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Relationships
Relationships include parent/child, sibling/sibling, friendship, dating, marriage, and lots of others. They can be great, but many times they are problematic and can be unhappy or even abusive. This category is for questions about relationships, both good and bad.
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What are signs a girl likes you?
Girls are confusing. Some girls run in the opposite direction when they like a boy while others stay close by his side, looking for any opportunity to interact or get close to him. Some major signs a girl likes you are flirting, shyness, stuttering, politeness, eye contact, trying to be near you and secretive smiles.
- Does she go out of her way for you- even when she thinks you don't notice? Stand up and adjust her posture for you? If yes to any of these, she might like you.
Does a guy like you when he invites you over to his place and cooks dinner for you?
I sure do think so! Boy, you're one lucky gal ... 'cause he can cook! Some of the best dinners I've had were cooked by men. My own husband is a good cook and since I am as well we trade-off. I cook during the week and he loves to cook on the weekend. I also find nothing more sensual (if you are in the mood) than preparing a meal together. Not so long ago foods were included re exciting your partner. To this day things like strawberries being shared by two people, grapes, etc., can be provocative and you've heard of whipping cream out of the old spray bottle. LOL Seriously, sounds like this guy has a lot more to him than you may see, so go for dinner and have a great time. He sounds like an interesting guy. Have fun! Marcy Aww how cute!I think he definite likes you or cares a lot about you. This guy's a keeper. Relationship material..
It's hard to say. Guys usually flirt with girls that they like, but notice how i say girls......if he lets more than one girl sit on his lap, then you know it's general flirting. And don't let guys touch your butt because if they know that you "enjoy" it, you immediately lost all the respect that he may have on you. A relationship without respect probably won't last too long.
approach him. don't be afraid. if he likes girls and you present yourself in a good way. he will start talking to you. don't bore him or overpursue. just introduce yourself. let him know you've been meaning to talk to him. just give him time he'll come around. Simple..Smile when you see them.
How do you tell someone you like them without making a fool out of yourself?
Either way you tell them, if they like you back they willnot consider you acting like a fool. So I guess the only wayto tell them is by telling them how you truly feel. You cant gowrong by telling them what's in your heart
AnswerWell, first you can find out if he/she is interested in anyone particular. Another thing you can do is ask he/she if he/she likes you. This will turn the question on them. So you wouldn't have anything to worry about. B/c if he/she says no than you can just back yourself up by saying that's what someone told you and laugh it off. If he/she does like you though you can tell that person how you feel too.How do you tell if your girlfriend is cheating on you?
The first evidence that you can look for is when she starts buying more new clothing than she used to. If you are already spending months or years together as boyfriend-girlfriend, you must have been familiar with how your girlfriend dresses and how she purchases clothing for herself. Although there are girls who become suddenly interested with clothes, this will still become a big puzzle to you especially if you are used to seeing your girl wearing simple clothes and buying only new items when there are important occasions to attend.
If you notice this sudden need to buy new items of clothing, be more watchful because the reason behind could be to create a new look and feel more attractive to the man she is seeing behind your back. Give more special attention on whether she buys new underwear or lingerie because these are big clues on how to tell if your girlfriend is cheating.
Other evidences are receipts and unexplained extra mileage on the car. These two can provide you with loads of information and help you on how to tell if your girlfriend is cheating. When your girlfriend cheats, her buying habits change as well as the frequency of usage of the car. Although these changes can happen even to those girlfriends who are not cheating but merely finding ways to have more fun, these are still strong evidences to consider.
Check the receipts of her purchases and take note of the mileage on the car at the start and end of the day. Do the receipts show purchases of new underwear, men's items like cologne and shirt but you never remember them being given to you or to anyone you know, and large amount of credit for her cell phone? Do you see a big difference between the distance she said she traveled and what the counter on the car says in reality? The answer to these questions will sure be of big help on how to tell if your girlfriend is cheating.
