a doctor tried to tell me the same thing.....he said my babys not alive cause they couldn't see a active heart beat.I went home all upset waiting for my body to DO what THE doctors call it "abort the baby NATURALLY".THIS IS WHEN THEY SEE A SAC BUT NO HEART BEAT.COUPLE DAYS LATER I WAS BLEEDING AND …
If your period is late at all you should be worried. If you're having sex at 14, especially unprotected sex, you should be worried. The risk of pregnancy complications is much higher for someone your age, so it's important to get prenatal care as soon as possible if you are pregnant.
having period cramps for the first 3-4 months are normal. if you are spotting or see any blood go to the doctors . i had cramps for the first 4 months until they finally went away
Don't ask me any BUTS or WHY's just do what I say and i guarantee
you will get your freedom eventually. My way might take several
weeks or months, but it is very effective.
First, respect your parents no matter the reason. Second, stay
positive and do not complain about anything you are told to do
If your period is always on time you can worry within a few days after missing...But normally a week late is enough to take a pregnancy test to see
I would add that if you are worried about pregnancy and weren't doing so, you should be using proper contraception or not having sex.
The first step on the road to recovery is to end the relationship.
Continued abuse will prevent your healing and recovery. Answer I'm
unsure if you have left the relationship--so I will answer as if
you have. First thing you need to do is make sure you and your
children (if any) are safe. Next, I wo…
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She was having serious family trouble but he didn't tell me he was
helping her because I was overly jealous of her. He is also her
boss. I understand him helping her but he deceived me for months.
He admitted to talking to her daily, working closely with her,
going to lunch with her but says he was …
If you have a gut feeling something is going on, just keep your
eyes open . Ssometimes the cheater loves to talk about the other
even to their spouse. Signs can be coming home late, car seat in
different place, he likes to argue over nothing, seems distant to
you. These can all be signs that he woul…
People that have affairs either usually have one or more of the
following problems (there are many others):
They feel lonely in their present relationship.
The person you are married to or going with does not fill the needs
you must have to feel whole.
If the person you are with is a good…
This is such a hard one to deal with.Most of us can be quite attracted to another person of the opposite sex when married. If smart, just dream about it (your secret) and remain loyal to your spouse if you still love them. Marriage can get mundane, so instead of looking for others, take that energy …
Depends on the situation. If the affair is happening where both parties are within physical proximity, not long at all. If there is distance (like far away places or within hundreds of miles) it may take longer, but, will become more of a "phone sex" scenario. If phone sex occurs, it is the same as …
The question is immaterial. Depression is the result of imbalances in neurotransmitters. Alcohol causes imbalances in neurotransmitters. Therefore, the alcohol has to be removed and the brain allowed to normalize as much as possible before the depression can be accurately diagnosed, let alone tre…
avoid exposing your children to exhibitors of alcoholism, foster an open environment for communication purposes to assist in identifying depression signs early, should they occur. this last suggestion is important, should the depression be purely resulting from nature. if that is so, hold no grudges…
There are numerous neurotransmitters in the brain. Dopamine and
serotonin are two of the most important. Their deficits or
imbalance between the two can cause the conditions you mention. The
PURSOr protocol can abate all of the symptoms listed. Its only
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the general consensus amongst psychologists seems to be that the disorder is compensatory. while the narcissist may truly believe him/herself to be good-looking and intelligent, they clearly do not feel these attributes are enough to make them a truly superior being, hence the need they feel for the…
Therapy can help as can updating your sense of attraction for men. The old saying is, "If you do not change what you are doing, then you cannot expect anything different to happen." Look at the articles on recognizing abusive men before you date and become involved with them--and try to avoid them. …
If, he will go away, then do it the way below. Otherwise, remove yourself for the safety of your child. The other stuff will resolve over time.
Call the police and have him arrested for assault and battery. Call protective services and notify them of your endangerment and they will come and…
There is no abuse more traumatic - and with longer lasting effects -than a mother's. I would just add that, if at all possible, you should treat your mother as you would any other abuser in your life!
