shame, guilt and rejection and make you feel that way instead. It's a defense mechanism and a coping skill.
It's called charm, deception and manipulation, only the victim can see the real "person". Walk away while you can, things don't get better, they get worse.. From my own personal experience, my ex was like that. Remember they want to be idolized not just by you but by friend relations as well. It...
Answer . \nIt appears that every personality disorder has been balled-up into one wad of "narcissism". Narcissism is hard to distinquish and personally, I hate labels. It has got to be the "new word" in modern society because I hear it a lot. The truth! There have always been self-centered,...
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  == Answer ==   Having lived 22 yrs. with an N woman (my wife), I feel qualified to express an answer. Its been my experience that those who "put down others", do so to create a heightened self-image. If you can't climb the mountain, bring the mountain down to below you. The "woe is me"...
Bipolar is a mental illness. People with bipolar disorder have a chemical imbalance in their brain. They cannot control it on their own. It is not their fault, and is thought to be a hereditary illness. There is no cure for bipolar, but it can be controlled through medication.\nBipolar disorder...
There is no doubt that God has the power of healing anything. I have been a christian for more than 25 years already. I married my christian bf. In everybody's minds we were the perfect christian couple. My now xN cheated on me, he treated me in the most abusive way so it would be me who filed for...
It's certainly possible. A narcissist may date another narcissist that is more selfish than they are to feel better about themselves. In turn say "i'm not as selfish as he/she is so that makes me above him/her). It's incredible and shocking the way people with this disorder think. It takes a lot of...
Yes, there are some useful websites in the Internet. Try doing an online search, look at the choices, and see what suits your needs.
You grieve for the relationship you SHOULD have had.
You grieve because the fantasy of having a loving relationship is truly gone.
Stalking, trying to reel you back in. NO CONTACT www.vainencounters.com
Please accept my condolences. Being "dumped" isn't easy. Please know that when a person breaks up with another, the real reason is rarely gave. Usually, they just give you whatever reason they feel will get them out of the relationship as painlessly - or sometimes as hurtfully - as possible...
Maybe some danger if there are concommitant pathologies. Do it smart, do it thoroughly.Overall, MUCH less danger than staying with the N.
I don't understand what you mean by games, but Narcisism is the obsession of one's self and I believe that one would think too highly of himself to be something generally frowned upon by society. Slightly ironic. Like the phrase "It's hard to be modest when you're as great as I"
Because you are weak. Move on and find a man who is better and will treat you the way you want to be treated. You don't want the lies and manipulation he fed you.
  Answer   In respect of your husband whatever happens behind closed doors should stay between the two of you. If you have doubts or further questions perhaps the best person to contact would be a doctor or a priest. Either of these two people should be able to help you out.
My stepdaughter is narcissistic. She is the most self-centered person I have ever met. She has no feelings for anyone else. Only takes pictures of herself all the time and post only the very good ones she is in. She lies constantly
This is a politically charged topic in academic circles, and there has been a lot of debate- but, in general, nothing. Most academics use the terms interchangeably, with sociopath being the preferred term for sociologists/criminologists and psychopath the preferred term for psychologists. Some...
== ==   == ==   == ==   == ==   == Answer ==   There are three possibilities:   * She isn't getting the right compliments. Narcissists can be picky at what they want to be complimented on. If they think fashion is cool and intelligence is useless, then they won't like being...
Nope, but good luck trying
Absolutely! I put my N out of my head about 4 years ago! I decided once and for all that it was over and I put the rearview mirror up and never-ever looked back. We have a child, so I still must deal with him, but it is on a different level now because he FINALLY realized I was DONE! Anyway, I am...
You have anger in you and you wanna let it out
Answer . I don't know your story, but I believe you're in a huge amount of pain. It may be a shame. You most probably have been driven to the edge of insanity and back. N's make you doubt your reality as they shove it down your throat. Very nauseating stuff. I will share this with you about...
Narcissistic personality disorder is genetic. My husband has it, his father had it and one of our five children has it.
  Of course a  bipolar person can be narcistic.
My ex I am sure felt very vulnerable when I started realizing something was wrong with her and she didn't have a backup supply. She begged me she didnt want to breakup. So i didn't. But the whole time she was online looking for a backup when she found one she told me to go ahead and move on and...
When it becomes excessive and interferes with one's ability to form a healthy relationship, yes.If it is just at the point of an enlightened self-interest, it is necessary.