And lastly, evidences like her cell phone and phone bills will also help you determine if your girlfriend is indeed cheating. Do you find strange numbers on her cell phone and phone bills? Is there someone calling her more often and does she try to get distant from you when somebody calls? If you answer yes to these, then consider them as indicators that something is really going on. But do not confront her at once; you must dig deeper by looking at other ways on how to tell if your girlfriend is cheating. You can look at the address book to check the strange number or you can try calling it and listen to the voice at the other line.
What is the difference between an obsession or being in-love?
OBSESSION:
Is when you are taken by someones looks (they are physically appealing to you) or perhaps you know they are not in your league (such as a famous person or you know an individual wouldn't be interest in you) and you constantly follow them around, phone them or just make a nuisance of yourself. When that person gives no indication they are equally attracted to you. You can also obsess in dreams over an individual and although you may take no action in trying to get them to notice you, your life is wrapped around that person and you shut yourself off from reality. You can't really love someone you don't know, so it can't be love.
To love someone is to get to know them and not only become physically attracted to them at first (they don't have to be a #10) but love them even more when you get to know their personality and grow close to each other. When in love you should feel like you're walking on sunshine, and skipping on clouds. You should be so happy your heart could burst. You can hardly wait until you see them the next time. Signs of love are when the guy (or girl) show love by expression such as you can see it in their eyes (they get so warm and mooshy) and they hug, kiss or cradle you. They see each other through the good and bad times. They can make you laugh and you have fun together. You feel whole in body, mind and spirit.
That's as close as I can come to describing obsession and love.
Marcy
Response To Above Answer from Marcyhi, im not posting to provide an answer directly to the question, but i would like to add something to what has already been stated above.tho love can be completely different among many people, the feeling of love being stated as "walking on sunshine or skipping on clouds" etc may be how you do feel love is. but this feeling doesnt last. that isn't what love is. this is the feeling love provides you as an indication that this is the emotion you are feeling. but since it is only used to make you aware of the feeling, it doesnt last. but since that feeling can and will go away, it doesnt mean the love will. for clarification, the "feeling" is not what love is. love is not a feeling, it is an act or form of action to arise emotion or the "feeling" mentioned.
AnswerYou have some good points. I was talking about when one first meets whether it's love or obsession. When I met my second husband and we started to go together the feelings I mentioned re love were real and I felt it. Of course love as we first know it wanes (you made a good point there that I forgot) and things change a little, but, I've been married to my husband for 34 years and love him as much as I did when I first met him. Of course I don't feel like I'm walking on a cloud and it's a more trusting, loving and comfortable sort of love. Glad you brought your points up.Adding to it:
love cant be a feeling becuz then that feeling can just fade away , just like when you get sad or mad or whatever. ithink to be truly in love you need to understand whats best for the other person even if it hurts you...that is LOVE right there. obsession is more selfish then anything. SO THE REAL QUESTION IS :DO YOU WANT IS BEST FOR YOURSELF OR THEM?
Picture of a monkeyThe person above me hit the nail on the head, pretty much.
Love is being willing to sacrifice your own happiness (and sometimes well being) for that of another.
Obsession is being willing to sacrifice your own well being, and the well being and happiness of others to get someone to be with you.
Examples of obsession:
The most well known (not that it's obsession, but still the best known) is Edward and Bella. Bella almost killed herself to hear Edwards voice, Edward almost killed himself because he thought Bella was dead. Both of these hurt others (and themselves) to make themselves feel better
An episode of Bones: A woman shot Booth because she didn't want to let him be with anyone but her.
So yeah...
OK SO THAT'S IT enough now ...
I don't understand why are we mixing these two things.
There is absolutely no difference between love and obsession. True love at its maximum intensity is generally termed as obsession.There can be no love without obsession and all those people who say that they are in love without obsession probably does not know "what it feels like when u are in true love !!!".
If u don't care for the one that u love; if u don't crave for her, if u are not willing to do things to get her, if u cant die for her and if u think that your mortal life is more important than your love for her then "U are not in love yet ". All those people who say love is not obsession are those human-beings who are trying to compromise their life with some one just for the sake of living this earthly life .