First thing to do is to Start. There is plenty of help out there and people who will help you see it through. Follow the advice, step by step, and don't rethink every decision. I found my way out and you can, too! A year or two out of the situation you will find yourself afloat and content. You don…
Abusers and their victims form dyad's of codependency. It takes two to tango and an equal number to sustain a long term abusive relationship. The abuser and the abused form a bond, a dynamic, and a dependence. Expressions such as "follies a deux", "shared psychosis", and the "Stockholm Syndrome" cap…
The bad news is that is little you can do. You can try to obtain a restraining order, work through the court system, involve the police if he is stalkingm harassing, or battering you - or move as far away as you can afford to. But that's just about it.
All of the above and get an alarm system…
It is common for victims to lash out at their tormentors. Everyone has a breaking point. Whether violence is involved depends on the character and personality of the victim.
Anwser The abuser and his victims sometimes form a bond that is difficult to break. This phenomenon is called "shared psychosis", "Follies a deux", and, in more extreme cases, "The Stockholm Syndrome." This is why it may be difficult to "open her eyes" to reality. She may resent you and come to reg…
I would suggest going to see a counselor or therapist. It can really help to work through things.
Abusive relationships are traumatic. Many people suffer from post-traumatic effects, such as stress and flashbacks.
After the ending of my emotionally abusive (amongst other abuses) I foun…
No, abuse should never be OK, no matter why the abuser is doing it. He needs to get counseling and stop doing it. If you have children, they will probably grow up and treat their partners the same way. And possibly you.
Abuse is never OK, period. No excuses, explanations, reason…
You get them to realize by telling them. There is no way around it.
Tell that person that some specific things that they do that hurt you and that you would like it to stop because it really hurts you and makes you feel bad. Being straight and honest is the best way to make someone understand. …
Most likely not without some counseling.
Most abusers are serial abusers. They continue to abuse others in successive relationships, pretty much with the same MO (mode of operation).
I don't think so. We all have patterns for relationships in our lives....I do believe, with good therap…
It takes two to tango - and an equal number to sustain a long-term abusive relationship. The abuser and the abused form a bond, a dynamic, and a dependence. Expressions such as "follies a deux" and the "Stockholm Syndrome" capture facets - two of a myriad - of this danse macabre. It often ends fatal…
Yes, there is.
My father would not be pleased, but I worked diligently to please him. I created myself into SuperWoman, but thought I was sub-normal because he ridiculed and demeaned me. I accepted my inferiority, but never stopped trying or hoping. My mind was focused on finding ways and des…
By keeping them away from their grandparents as much as you can - and by providing a counter example, by serving as role models of non-narcissistic conduct.
Survivors of abusive relationships suffer post-traumatic stress. It is not easy to get over it and, at times, you may require professional help.
Victims are abused twice:
Once when they suffer the actual abuse
And once when they are not validated, when the experience of having been abused is denied by the abuser and by society at large.
It is very important to try and figure out what the reasons are for waiting and do they outway the reasons for leaving? Fear is usually the determing factor. Keep supporting what is best for your friend but don't attempt to make any decisions for them, with courage they will make the best decision …
If you have reservations about becoming married to this individual....DO NOT DO IT!!!
Better to be out some money than your self esteem, and dignity.
Get out of this relationship right know. I experienced mental and verbally abusive behaviour from my soon to be ex…
The first step is to admit that you were abused. But do not accept it was your fault or you deserved the abuse. Those are lies the abuser wanted you to believe. Second, find family or friends to talk to. Make sure they are people you can trust. Best to have someone who was previously abused, but no…
Abusers are rarely suicidal. They threaten suicide as a form of emoational extortion. Even if he is really suicidal, you should not sacrifice your life in order to save his.
Moreover, most abusers relapse, even after protracted treatment (they are recidivists).
No commitment is unconditional and unqualified. You are bound to commitments you make only within reason.
You have a RIGHT to change your mind whenever you want to.