Love was never meant to be this way. Love can never die and love-feelings do not change until and unless u think of changing it manually if u are a human-being.
Love means sacrificing yourself for some one that u love so that you both can be happy and most importantly together and if that does not happens to be that there is no point of living this mortal life again with someone else. Love is not a rented house neither a hotel room where u can accommodate more than one mortal-being inside. True love happens only once in your life and not again and again like many people say practically. All those who say that love happens again and again have not yet tasted the spirit of true love so they keep on searching for the final one .
And also cant u see why Bella and edward both wanted to die ?. They both wanted to die so that they can meet somewhere else other than earth where their union was impossible .Dying is also a process of getting someone. it may sound a bit weird when u think like "are u gonna die for her ?" but u wont feel this if u really have fallen in true love with someone . love means commitment and often we hear promises being made "We will love together or die if u are not with me " kind of thing. And i am proud to say today that true lovers keep their promises. Love is much more important than ur mortal life .
if u still think any kind obsession in love shown by a mentally fit human-being is not good then wait till u find ur true love !! u will understand it !!
I think,
and i can be very wrong,
love is sacrifices
obsession, is once u r over what u r obsessed about u will regret being there and u will try to do it again
love forever, obsession only until u wake up.
obsession is nothing more than addicting to excitements and attention
trying to convince oneself that the heart is talking and the brain is fighting it
that is not love
true love takes over mind
obsessed mind is occupied with excitement and selfishness
He needs to keep himself knowing he's a "man" whether he's happy with you or not. But he may not be happy, maybe he feels trapped. Many people in our generation has this issue.
What happens if the guy you like has a girlfriend?
you stay away from that guy, and maybe when their over you guys might have a chance.. but don't go out of your way to try to get with him that's just wrong.
this guy sounds very immature. why would you want to be with someone who is rude to only you and says he kind of likes you? yer, he probably does kinda like you. it means he kinda has no respect for you and will like you as long as you let him continue to abuse you for amusement. either demand respect or cease to be associated with this young fellow. There is absolutely no reason for any person treating you rude and making sarcastic remarks. This guy is really showing his true colors and he can't use the excuse he's shy or feeling awkward around you because shy people are usually quiet and say little. I suggest you ignore him and keep walking! Believe me, this is just the tip of the iceburg with this guy. Even if he starts dating you and isn't quite so bad, his personality has reared it's ugly head and he can be sarcastic and rude to your family and friends. That's a lot of pressure on a relationship. Keep walking by this guy! Marcy
okay, first of all, you are not cheating...he is the one who is cheating. However, it would be great if u left him because he might be cheating on you too...
After how many months of dating a guy should he kiss you?
I am surprised he hasn't kissed you yet. Perhaps he's shy. Perhaps you've been missing the signals. Next time you are out watch him. If he brings his face close to yours, then you kiss him! Nothing wrong with that. Some guys are just awkward and shy and have a fear of being rejected. Good luck Marcy I have been dating him for a month, and I have just recently noticed that he will stare at me and I have been saying, "What?". I think that might mean that he was thinking about it until I say that. Do you think he will keep trying to kiss me or have I missed my chance? Thanks for any help. He should have already kissed you he must be shy. Maybe you should kiss him. Usually kissing is in the first week of dating. So, if he hasn't kissed me in the first week of dating, does that mean that he doesn't feel that strong about me? We do hold hands (in private, not in public yet) and he tickles me and jokes around with me a lot. We also have great communication and talk a lot. I would not want to kiss him because if he wasn't ready and he rejected me, I would feel mortified! Is there anyway that I can show him without telling him that I wouldn't mind being kissed? Thanks for any help. Months!!??? If you are over 16 and have had at least 4 dates, then a kiss is appropriate if the feelings are mutual. It is a little odd, but if we sit still long enough to think kissing is actually difficult to master. Some people are terrified of the first kiss and many young woman make the comment of "he kisses great" which puts added stress on a guy. A guy has to figure out what type of kiss the girl would like (and all girls are different) and he could very easily make a mistake. The pressure is simply on! You kiss him! I had to kiss my husband (when we were going together) because he was so shy and felt very awkward. Nothing wrong with that!