Life is too short. If the person is crazy, abusive etc etc, you can break the commitment. Obviously, th…
Be disrespectful to yourself and shower hm/her with exaggerated respect. Humiliate yourself and worship the narcissist. Be his/her loyal slave.You have the choice to either respect the narcissist or yourself, because you can't respect both of you at the same time. Choose wisely.
Please read Susan Forward's book "Toxic Parents". Even if it's not a parent who abused you, this book was very helpful to me and it also addresses this issue in detail. good luck
For her traumatic wounds to heal, the victim of abuse requires closure - one final interaction with her tormentor …
Various life crises - illness, a death in the family, divorce, financial hardship - cause drastic changes (for better and for worse) in some people.
Wanting to change is an important first step. But it is a necessary - not a sufficient - condition.
I think you answered your own question...they have to desire to want help. Abusers do not admit to any wrong doing...therefore they "believe" they do not need help. Even when confronted about…
Try and get advice and support from woman's' aid, you will find others I'm the same position as yourself. These women have been there, so have I, there are trained counselors, women who will go to court with you if needed. Also women's aid have refuges if this mans behaviour gets worse. So…
It is not easy, but it takes nothing more than time and being honest with yourself and family and friends. I bet talking to a counselor will also help.Me personally, it has been nearly one year since the abusive relationship ended. I still deal with trust issues and self esteem/confidence issues. I …
first off im going to keep it simple, do not move on to a rebound
too quickly allow some time for you to go out with your your girls
D let love come to you and know that your special just that person
wasn't right for you, however that doesn't mean that you wont find
love. it will all happen in tim…
That depends on the form of the abuse. If he is sadistic - he gets gratification. If he is a control freak - control. If he is a narcissist - he avoids intimacy and secures narcissistic supply (some narcissistic love to be feared and hated). what it most likely looks to me is that he enjoys the c…
Indeed, financial dependence is one of the main reasons why victims stay in an abusive relationship!
Figure out a budget with what you can personally afford--hopefully, you presently have a job. Life is much easier before the settlement if you have done this, since you have not put yourself into …
Communicating with your abuser is an art form. It is called "walking on eggshells".
If you think the relationship is getting emotionally abusive no need to talk...best to walk and do it fast.Once the abuse begins in the cycle, it is hard to get out. The longer the cycle has been spinning th…
If you are feeling bad about the way you are treated or spoken to - and your pleas to stop this kind of behavior went unheeded - then you are being emotionally (verbally, psychologically) abused.
What you define as "love" and the abuser's notion of "love' are two entirely different things. The abuser is in "love" with his sources of gratification and with people he controls.
There is no love in abuse--they do not co-exist. Love never abuses another or tries to control another throug…
It is also quite normal to take a more holistic approach to missing your abuser.
After all, it is normal for long term prisoners to miss jail.
The important thing is that you don't act on the feeling and go back, unless some serious, well validated change has happened.
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Narcissists can cry, if they think it will impress someone or draw sympathy to them.
It is an oxymoron ,to refer to a narcissist as "genuine"; but they can cry. They will never cry for a family member or anyone they know or love .If they cry at a movie,it is probably because they think that…
Spiritual abuse is using God and Jesus and the Word of God (or the Bible) as a means to control you. Spiritual abusers have the same thing in common with other abusers...trying to gain control. God warns heavily about these types of people in the Bible and makes it clear they will be punis…
By remembering the bad times when he emotionally tore you apart.
People just don't change over-night so I believe your inner feelings are sending off red flags. I would listen to that inner self. If he emotionally tore you apart, then I don't really feel this is a good basis for a good rela…
Abusers rarely love. What they call "love" is possessiveness. It is far easier to control and possess children than adults - hence his preference. Children are more reliable and malleable sources of emotional gratification, attention, and adoration (narcissistic supply) than adults.
It has happened many times before and will probably happen many more times: a person abuses his/her partner then turns around and apologizes, asking to be taken back, promising to be a changed person. In general DO NOT TAKE THEM BACK. This is a classic psychological pattern of behavior and…
Depends if he is also a sadist or not.
Abusers are inherently selfish and manipulating . They can manage to present a false image ; but not for long.If the relationship survives any length at all,it will only be a matter of time before he shows his true colors.
One cannot say. Still, past conduct is the best predictor of future …
Mental abusers can be sneaky at best and usually save the best when alone with the mate they are abusing and in some cases act as sweet as can be when they are around friends, while other abusers may mentally "put down" their mate no matter where they are and who is around. These are signs: Puttin…
Some of them will - some of them won't.
To do things to improve ones self such as joining a gym,therapy groups,maybe school or a new trade, socializing with friends, and going on dates. Its been nearly 9 months since my separation and I'm just barely coming to grips with myself and the realization that I can get out …
It is tough, to turn a blind eye and to feel helpless and humiliated by your helplessness.Offer support to the victims and measured resistance to the abuser and his abuse (without endangering yourself).See these:http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/abuse.htmlhttp://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/abusefamil…
Empathically not. Narcissists are incapable of loving. Idealization - the unrealistic, fantasic, pathological, and utilitarian adulation of a source of narcissistic supply - has nothing to do with love.
It is normal to try to avoid pain by withdrawing from its source.
If they feel possessive about him - if they feel that they "own" him - then, yes, they would react hostilely because you constitute the competition. You took him away from them.
Why do you think he's an abuser? His family has the guilts, made excuses for him all his life and so …
It depends on the partner.
My would be yes. Even after I was physical abused I still was in denial and even made up excuses for the guys behavior and I was 9 months pregnant. I believe we don't want to except that the man/women we trusted would do such a thing. Nevertheless, I kickd him out tha…
No, a private messaging application must be told an exact address (username) to be distributed to. usernames are just a code of letters put together with an hidden extension that identifies the host site. That is why you can have the same username on multiple messaging apps. So if you send an IM to …
Is there no possibility of being pregnant because you used birth control? Condom, pills, etc. If so, you could be pregnant. If you are not sexually active, then call your gyn immediately. Do not hesitate to call them because of embarrasement or something, believe me they've seen it all. Please don'…
Are you on birth control? If you are this can cause your periods to act this way.But it is always best to talk to your doctor. There could be a chance you are pregnate and having a problem.
well not really but you might feel some discomfort if your vagina is tight
There isn't much you can do. You can't legally force someone to get treatment, unless you can prove they are incompetent, or that they are a danger to themselves or others. (There may be other circumstances but I'm not aware of them.) And laws probably vary from state to state. If their condition …
If you feel that you or your siblings needs psychriatric help, then you should speak to a psychologist or psychiatrist. When you speak to either of these professionals, everything said within the session is completely confidential. If you or one of your siblings have a mental…
Most likely if you think you are depressed and you are seeking out help on the internet or from others then you are probably depressed. Normal sadness is triggered by unfortunate events/tragedies/bad days but it goes away, usually quickly or at most a few days, and can be relieved by doing activitie…
It is absolutely, completely normal. And absolutely, completely ubiquitous.
Of course it is...and remember that being nervous isn't necessarily a bad thing. It may give you the energy you need to do well!
Yes. No one can stop the way you feel, not anyone. It is the brain way of protecting you, there must be something on your case this bad you are starting to feel you have no emotions. Taking pills, smoking or visiting a community center isn't going to change anything. Because you cannot stop how you …
The main person you will have difficulty loving when depressed is yourself. There is such low self esteem and such low hope levels that it's very difficult to feel love at all. The outside is only a reflection of the inside.........if there is no love for yourself on the inside, how is it possible t…
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Not if the love is true. You may feel like you are no longer in
love with your significant other, even when you really are. The
best thing to do is wait it out to see if your feelings last and
base your next decision off of that.