2 things; either you are mistaken and he has no real interest in you or he is too shy to make the first move. Try talking to him and making the first move, if he still isn't willing to come halfway, then he is likely not interested.
How can you tell a man is attracted to you if he gives you mixed signals?
I still agree that women's actions are far more complex than a mans so what type of body language and mixed feelings are you giving him? He may be shy, doesn't know exactly what you feel and for that matter you could be on the shy side. One of you has to break out of your shell, so it might as well be you. Be pleasant, be fun, joke around, communicate and don't be afraid to be a little blunt. If you still don't get any satisfaction from this guy then don't be afraid to be blunt and ask him what is going on and if he hasn't asked you out yet, you ask him out. Good luck Marcy
Is a guy nervous or bored if he's avoiding being alone with you?
It's usually because they are shy and nervous. Most guys are shy, but every so often you bump into the too cool, too smooth ones that butter wouldn't melt in their mouths. Give me the good old fashion shy guys any time. Here's a little story for you. When I met my second husband (he's almost 4 years younger than me and a country boy, and I was a city girl) he was so nervous when he took me out to an Italian restaurant. I'm very out-going so I joked and talked and he started to relax until the waitress came to ask what bottle of wine we wanted. I knew this poor guy didn't have a huge amount of money at the time and he tried to make everything perfect for me so he asked for two glasses of a certain wine. The waitress scowled and was really rude. She kept standing there, eyes borrowed at him and I touched her arm and said, "Excuse me, but do you have a hearing problem? We only want two glasses of wine on this table because we don't want a full bottle of wine. Do you have a personal problem with this?" She was shocked, apologized and left to get our two glasses of wine. If anything could go wrong that night for my husband-to-be (he was super shy) it did. When we got our spaghetti he dribbled it down his nice white shirt and I just broke out in gales of laughter. After that happened I simply took a few long strands of spaghetti and sucked it in and snapped it back into my mouth and we laughed and laughed (spaghetti sauce ripped across my face). I always feel laughter is the best medicine. From then on while we were dating at the beginning I suggested going to more laid-back places so we could both relax and enjoy each other. Now I have been married to that young man who was so very shy for 34 years and I love him just as much today as I did sitting over that spaghetti and watching it dribble down his shirt. I think that's when I fell in love with him. So, what I am basically saying, start really looking and listening to this young man and you'll know he's shy and feeling awkward if you are paying attention and take it slow and easy, joke around, be laid-back and laugh as much as you can because it's a rip of a journey. Good luck Marcy
How do you ask a girl out who you get nervous around?
When a person really likes someone it's very normal to feel nervous. Don't forget, usually the person you are asking can get nervous to. That's what makes it all so great about romance .... liking someone enough to ask them out, then getting butterflies in your stomach and wondering if you are going to say or do something foolish. Most of us all go through that. You'll get over it with practice. If the girl is the type of girl you hope to be with (decent manners, good personality, decent sense of humor) then she'll try her best to make things as easy as possible too. Consider it an adventure between two people. Take a deep breath, ask her to a movie. You could also double-date with another couple (a good buddy of yours and his girlfriend.) Going to the movies is easier because the movie theater is dark, you don't have to talk all the time, and once out of the movies you could go to a cafe and the 4 of you could have a good time there as well. First dates are like job interviews, they make you nervous, but sometimes they are worth it. Good luck Marcy
Why do beautiful girls usually get fewer dates than that of an average looking person?
Because BOYS Hate to date with them. They are test less to have. YOu no the proverbs:--- " ALL THE GILTERS IS NOT GOLD" So all beautiful girls are testless..... Because we men are to shy to ask you out. We do not want to get turned down. Guys are usually intimidated by beautiful girls, so less guys go up and talk to them. They assume the girls already have a date, boyfriend, etc... Less approachable. People are intimidated by their looks or often feel extremely attractive people are shallow, arrogant, snobbish. The regular person thinks the very attractive person wouldn't date them or gets hit on all the time.