I would give it at least two years. If you say the first marriage lasted two years, and then ended badly, then you need at least that long to determine whether or not a new relationship will even last two years without the stresses of marriage. I have been happily married for just under a year, but…
On my opinion, I think it is not. Marriage is not just being compatible with each other. That was the biggest mistake I ever did. I thought we were so much compatible...then today my marriage is over. Answer Personally, You need to think about the fact that you are going to spend the rest of their…
Here a variety of opinions from Wiki contributors:I believe that my boyfriend and I are true soul mates. We share many likes, dislikes and even friends say we have the same speech pattern. This has been from the very start. It's like I'm the female version of him and he's the male version of me. Sim…
Firstly, past relationships ALWAYS affect your relationship. Since SEVERAL relationships "confuse" him, the "confusion" is not about feelings for someone else (if so, see next post), but about trust, unless he REALLY confuses you with some ex. First, make it clear to him that there are all sorts peo…
You need to do whatever is going to make you most happy. If that means going with the chat guy then you must not forget the feelings of the guy you have been with for 8 years. Is this going to come out of nowhere to him or is he on the same page as you in terms of you both growing apar…
Diane says: Guys are some what as*holes. it's their nature. try accepting the fact just like what I'm doing now :D Honestly, I think that if you love him you would let go and let him be happy. I totally understand that your crushed. But your hurting yourself more by holding on to something that yo…
No, the children will be happier if you and their other parent are happy and treat them well. I come from divorced parents and I'm sure I am better off because they divorced and got along afterwards, and gave us all lots of love.
'You shouldn't even have a "solid relationshsip with someon…
No, if you are both taking care of your children and showing them proper love and attention, then they will be better off having both parents happy.
I am a child of divorce, trust me, it's better when they are happy.
I would say that if your children seem happy …
a strong positive emotion of regard and affection; "his love for
his work"; "children need a lot of love" any object of warm
affection or devotion; "the theater was her first love"; "he has a
passion for cock fighting"; to have a great affection or liking
for; "I love French food…
It may be both
Love doesn't exclude lust, just the opposite: if you don't lust for
her, chances are you don't love her. And lust may lead to love.
If you still feel attracted when your lust is satisfied, then
it's love. Most people confuse lust with love; the difference is
that while lust is self-s…
Hey, I am a girl and my guess is not any better then any one else but I would say when Ya he wants top be around you and he really talks to you instead of brushing you off. And when he smiles at you just for no reason, and maybe he'll acted nervous. Look, I'm a guy and I'll be honest with you. The g…
The person may have been discontent in the relationship and just hadn't said anything. A lot of people also can't deal with the strain of a long distance relationship either--it's easier for them to be with someone they can regularly see than someone they phone or email, but don't see much of physic…
yes i believe there is such a thing as love at first sight.. love at first sight is when you look at someone in a way you've never looked at anyone else and he/she catches your attention instantly.. i know you have to get to know the person well enough to know that their the one but that c…
Everyne has different degrees of emotion, and I would not say that you are not experiencing love, but I think that if I felt like that about someone, I would need to verify if it was infatuation or not. This is not meant in a nasty way, its just that I felt like that about my first love, and it wasn…
I don't really believe you have to worry, but I do think your wife owes you an explanation. Communication in a relationship is #1 and always should be.
It could be that it is a very awkward situation, and if you didn't know her ex boyfriend or his family then there is no need to be there.…
Love isn't blind or deaf or dumb - in fact it sees far more than it will ever tell. It is going beyond yourself and stretching who you are for someone else. Being in love entails seeing someone as you wish they were: to love them is to see who they really are and still care for them. Love isn't bitt…
If it's not you who's having a problem with them but your boyfriend, see " "What can you do if past relationships of the man you love are confusing him and affecting your relationship?" instead. (If by "you" you mean "you both") Past is past. Nothing can change it. I know you know it. AND IT SUCKS…
If you have suffered from depression, yes it is possible. However, many phases come into peoples lives as they grow older. Raising children, then they leave home and suddenly you are looking at each other as if you were strangers (empty nest syndrome.) You could both be extremely busy with your care…