How do you know if someone fancies you?
you know if some one loves you because they allways pay attention to you or sit near you. also the black dot in his eye will get ever so slightly bigger, and they will try and make you laugh.
a tip about boys: let him ask you out encase you ask him out, and he never fancied you. g luck! x
a tip about girls: you should ask the girl, if they say no just say "it was a dare anyway." g luck x
Maybe he will try and catch your eye.. Continuously smile at you and maybe give a cheeky grin!!
It appears you aren't cutting this poor guy some slack. Some men are just shy and they can only go as far as staring or a quirky smile and you should be picking up on this. Make it a little easier on him and smile back, and there is certainly nothing wrong with asking him to go for a drink with you or even to a local cafe for a coffee. Take it slow and easy and get to know each other. Marcy
Do men always mean exactly what they say even when they sound like they're joking?
Do women? With some people they act coy and love to appear complex. I really like people that are direct and say what is on their mind, but certainly don't mind a joke played on me or a quip from someone (called teasing.) Nope, men are as bad as women sometimes and they don't always say what they mean. If both sexes were 100% honest about all their thoughts there would be a 3rd World War breaking out. Marcy
What does it mean when a guy asks you where this relationship is going?
He asked you the question so be honest. Usually that questions means one of 2 things: #1 if you are dating off and on then do you see you and him going out on a steady basis. #2 If you are going out on a steady basis then what are your future plans? You could really love him and want to get married in the future and have children, or you may be the type that doesn't want to settle down for quite sometime and either go for a good career or travel the world or go to college. Just be honest with him and let him know what you feel inside about the two of you. Good luck Marcy
Do girls care if guys have disabilities and how can you get a very pretty girl if he wants to?
Just because a girl is pretty doesn't mean she's heartless. Like any group, the beautiful people can either be vain to running a fine line of being pure obnoxious, but the up side is, there are some pretty girls out there with a good brain and heart. If you love someone it doesn't matter if there is a physical disability. Put into context: What if you married someone that had no disabilities, but they were unfortunate enough (like the war years that are still going on to this day) and they came back with a disability. Would a good-hearted woman that really loves her man turn her back on him? NO!!!!!!! I married my husband for "better or worse" and we are in our early 60s. We know our health could fade at anytime, and not once in our 33 years of marriage did I ever entertain the thought of every being away from my husband on a permanent basis. We have seen each other through illness' and I am sure there is much more we will be going through. That's what makes a relationship strong. NEVER be afraid to ask anyone out and if you get a "no" don't take it personally, because even guys (or gals) without disabilities can get the almighty "no." Please remember "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." I have friends with plain looking husbands or wives and they are terrific. I have friends with good looking partners and most are great people, others are split up because of their sheer vanity. Sometimes we have a partner that we think is the prettiest woman on earth or the handsomest guy in the world, but others may not see this. If the soul isn't there the beauty doesn't show! It's the soul that counts! Good luck Marcy
What should you do if your boyfriend looks at other girls all the time?
Men are very visual, they love beauty and especially beautiful women. Even though you may be the love of his life what is wrong with appreciating beauty. Very few women look the same and myself find it iteresting how every women is different. ITS JUST PEOPLE WATCHING. Look at other boys all the time ;)
Best advice - DON'T. Relationships at work are very risky. Messing with a relationship is even more risky. Let things play out for a while and see what she ends up doing with him. Just be friends, if she feels anything for you she'll let you know.
Should you tell a girl how you feel if she has a boyfriend?
yes,I think you should because if she breaks up with him you will be a number one pick. If she knows you like her then she may want to go out with you if she has broken up with her old boyfriend.
No, you should respect the fact that she has a boy friend and is taken. Flirting with a taken girl is simply wrong and could get you in trouble maybe even hurt.
